After going through all the trials and tribulations of raising three kids, the toughest thing for me was/is letting them go. What about you?
2007-03-30 15:12:24 · 16 answers · asked by bonobo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think the toughest part is the worrying.
Worrying about every choice you make, is it the right one or the wrong one?
Worrying about letting them walk home from school for the first time, going to a sleep over for the first time, going on their first date, etc.
If you think about it, you worry about them from the moment you find out that you are pregnant. And the worrying doesn't stop until you draw your last breath.
No wonder people say the bond between a parent and their child is like no other. You don't even worry about your ownself as much as you do your children.
But, I wouldn't trade it for the world.
2007-03-30 15:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by lorelei.siren 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Letting go when you're not around. That's the hardest thing. I'm not a control freak, but we are stricter than the average parents about the types of things he eats, what he watches on TV, etc....
It was really hard at first just trying to relax when someone else would watch him. Most everyone is respectful to our wishes but there were definitely times when things happened that we weren't happy with (like a babysitter feeding him burger king at 8 months old!)
It took time but we gradually learned when to pick our battles and when to let it go. (The burger king was a battle we picked...ha ha ha)
That's the toughest part I think....letting go.
2007-03-31 00:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still in the "child" stage (7 years and 6 years) so for now, the tough part for me is answering one sentence with 8 why's!!
My mom and dad, still miss me (I'm 38 years old) and they still, have a hard time that I am not home anymore. How can a parent ever let go?
I don't think the feeling is wrong...
2007-04-02 15:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine are 9,6 and 1 and so far I have to say
I think I find hard is teaching them and helping them understand values and morals (for our family). I hear so often "But____gets to, or why can't I everyone else is, and Why do you always have to be the mom that says NO, etc. It is hard to teach my kids that other families have different rules and expectations.
On the emotional side it hurts like **** to see my child in pain physically or emotionally! I hate when they hurt and there is nothing I can do to make it better.
2007-03-30 22:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Letting them go is very difficult. What I find even more difficult is seeing them go through the consequences of bad decisions. I know that is a part of the process of life and learning, but it is hard for a mother to be unable to protect her children from the harsh realities of life. Mothers can't make their adult childrens decisions for them, as much as we would like to, they won't allow it.
2007-03-30 22:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Country girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree, letting go is the toughest. my son is 4 and he still needs me alot, but not in the same way as he needed me 4 or even 2 years ago. he no longer needs me to change his diaper, he dresses himself. i don't even need to pick out his clothes for him. he knows where to go to grab pants and shirts and underclothes.
a few days ago, he refused to pee until i left the bathroom and then when he was done he called me back in so i can give him his bath. so depressing he is ashamed of me watching him go pee. in 3 more years he probably won't even let me give him a bath.
2007-03-30 22:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I never did let them go, I just hang in the background.
Many will look down on this , but, read ALL!!!!
May step-daughter had sex with a boy at school @ 12. Now, I not judge. But, a teacher did. One day me and her were on the porch talking and she bring this up saying she know it was wrong. I had to bite my lip from laughing. Then I had to explain to her about the natural desires of people and how hard it is to control. This was not easy.
Now, to finish, the Teacher her Daughter was talking to her boss and my wife at her work and I just walk around. They got on the subject of sex and the girl say; "Sex feels so good" Well, that all I needed to hear and went outside. The teacher that looked down on my step-daughter was such a dweeb she would not talk to her daughter about sex and not know her daughter was sexually active!!! (Her daughter just never get caught). Her daughter had to talk to other women to learn!
2007-03-30 22:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
so far it's just trying to be consistent that is the hardest. you want to tell them no all the time and stick with it, but when you are tired or having a million things going it's hard to always be consistent.
2007-03-30 22:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, not so much letting them go, because that was the right thing to do. But "seeing" them go, that was too hard.
2007-03-30 22:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the whinning...I have a 9 yr old daughter and a 13 month old son so i hear whinning and it drives me crazy
2007-03-30 22:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋