My girl friend wants to take a break?

Question

My girlfriend recently out of no where wants to take a break and wont talk to me or respond to my messages. Im a freshman at a local college and shes a senior in high school. We've been going together for over a year and half, and i think one of the problems is she has no sex drive towards me but i think its from the birth control shes on. It seems like shes having a midlife crisis in highschool. Is there a chance she'll come back? And what should i do while on the break?

Oh when she told me she wanted a break i got mad and just broke up with her, but i only did it becuase she couldnt even say she loved me

She wont be screwing around at all she has another week on birth control which has killed her sex drive

She wont be screwing around at all she has another week on birth control which has killed her sex drive

alright i called and talked to her for a bit and got her to come over to help me with my research paper as friends, does this add a twist?

Answer 1

Leave her alone. Give her the time and space she has asked for. You were smothering her and she needs to breath. Leave it up to her whether or not she wants to hook up with you later on down the road. She might have a new BF.

Answer 2

If you do get a hold of her clarify with her what she wants from this break so that if you ever get back together she cannot be mad at you if you hooked up with someone else while on the break.
If you really like her and want to be with her you wont do anything with anyone else.
She probably wants to be on the break because she isnt happy with the way things are going or not going btw you. Maybe she feels like you dont respect her or taker her fro granted, or dont give her the attention she wants, maybe she is having personal family problems.
Hvae you noticed if lately she is behaving differently?
You should really think about everything before you either move on or wait a little bit for her...good luck

Answer 3

I just recently decided to take a break with my boyfriend this past week. It's hard, confusing, mind-boggling, and drives you INSANE. I've been through alot of breaks I can't even tell you how many we've taken. We've been together for almost 2 years. I sadly have not responded to my boyfriend's messages nor have talked to him during breaks. Have you recently argued? Was anything said that might of came out wrong or hurtful? I know you said she wanted a break out of the blue but it could be something from the past that is bothering her. I definently can relate to that! Whatever you do, leave her a message every couple of days or so, calmly asking whats wrong, can I help with anything, and of course I love you wouldn't hurt. Even though I say to my boyfriend I don't want to talk to him or see him, I feel relieved when I see I have a missed call on my cell and it was him. Yeah, I know girls are complicated, but if you love her, you'll let her have her time. Rememeber the once in while check-up message to see how shes doing. Hang in there. Also, to show you just how much I can relate to this is that I am a senior in high school and yeah the stress level is definetly at its max for me as you would know. My boyfriend is out of high school too. Whatever you do, don't go out and get revenge on your girl just for wanting to take a break. Chill with your friends, catch a flick, keep active and try not to think about it too much. Belive me, I know ho you feel. Good luck =]

Answer 4

I can understand how bad you are feeling about her wanting a break. It sounds as if she wanted a break from the pressures of having sex with you and having to prove to you that she enjoyed it. She most likely is struggling with this and is frustrated with how to handle this problem. Although I have never heard of birth control being a cause to have a girl lose her desire for sex. Appears you both have to come to a point where you both can feel comfortable discussing the real issues here. Call her, let her know that you are willing to give her space but that if she is willing to talk later for her to call you. Then prove to her that she can trust you opening up herself to you about something that is obviously disturbing her. I do hope you both can work out your problems. Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

This relationship sounds like it is going south fast. It may just be that your girlfriend just wants to move on and it is a easy way to say...."lets take a break". Give her some space. She's only in High School and so much pressure. Tell her that you understand and that you are there for her if she needs you or if she needs to just talk. Don't pressure her you will only push her further away.

Answer 6

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A BREAK!!! your together or your not , any thing you do on the break will be held against you and all that she's going to do( and she already has someone in mind) will be ok cause you were on a break!! if she did love you she'd be willing to rough it out. the birth control didn't kill her sex drive they just say that. you killed her sex drive. get her and yourself into counseling, good luck cause it sounds like she's already moved on

Answer 7

Live. I suspect much more is going on beyond the birth control excuse. Not midlife, try young and growing up. Free yourself and maybe you will meet again somewhere down the road.

Answer 8

Since it's her senior year in high school she could be under a lot of stress. Break time could turn into me-time. She's probably not answering your messages because that's part of a "break".

Answer 9

wow i know down deep how you feel and i think you know what is really going on it going to be a really hard time for you dont get down move on with your life be a good person if shes the one she will be back trust me the more you push the more she will pull away some times it really is a blessing you just cant see it right now

Answer 10

thats why you have more then one girlfriend so when one wants to take a break you still got 4 or 5 more for back up. While you on the break you should go find yourself a couple more ladies.