We've been cool for three years and this whole time he's liked me (i had no clue) and recently i just realized that even if he is a dork, i really love him. We're both mutual yet decided that right now in our lives, we can't risk it. We'll take our time and not rush - it'll happen when it happens.
So now we're trying to be normal again but WE CAN'T!!! I MISS IT! I know me and him are on the same page - we're both selfish: we want to be best friends again but at the same time we secretly both want each other to still keep those feelings in tact.
I'm scared because i'm afraid we'll never have that same friendship again and also if we did, he might not look at me the same way. After going through soo many stupid guys, the one i was looking for the whole time, was the one right next to me
i don't think i'm ever gonna get over him and i need help!
we'll we ever be normal again? I just want us to have that close friendship again and maybe some potential for being together later..
2007-03-30 18:58:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK. I'm 33 years old, so my perspective is really different from yours.
You've asked for advice on the Internet, so here it is:
I say go for it. The full nine yard. Be intimate. Make love.
Worse case scenario: You guys feel so awkward you can`t possibly live with seeing each other and your friendship ends there.
Best case scenario: You find out you're really compatible and you were soul mates all along, you marry and grow old together
Most likely: Something in between.
In any case, why not take the chance? You have something you want to live, might as well live it. I found it's better in life to experience things than not to.
Best of luck to you.
2007-03-30 19:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to wonder about that comment re "dork."
Picture this... if HE said to YOU...
"I know we said that RIght Now is not the best time for you n me together, and I'm sorry if my timing is wrong, but MY LIFE will NEVER be the same without YOU in it EVERY DAY. I can't even THINK about what it would be like to not know about all the little things and Big things that you feel, and about what happens to you. How can I tell you how important you are to me, and make this easier for both of us?"
You'd be SO glad to HEAR that, RIGHT??
What if you heard that, but you had found that you liked somebody else now, maybe because you could start over fresh, leaving your past history of mistakes behind, like maybe the one who made you feel like a "dork?"
Feelings, once hurt, are unforgiving.. The mind may understand, and in understanding, perhaps forgive, but THE HEART NEVER FORGETS... (kind of like An Elephant Never Forgets...)
Hope this isn't what's happened with you. However, to address one additional concern...
A fire is easier to KEEP going then to RELIGHT it. Once it burns out, it will NEVER be the same ( and I sense that you already KNOW this.)
Hell, all the good mistakes that we remember forever, are the ones we made IN PASSION.
Nobody looks back on their life, and says "Well if I could do it all over again, I would exercise more prudence... yes, I feel deep remorse for ALL the times I LED with my HEART."
Hell, I hear a great country song in there somewhere - Tim McGraw could do it.
"If I could do better - right from the start"
"I'd never regret that - I led with my heart"
"I'd always remember - when life hits you hard"
"True Love always takes - the offensive..."
"I led with my heart - Heaven sent you"
"I led with my heart - I met you and "
"I led with my heart - it was all I could do"
HELL yeah, I claim copyright ownership of above material, and I'm gonna get started "finishing it." - words by Chris Barrett 2007.
2007-03-31 02:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by chris.barrett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I know what you mean. I myself have done that mistake many times. It is hard to not want to get into the serious part of your close friendship with your best friend. I am male and it has happened to me many times I regret losing they're friendship. It is never the same your more distant than anything and sometimes you do wish things never happened. I also miss talking to them but things are just not the same anymore. All I could say is just reading this and you cn decide what you want to do.
2007-03-31 02:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by want_to_marry_overseas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you: go for it now. Time is fleeting and true love can be fragile. You may very well wait too long and miss that window of opportunity...or worse yet, someone else will come into his life that won't wait but snap him up. Come out of that comfort zone, it may very well be the best thing you ever did. If not, you'll know sooner rather than later, and can move on if you need to...
2007-03-31 02:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by blueyedgirl623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up if you still want to try...Who knows this could be the best thing that happenes to either of you...It is never to late to fight for what you want. Destiny decides who comes into our lives...but it is the heart that decides who stays! It sounds to me like things could not be set up more perfectly...you both just gotta take the risk...Don't miss out on your happy ending, tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him you don't wanna lose him. Girl you gotta go for it or you will regret it forever.
2007-03-31 02:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by 1.2..3...Boo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships can be weird for a while if a realtionship doesn't work out. But in my case, it usually levels out after a while.
2007-03-31 02:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over him. Both of you need to mature before you attempt this relationship again. Selfishness is immature.
2007-03-31 02:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell him that. And that whole thing sounds like a movie. but seriously you should tell him that and see what happens.
2007-03-31 02:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by art 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋