Do you believe your kid should move out at 18?

Question

Move out at 18 or untill they're married?

i meant to say kicked out not moved out. seems to have a different connotation.

Answer 1

I dont believe a child should be forced out or kicked out JUST because they are 18. Who made that stupid rule anyway?! I think they should be working or going to school if they are living at home at 18 and beyond not just sitting around doing nothing.

I do think a child should be trying to move out by at least age 25. If you are home past that long something is wrong. They might be afraid to leave the nest and make it on their own. If you are comfortable with your child being at home at 18 it shoudn't be a problem. Just make sure they are being productive and making plans for the future.

Answer 2

NO.
I'm 18, and in two months, I'm going to be 19.
I attend college five minutes away from my household, and although I really wish I lived in a dorm (sort of pointless), I'm really glad I'm home at the end of the day.
Being 18 by law means you're an adult (almost, you're legal but you can't do everything yet, that's 21). But, your personality isn't fully developed as well as a lot of other aspects.
Usually when a child is 18 they begin to attend college. College is usually far off, and with brand new people. The child gets influenced (most of the time) and begin to change their personality to fit in with the new people. This child loses their self and who they are. I'm afraid 18 is too young to kick a child out of the house, unless that child is really responsible and independent. Otherwise, I feel that a parent should really hold onto a child until that child, and the parent, feel that they're ready to move out and into the world.

Answer 3

Either married or they have a job that they make more money then you or can easily support themselves.

You could charge rent to help them out. Basically goto craig's list and look up apts. Get the average price and charge half and half again. So $600 average. Charge $150. Now if your not greedy and want to teach them a even bigger lesson. Keep that money that they gave you in an account. Then when they do move out say since you've been paying for rent in this house the amount has come to....$blah.

This will teach them that they are throwing away when renting an apt and that it is best to buy a house because you own it. SO SAVE YOUR MONEY AND DON"T BLOW IT. Then tell them that the only way they can get the money they gave you is when they buy a house.

Answer 4

Do I believe that kids, should move out when they turn 18? I don't believe that when your Son/Daughter, turns 18 they should move out, because they are my flesh and Blood and we, as Parents were the ones to bring them into the World, so, we are here for them no matter what. My kids all lived in our house, until they one by one, got married, at the age of 24,and they all worked and help us out with the household budget, not because we asked them to, but because they felt that it was their duty as a family.

Answer 5

Far more often than not parents who kick their kids out didn't develop a good relationship with their kid and didn't do a very good job of parenting. In which case, it's probably best for the kid to leave.

Answer 6

I moved out at 15.

My kids all moved out between 17 and 19, with my blessings. The 17 year old got a job on a ranch and moved out to work there, and continued to go to school, too.

My daughter moved to NYC at 19 to experience life in the big city. She later moved back home for awhile, then got a job and shared an apt. with one of her brothers. She is 24 now, a mother, and soon to graduate with her first college degree.

One I had to ask to move out at age 19 because of his behaviour, one of the hardest thing a parent ever has to do, but it had to be done. At age 28, he is thriving and we are very close.

Similar stories with my other kids. I raised them to be free spirits, to be independent, to make their own decisions, and to get out and try their wings. And they all did!

If a family prefers the children stay til marriage, and all are agreeable, then I see nothing wrong with that. That just wasn't part of our family dynamics.

EDIT: Part of our situation was that I was a disabled single parent, and when my kids were 17, 20, 21 still at home (two back at home) I lost my house and had to move into a small travel trailer. Two of the kids moved in to an apt together and one stayed with me in the RV. Under different circumstances .... who know.

Answer 7

When ever they are ready....
I moved out at 25 after university, saved some money, got a car..my parents are very nice and gave me lots of freedom...so never felt the need to leave.

Answer 8

I say let them stay as long as they want if you're cool with that. BUT at 18 they MUST start to pay their own way and do their fair share of work around the house.

Answer 9

I think kids should stay with their parents, start working when they are supposed to and foot the housebills from that day on.

Answer 10

there's no rules, if you got a castle and lands, there's no reason not to have a family estate. People can come and go. I don't believe anyone has to do anything.