When she was small (1 yr) we moved her cot to her own bedroom, and after 2 weeks of no sleep we moved her back to our room. At 18 months I took her cot out and moved her bed to our room, for about 2 months she slept on her own the whole night. And now she's sleeping wiht us again! I did put her back every time she woke up for the first few nights, but got tired myself and let her sleep with us (I know it's my fault) but what do I do now?? She does have naps (with me) in the afternoons for about 2 hours....Any help or advice will be appreciated. PS: Her dad does not see why I worry about this. But I would like to get pregnant in the next few months, and do not want 2 babies and a hubby in my bed...
2007-03-30 20:49:52 · 9 answers · asked by Santie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
In many cultures, the family bed is part of life. My kids (10 and 6) still sleep with us sometimes. The answer for us was: get a bigger bed! We've actually got two beds in one room right now, and if we want to fool around, we go to the spare bedroom. It works for us, and some of the other families I know.
This going to sleep at 11 p.m. is no good, though. Kids need a decent amount of sleep in order to grow strong and healthy. Make sure both of you nap earlier in the day (around 1 p.m.) and also get lots of exercise in the morning, and as soon as nap time is over. And get up at the same time every morning.
If you want to reclaim your bed, you are just going to have to bite the bullet and let her cry it out. They say it takes a week. OTOH, there's nothing wrong with letting her stay until she's ready to go. As long as there's enough room in the bed, and you and your husband have someplace else for more adult activities.
Good luck!
2007-03-30 21:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even let her take naps with you! You really have to put your tiredness aside and be diligent in getting her to sleep in her own room. Most children go through this. Have a nightlight in the room and keep taking her back to her bed. She will finally get the idea that she is to sleep there and you will have broken the pattern that has been set up. My children never slept in my bed for this very reason.
Good luck!
2007-03-30 21:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her to sleep on her own you have to put her in her own room and keep her in there. I know it's easier said than done. And you probably already know that's what everyone is gonna say. But, that's the only way that I can see her sleeping in her own room. Maybe, start out laying with her until she goes to sleep. Keep in mind that the advice I just gave you is coming from me (a single female with no kids). lol Good luck! Take care!
2007-03-30 21:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try having nap time at 11am-1pm, have heaps of energy sapping excitment in the arvo bath and feed her put her in her own room. let her stay there do not go and get her out, you must stay strong and not give in until she stays in her own bed, also tell her what a big girl she is if need be get her a big dolly friend (about the same size as her) and a small night light if she is not shearing then she may just play heself to sleep.
good luck
2007-03-30 20:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Shaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my son. he will be 4 in may. first i wouldn't let her take naps with you, that's telling her its OK to sleep in mommies bed. she needs to realize that her bed is for her to sleep, mom/dad bed is for them to sleep. i put a baby gate up in his doorway at night time( it wasn't as cruel as closing the door) i allowed him to take either a toy or a book to bed, made sure he had a night light on. after about 2 weeks of being firm and consistent he slept all night. now i have another child and of course it has disrupted his night time routine. i got real frustrated because i wasn't getting any sleep and had work the next morning, but if you stick to your guns eventually the outcome is better for your daughter and you and your husband. good luck....
2007-03-31 06:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by lumpkinstonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"NOT A GOOD THING MOMMY"
I am a mother and nurse and you have to keep your child secure,
it's not a bad thing for her to want to feel secure ,just reassure her by you and hubby putting her in a big girls bed and stay with her till she falls a sleep and if she wakes up you or hubby take her back to her bed and stay silent and use very little words,(tell her to go to sleep and reassure her that she is a big girl and big girls sleep in there own bed )just repeat,this method until till she feels like a big girl and she can go to her bed by her self.slow transition it takes a lot of patients and few words and it will take alot out of you but it will be all worth it in a week or Two ,the next thing you will know when its bed time she will tell you and hubby i can do it myself and be live me it will shock you both that she is a big girl and she feels like one too ,be positive and calm and use soft voices and very few words,
2007-03-31 01:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by char 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By giving your child very inconsistant messages about sleeping and where to sleep, you have created a situation where she is very confused about the whole thing. She doesn't know what to expect; sometimes she sleeps with you, sometimes she doesn't, sometimes you expect her to sleep alone but then you change the rules and don't expect her to. If you really want her to sleep in her own room, you have to understand that she's really going to resist that and you must be very patient and understanding since you've created her confusion. She's also learnt that at times you want her to sleep alone, but if she makes enough of a fuss, you give in - so the first time you really mean it, she's going to use what she's learnt which is that if she makes a big enough fuss for long enough, you'll cave.
It's unfair to be inconsistant with children; they don't know what to expect in return for their behaviour. If your daughter knew without doubt that every time she woke up at night, you would make sure she went back to sleep in her own bed, eventually she wouldn't bother waking up at all. The solution is simple but will be very difficult now. Calmly, kindly, and very patiently put her back in her own bed every time she gets up at night. Every single time, and this could take months until her experiences accumulate enough to convince her that your methods have changed.
For the best solution, get a manual of child sleeping issues. A good one is called Good night, sleep tight, by Kim West. People give me down-thumbs for referring you to a book but you asked for the best solution and that book is absolutely it. Good luck.
2007-03-30 23:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you do not already use the crib for naps i ought firstly that. once the crib is tender for naps you are able to initiate to apply it at nighttime besides. My son had no mission switching over in any respect. He sleeps both places merely nice even nonetheless became nevertheless waking usually so I chosen to flow him decrease back to our mattress. I merely moved him back to a %. and play in our room at 12 months and nevertheless no themes even this previous due, he has been there for more advantageous or less a month now.
2016-12-03 01:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change her sleep hours in day time get he sleep earlier just around noon at that too for a couple of hours
2007-03-30 20:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋