I'm a 20 year old guy who has never kissed a girl or had a serious relationship. I'm in college now and I feel the pressure of finding a girlfriend. I have some close friends that are girls but I believe that they don't see me more than a friend. I've tried asking five or six girls out over the course of my teenage years, but each one just used me for my intellect. I'm serious about my studies, but I want a girlfriend. What should I do? Am I a "lost cause"?
2007-03-30 16:09:47 · 18 answers · asked by Ray 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry about it!! I asked a question similar to this a few days ago, since Im an 18 year old girl and have never been kissed....Here is what the best answerer told me:
I don't think it is weird at all, I think it is wonderful :) :) I don't believe in people who kiss just anyone, or kiss people who don't mean anything to them. A kiss is a shared sensation from one soul to another, it should mean a great deal to a person. It should make them feel alive, and loved, and make them feel the love shared between the two souls. It is just such a wonderful and powerful thing, to know another soul feels deeply in their heart for you, and is showing you just that. The fact that you didn't kiss just anyone, is amazing to me, considering today's society. If I were you, I would feel enormously happy and proud of the fact, that my first kiss has yet to come, and when it does, it will be a wonderfully loving experience with someone whom I greatly care about. I think you will look back on it, and be so very happy that you have not taken it for granted :) :) :) I certainly admire you :) :)
So...It sure made me feel much better about myself...
When your first kiss is meant to happen, it will....just let nature take it's course...
2007-03-30 16:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by pandabear322 2 · 19⤊ 1⤋
Never Kissed A Girl
2016-10-02 10:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I'm a 20 year old guy who has never kissed a girl or had a serious relationship. I'm in college now and I feel the pressure of finding a girlfriend. I have some close friends that are girls but I believe that they don't see me more than a friend. I've tried asking five or six...
2015-08-10 20:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all about confidence, and getting your self out there. Does any of your friends girlfriends have friends? They can introduce you to? Kissing is no big deal comes very naturally. Dont stress out of you haven't kissed a girl yet or havent had a serious girlfriend or whatever... It sounds cheesy but your time will come and when it does everything will fall into place. One thing to remember is that girls can sense things like when your getting nervous. So lighten up, and let go! Everyone has their "big break" at some point, sometimes its just takes a little longer than most. So cheer up, and don't let this get you down. After all, you just may have not met that person thats supposed to give you your first kiss.
2007-03-30 16:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by jennsch_2000 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
DON'T FEEL PRESSURED! You have time, man! If you are serious about your studies, just be concerned with that. Girls aren't everything. Plus, you don't have to rush when you're looking for the right one. You don't want to waste a kiss on a girl who you aren't going to fall in love with. Just wait for the right one to come along. It's okay to never have kissed a girl. I'm going to be 16 this year, and I've never even had a date. That seems unusual to other people at my school, but not to me, because my grades matter to me more than guys right now, because I'm planning on having a great life after school. And I don't want to just get a date, I'm waiting for the right one. And that's what you should do.
2007-03-30 16:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
You're not a "lost cause". I am about to turn 20, and I am the same exact way.
I am very career driven, and in college full time. I always feel pressured too, but I'm just not very interested. I like the thought of having a boyfriend, but not actually dating one. If that makes sense!
Don't worry, you'll find a girl, if you are really interested in dating one. Otherwise, theres nothing wrong, people like us just have different priorities than others.
Good Luck!
2007-03-30 16:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by Dana 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. Even if its not religeous, being patient for the right guy is always wise. I am waiting till I get married for sex but that's my choice. Don't make out to do it either. It is so not worth it nor all its cracked up to be. Seriously kiss when you have the man behind the lips that is worth it.
2016-03-15 00:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a lost cause. You just need to know what you're looking for. When you go out with friends consider working up your charm on girls that walk by. Make sure you're always respectful and try being funny. Girls love humor
2007-03-30 16:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by *Benny B* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it man, Worry when your 40 and haven't kiss someone, for now I would suggest flirting more, let women know you want something serious, your still young and there's a lot of guys that have the same problem, just keep it cool it will ome out someday.
2007-03-30 16:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by Vicz101 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If You can this Far so don't settle!! Stay Focused on your studies, and let things unfold naturally I am pretty sure that you have a lot going for you, and something to offer that special someone, so do not go out there chasing your fate let it come to you!! I think that it's actually a good thing that your saving that special first kiss for someone worthy!! Kudos to you!!
2007-03-30 16:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by Breann 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋