I am very confused right now. I think I am in love with this girl, but she, I think, has a mental problem. One day she might say goodbye, the next, she couldn't live without me. She scared the Jesus out of me last night, when I tried to break up the relationship. She locked her Mercedes so that I couldn't get out, and drove like she's trying to kill us both. I finally calmed her down...But needless to say, I was sweating like a pig, because I get motion sickness easily and don't like being inside small, enclosed spaces. It's only been a day, but I miss her already. I am trying not to answer her calls. But I don't know how long before I submit to her tears. I don't know what to do !
2007-03-30 15:23:15 · 16 answers · asked by dn.dan_6575 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you stay with her you are asking for a future filled with trouble. Love is between the ears. Lust is between the legs. If some crazy girls kills you it won't matter what your reasons for being with her were, you will be just as dead. She will use this behavior to control you. Run now.
2007-03-30 15:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dn.dan_6575, first of all you need to consider whether you want to be in a relationship with someone with a mental problem. Since this is Yahoo Answers I will be objective and say that you don't know the consequences of her mental instabiliy (such as incidents like the one you spoke of or worse) and you should consider that alot with thinking about the relationship as a whole.
More importantly you said that you tried to breakup the relationship and that set off the most recent incident. If you are trying to exit the relationship and something like this occurs you probably don't need to be in the relationship. Also a partner that will do you physical harm (like drive a car recklessly) is no partner you want. Take some time and think of what intially made you want to break off the relationship....you answers lie there.
Getting over her will natually take time. Don't thnk that you are necessarily in love with her because miss her. It takes time to get over anyone you like or spend alot of time with.
2007-03-30 22:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Relationship Advisor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a very unhealthy relationship - try to look at the long term - things that usually start out like that only end up detetiorating. That also sounded pretty unsafe, as to how she acts when she is upset. It might be easier to break it off now, instead of trying to do so later.
2007-03-30 22:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is - back away - if she can not make her mind up do you really want to be with someone that unpredictable? You say you think you are in love with this girl - if you were in love you would know - there would be no thinking about it.
Can I suggest you take some time out just for yourself and discover your own identity before committing to someone elses problems? Loving someone and being in love are two totally different things. For example - I love banana cake - I love the taste, texture and smell of it. There is nothing in the world like a freshly baked one - BUT I am in love with my husband - I would lay down my life for him - he is my best mate - I would not do that for a cake. - All the best.
2007-03-30 22:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by shirley c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds a lot like me when I'm mad, but I don't have a mental problem. I think she might really like you though. If she didn't have strong feelings for you then she wouldn't be acting that way.
You said yourself that you think you might be in love with her...so I don't think it's just the sex. Unless all you guys do is have sex..then..maybe. But if you like doing other things other than sex...then no I don't think it's sex that's making you hold on. Good luck!
2007-03-30 22:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT give in to her.... tell her that you are not ready for a relationship and you will get over her and find a nice girl.... but make sure when you break up with her that she is CALM and many many friends and family members are around so she wont act like a potential lunitic... or you could have witnesses... lol
2007-03-30 22:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by vikingcheer123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she does sound like she has some issues. Love is a hard thing to "explain" because its a feeling, that's why people say "you will just know". Sounds like the best thing for you to do is cut all ties with her and let her sort her self out. Be careful that you don't get caught up in trying to save her. Have you dated girls like her before? Maybe you have your own issues to deal with. Some say that we seek out people with problems so we don't have to deal with our own.
2007-03-30 22:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by foreveryoung219@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this roller coaster emotion ride is either love or just sex. She needs some very serious help . That sounded suicidal to me and you were going with her. This can only get worse, you aren't meant for each other when you just bring the worse out of each other. Sorry.
2007-03-30 22:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound like a health relationship. Have you talked to her about her behavior? I would tell her things need to change she needs to be a more consistent person and maybe seek some professional help.
I think it would do you good to take a break from her.
2007-03-30 22:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is not a feeling, love is a decision.
Infatuation is a feeling, passion is a feeling, lust is a feeling, love is a decision.
Love is when you decide to put your selfishness aside and make the best decision considering your woman's needs/wants/desires.
Love isn't just enjoying the company of someone, that's just companionship or friendship. Love is making her the focus of your existence.
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2007-03-30 22:31:46 · answer #10 · answered by s2scrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋