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Question

ALL MY FRiENDS ARE NOT ViRGiNS EXCEPT FOR LiKE 5 OF THEM. AND i THiNK i'VE FOUND THE ONE i WANT TO DO iT WiTH BUT THE PROBLEM iS....iM ONLY 13 AND i KNOW i SHOULDN'T AND i KNOW i DON'T WANT TO UNTiL iM MARRiED BUT i DON'T KNOW iF iM GOiNG TO BE ABLE TO CONTROL MY HORMONES CUZ MY BOYFRiEND HAS A "BiG BOOTY" AND MY HORMONES TELL ME i NEED TO SEE HiM NAKED. BUT i DON'T WANT TO i WANT TO GET THESE THOUGHTS OUT MY HEAD BUT i CAN'T!!! HOW CAN i STOP THiS?!?!?!

AND NO i DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX WiTH HiM JUST BECAUSE EVERYONE ELSE iS DOiNG iT. SO DON'T SAY ANYTHiNG LiKE THAT i COULD CARE LESS i WAS JUST ADDiNG THAT iN

Answer 1

Remember one important thing. You only have one virginity to give to that "special" someone. Once you give it, you can't give it again. Remember what you thought was important a month ago, six months ago, or even a year ago. They aren't so important now. The same will hold true to this event in your life. It's important now, but what about tomorrow?
If you have raging hormones, masterbate. Yes, women do it to. That will relieve you urges. Tell your boyfriend to do the same. If he wants you, he will wait. If not, then he's not the one anyway. Another thing to remember, is that you CAN get pregnant on your first time. You can also catch a disease that will stay with you for the rest of your life, such as herpes. There is no cure for herpes, and that would be a terrible thing to get at such a young age, something that you'd have to tell ALL of your future partners. There is a lot to consider, before you jump into bed with a guy and spread your legs. From what I've been told, the vast majority of women, DO NOT enjoy their first experience. There is definitely some pain involved.

Answer 2

Honestly, you're a teenager, and there really is no such thing as "stopping" hormones. But there is such a thing called controlling it. Don't end up making the mistake many young girls make and lose it to a guy that you're not sure you are going to know in the long run. Losing your virginity is a lot more important than you know, so it's best sometimes not to listen to your hormones and make some sense out of what you're thinking about doing. Definately don't have sex with him because most of your friends aren't virgins. They've probably made the mistake I was talking about a few sentences back. Think about the possibilities of what could happen if you do. Yeah, I know, it will feel good and yeah you won't think of it as a mistake. But I would suggest waiting when your intentions are not just to calm down raging hormones. Be smart about it. If you want to wait until you get married, wait. Do what your heart and mind tell you and not anything or anybody else.

Answer 3

You're 13 and you think you've got to "do it'? Just because some (or all) of your friends are doing it does NOT mean you have to. If they told you to jump off a 400 foot bridge because they were going to do it next week, would you do it today? I already know that your answer would be "no."

No matter what social pressures you are encountering, there is no reason you have to feel compelled to have sex at 13. Break up with your boyfriend. Or better yet, to see if he likes you or is just after your body to use you, tell him you don't even want to be near him and certainly not kiss him...see how long he hangs around...if he truly loved you, he would respect you enough to leave your body alone.

I'm also pretty sure he knows it's against the law for you to have sex...at your age it's called statutory rape. No matter whether you agree to it or not, your boyfriend would legally be committing a rape. Do yourself and him a favor....just say 'no.'

Why don't you study and make better grades? Also, what hobbies do you currently have? Get a life first, a career second, and third get a husband after you're old enough to stop being jail bait.

Promise me you won't agree to something you have doubts about. Respect yourself, and expect that everyone else can give you the same amount of respect...You deserve it. You are worth more than a one night stand.

Answer 4

It's a powerful force. If you're younger than 17 and haven't seen your doctor about STDs and birth control, sex wouldn't be wise for you no matter what your friends are doing. Sex before age 17 is probably sex before you're ready. But if you absolutely have to act on those screaming hormones, tell him at the beginning that you've got this one rule: You, girl, have to keep your jeans on. (not just panties, not a skirt, not thin bike pants. Nothing less than zipped up tight-fitting denim jeans, no way for him to get to the naked fun zone. He can touch the outside, but no slipping the hand in.) That way you could still see and do most of what you want to do and satisfy your hormones without getting pregnant and messing up your next 18 years for one moment of fun. Really, when you cooled off you'd think that was a WAY bad deal. Tell me how it comes out. Good luck.

Answer 5

13 is way 2 Young plz wait til Ur older it'll b SO much beta n think about AL the pr obs it can cause like pregnancy or a disease u may think he's the one but wait n c UL prob think DAT bout the rest cos its Ur hormones n that but if hes the one n u think Ital last u can wait but if u no its not real then y would u want Ur first time to b wit some 1 u don't rel care about n love u rely rely should wait I'm glad i did n I'm only 17 so if u wanna wait til Ur married dats a good think u should believe in urself n trust u can do n dint let any 1 pressure u n out ur friends most of prop lien jus to impress u n others n if not they prob regret it sooner or later u can b diffrent n n not av to regret or feel ashamed or embaressed if u wait 4 the real 1 not jus hte first person hu says they care bout u

Answer 6

Well,this is a surprise i am in the same situation as you!I am 14 and i did it you know what i did i told my parents i was going over my friend Raven's house but on the way walking i stopped by the store and picked up some condoms and when i got there he put it on and i got sexy and did it!So you can try this and tell me how it went Good Luck!!!also if nobody knows you'll be okay and I just had to get that out of my system but trust me i am not doing ti again until i am a grown woman and married but talk it over with your boyfriend and watch the time! well good luck girl don't make the wrong choice like i did god forgave me !!! what i did was wrong..... make the right decision.

Answer 7

You're right. You are way too young for this. I do understand the call of your young hormones- I was your age once too. Even if all your friends aren't virgins (and I'm willing to bet most of them are lying about that) it doesn't mean that you have to cave to the peer pressure. It is important to respect yourself more than that. Realize that you have a lot more to offer this world than a girl whose hormones is in control of her-rather than a girl who knows what she wants and knows how to reach her goals in life. Maybe you should consider breaking up with your boyfriend or at least take a break from him before you do something that you could potentially regret for the rest of your life.
Either way, focus your hormonal attention onto your life's passions. Find something that you are passionate about and pursue that. Set goals for yourself and make a plan step by step on how to achieve those goals. If you can shift your focus to that, your sex drive will eventually dwindle and before you know it you will be graduating high school and on your way to college.
Good Luck!

Answer 8

You're only thirteen for christ's sake - and the reason for not being able to control your hormones is supposedly because you know your boyfriend has 'a"big booty"' is reason enough for you not to have sex with him.
There is no need to wait until you get married, but at least wait until you're a little older, once you've gone 'there' there is no going back.
If you do what you're wanting to do (probably not what you want to do- probably what HE wants to do) other boys will know and I guarantee you will not be as popular with other boys afterwards (if you are it will be for all the wrong reasons - believe me).
Take your time, if he genuinely likes you and cares about you, he'll wait. If not he's not worth ****.

Answer 9

You are only 13!! Once you lose your Virginity, you cannot get it back. Lord if you were my daughter I would be telling you the same thing. There are alot of Sexual Diseases in the world now and some that will really Hurt you bad. It is best to wait until you are much older to consider having Sex, BUT if you insist on doing it...At least practice Safe Sex ALWAYS!!

Answer 10

you could have a baby do you want one ? no more time w your friends a crying child for years you could get sick and not be able to have sex anymore for the rest of your life . you are under aged and your b/f could go to jail for that your mom and dad would be mad at you . and how do you really know that your other friends have "done it " already . wait maybe not til your married but at least til your a little older like 18 or 19 til you really know what love is or ask a girl that is 14 or 15 woith a child or that is sick