We're having a small wedding, keeping it under 30 guests (in order to have it in the place we want, as well as we just want a small one). I would like to invite my aunts and uncles (mostly for my mom!), but is it rude to not invite my cousins? They're all over 18 so they'd get separate invitations. Also, I barely know any of them.
2007-03-30 13:10:09 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We had the same issue. We kept our wedding small and only invited our aunts and uncles. We didn't invite our cousins (they are all over 18 as well). None of them were upset. Occasionally we see them at family functions, but it's rare. When we do, everyone gets along fine with my husband. A few of them are married themselves. They invited my parents to the wedding and not me (we don't really hang out) and I was totally fine with it myself. Since you don't socialize with them or have a good relationship with them, nothing is wrong with not including them. If you decide to send wedding announcements after your wedding, be sure to include them on your list (that's what we did).
2007-03-30 13:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite whomever you choose. And do it for YOU, not for your mom, dad, sister, dog, or whatever. If YOU want your aunts & uncles there, then by all means invite them. You're under no obligation to invite anyone, especially people whom you barely know.
What you might do is after the wedding, you could send out separate announcements, but that would be entirely up to you. It would mean an additional stationary expense.
Alternately, you could invite a small gathering to your wedding, and then have a bigger reception, inviting whatever extended family you wanted there but didn't have room for at the ceremony.
2007-03-30 13:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite the people that you want there the most, and then fill up the rest of the 30 with who you can fit in. I don't know how many cousins you have, but with only 30 people its understandable that not everyone can get invited. Make sure you're specific on the invitations.
2007-03-31 16:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not rude to not invite all members of a household. Your "circle of inviting" simply extends to all aunts and uncles but not to the cousins.
It is only rude if you don't invite both halves of a socially recognized couple-- all spouses and steady girlfriends and boyfriends of people you are inviting MUST also be invited.
I might be nice to send the relatives you are not inviting a Wedding Announcement-- they are worded differently, and are sent immediately after the ceremony has taken place.
2007-03-31 06:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't personally think it's rude. However, be prepared to either accept the cousins or call to tell the aunt/uncle they can't bring their kids. Even if they aren't in the same household, I had people add other family members not invited onto their RSVP. My husband's uncle recently remarried & she decided to invite her ENTIRE family. Seriously, 7 more people we had never met in our lives & the only explaination was, "it's a wedding...everyone loves free food & cake."
Sorry, I'm still bitter. :)
Anyway, again, I think it's fine but be prepared just in case some think they can include their children & such.
2007-03-30 13:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. "Accidentally" tell the busybodies in your family (a one you are inviting, of course,) the reason why.
You said it yourself. You barely know them.
Are they living away from their parents? This can also be a factor.
You are only inviting their parents for your mom's sake. You will have to tell them that their kids are not invited. If they show up uninvited, then it is rude. Be prepared, though, especially if they are obnoxious.
Don't stress out about this. It's your wedding.
Have a large reception.
2007-03-30 13:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dolphin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. It's your wedding. Invite who you want. I'm sure at least SOME of your cousins are married? Were you invited to their weddings? If you're not close, they most likely won't give it a second thought.
2007-03-30 13:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think it is rude ...think if they were getting married would they invite you? do you see them only once a year? if you do then dont invite them its not like you know them like the other people close to you. (i do not mean to Offend anyone)
small weddings are great keep it simple.
i have helped with weddings with more then 400 people (what a nightmare )
well i hope i helped and congrats (good luck)
2007-03-30 13:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No cousins if its a small informal predominately immediate family wedding. They'll get over it and probably won't even care seeing as how ya'll barely know each other.
2007-03-30 21:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I am planning a similar wedding and I certainly am not concerned about inviting cousins that I hardly ever see ~ Don't worry ~ enjoy your day! :)
2007-03-30 13:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by pandora_293 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋