My bf and I started off as best friends. he has a lot going on in his life. We did not intend to get into a serious relationship, but it just happened. Lately he's been acting a little strange. However, he has made comments such as, oh when the weather gets better we'll go whitewater rafting, or lets go here on vacation this summer and really sweet things. The other night I questioned his strange behavior and we didn't get into a fight but a long discussion which led to us breaking up and him saying he wasn't "in love with me anymore." But that he does love me. That right now, he needs his space. At first we were gonna stop talking altogether. I told him I'd call him in a month, and then he said call me in a couple weeks. He's had several very bad relationships in the past few years, one with a married woman who toyed with him about leaving her husband for two whole years. I told him he was afraid of commitment and he said I was probably right. So with that said... What do I do, fight?
2007-03-30 15:12:58 · 9 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fight for what? A man who doesn't love you? Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you? Dump him and move on. Get some self respect. He is just not into you. Move on girl, it's over.
2007-03-30 15:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is that a lack of commitment is a hard habit to break. If you fight, you could be spending a lot of time and enduring a lot of emotional suffering in what will eventually be a losing battle (when things start off bad, they usually only slide towards getting worse). In the mean time, there is a lot of life and living you're going to be missing out on because you're boyfriend is too busy licking his wounds than being a man and meeting you half way. If you fight, be prepared to fight for a long time with mediocre results and possibly lose him in the end anyways.
I'm watching a young woman going through the same thing right now, and all I can think about is what a waste of time it is. She can do better, and I'll bet you can as well. But because she's "in love" (or at least thinks she is), she won't give him up, no matter how much it hurts. It's a shame.
Do as you will, but he probably doesn't deserve you anyways.
2007-03-30 22:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what that means, "fight for him." It seems like he's asking for time out of the relationship. He said he isn't in love with you anymore. Take him at his word. Leave him alone. He said to call him in a couple of weeks ... no, let HIM call YOU in a couple of weeks, when he's ready. In the meantime, go on with your life; don't sit around waiting for that call. There is nothing you can do to "fight" for him - he's called it off, stepped out of the relationship, at least for the time being. Let him be the one to ask to re-enter YOUR life when he decides he might be ready to resume his contribution to a relationship, and then you decide if he's worth it!
2007-03-30 22:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a lot going on his life, I'd give him some space. Don't look desperate, whatever you do. If you really are his friend too, you should understand his confusion and be able to help him deal with it. Do not worry about other women entering the picture, if he loves you, noone can take your place. Just be truly confident in yourself, be his friend and things will work out.
2007-03-30 22:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some space like he asked. i would wait about three weeks and then call him. if he acts like he wants to see you then meet with him but keep it light, no serious talks just enjoy each others company. maybe you will hear from him soon. i personally could not respect a man who dated a married woman for two years, obviously relationships are not a priority.
2007-03-30 22:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep commuincation open, he may just need the space to realize that he is afraid of commitment, which some men are. but dont give up, it sounds like there is something to fight for.
2007-03-30 22:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by murockprincess03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him then yes, fight for him, show him that you really want to be with him. what he needs right now is reassurance that he'll have someone who will be there for him for whatever reason. just make sure that you can keep your promise and that you will always fight for him and that you'll do anything for him. so fight with all you might.
2007-03-30 22:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by TheDrummer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go...some times you have to be a gambler...for better or worst.
2007-03-30 22:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by pelister56 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ***** he should fight for you stupid *****
2007-03-31 00:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by RAYMOND J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋