ladies, what's the most comfortable way to approach you in a bar?

Question

Do you prefer a man to buy you a drink, just come over and start talking, or what? And how do you let a man know that you wouldn't mind him approaching you?

Answer 1

i prefer someone just to come up and talk to me. i suggest that you do not buy women drinks because it doesn't mean what it used to. these days most women will let you buy them a drink and then walk away. either that or they will seek a guy out to talk to just to get that drink and then walk away. the ones that are genuinely interested and worth the time will not require a drink. now, if you have been talking to her for more than an hour, buy her a drink. i always let a guy know that i was interested by smiling at him. they will not smile at you if they are not interested. girls these days will let you know within the first 30 seconds of seeing you if they want tot talk to you or not. shallow, yes, but that's the way it is nowadays.

Answer 2

I myself, dont really do the bar scene anymore, but if I were there by chance, I would love for the guy to feel confident enough to come up and start a conversation. I don't think the drink thing is a good start, cause then if you do come over, it would put me on edge, I would feel like I had to talk to you, to be nice, but then you wouldn't know if I was because I was interested, or if I thought I might be interested, but now your talking to me, and I've realized your not my type, and I feel like I have to figure out a way to stop talking to you, but if you do the talk thing first and things are going well, she's smiling, and looking your way, then you can just buy the drink, ask what it is, if your not sure, or see if the bartender knows. Basically, guys have to just approach us women, more then they do. Just start talking. Find out if the girl is seeing someone, if she is, you should walk away. Nothing good will come of that.

Answer 3

Keep in mind every women is different.
Some women have the " I am all that" response, so no matter what it is wrong unless you flash some bling and cash to them. (they are really the easy women)
Some women like a man who takes control and makes cheesy statements but they normally look like hookers and skanks, so leave them alone.
Some women want you to offer them a drink but not walking up and saying it. Do it from across the room. Have the waitress bring what ever the last drink she had wa over to her OR order something that does not have sex in the name. She will want to know who bought it for and if she thinks you are hot, she will come over and thank you for it. (This is ME) I also make eye contact with a guy that I want to come over and maybe smile at him. If he does not catch the hint the first time, I may pass near him and if it is crowded bump into him and say excuse me. If that does not work, I am moving on to the next great smelling, well dressed guy in the room.
OH! Wear great colonge (ROmance by Raplh lauren is great!!!!!) A great smelling guy makes me turn into the girl a the top.

Answer 4

Eye contact - If she is looking and smiling or looking and running her fingers around the rim of her glass, or copying your body language that is the invitation. send a drink over, or just walk over and start talking. If you are sincere and nice most women will find this enough. Some women are not in the bar to be approached - they may be in relationships already or are just out with the girls or in a bad mood. Don't take it too seriously if they don't respond. The right one will eventually - k-

Answer 5

First of all, you'll know when we're interested if we keep glancing your way and smiling. When you do approach a woman, keep it light! Introduce yourself, smile, be genuine, get to know her, be non-threatening (i.e. don't act like you're on a mission to get a phone number or to get laid). If the conversation is good/easy and she's still smiling after a few minutes, then offer to buy the drink (if it's appropriate) and chat some more. If by the time one of you have to leave and you're still having a good time, just drop the line, "I'd like to see you again sometime" and then let her make the choice. Good luck!

Answer 6

I would prefer a man approaching me and just start talking first then buy me a drink. You will know if a girl is interested or not because she will just open up to you and be really happy & smiley!

Answer 7

Possibly one really good way that a woman would want you to approach her, is when you and her have been making eye contact for at least 5 - 10 minutes. That way you know she's noticed you, and at least somewhat interested. Then approach her and introduce yourself, and offer to buy her a drink.

Answer 8

I would ask to buy her a drink first.

If she refuses, then ask her if she's with anyone? If she says yes, she's probably not interested. If she just doesn't need a drink, but she is still interested, she'll try to start a conversation to let you know.

This way it it's not uncomfortable, and it doesn't waste either of your time.

Answer 9

I prefer a little small talk then suggest a drink or just buy it and give it to me and then because you thought enough to just buy it without me asking I will feel more comfortable with talking more and perhaps...

Answer 10

well, i would prefer the man to buy me a drink and deliver it himself...but, to buy me one that i have been drinking, not something that HE prefers! he should be able to introduce himself.
usually if a woman doesn't mind a man approaching her, she will have at least acknowledged your presence and maybe smiled or lingered with her looking...