I can't help looking at her. Evry time I see her it makes my heart jump. I am married to her sister, but I think I have a physical attraction and therefore have a crush on her. Should I say something or do somethign about it?
2007-03-30 12:31:52 · 27 answers · asked by djrisk75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, you should go to a therapist. You're gonna end up cheating on your wife. You will get caught and you will get a divorce, and you will be sorry that the thought ever came to your mind. You have to change it, or be prepared to end your marriage.
2007-03-30 12:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You're married, remember? You're commited to trying to make your marriage work, that was the deal. Everyone else (romantically) is irrelevent till you're divorced. I realize that attraction sometimes cannot be helped. But we can't always do what we want, especially when we made the most important vow in our lives. I also realize there is some sense in which you might think, "Isn't it most honest to tell the truth?" Well, in this case telling the truth may ruin marriages, families, and lives. I am not advocating that you lie, obviously you need not say anything at all. Perhaps you should tell your wife, however, that you sometimes find yourself attracted to other women. If your concern is self-expression (that is, it is just important to you that your sister in-law know how you feel), then keep in mind that she already probably suspects it, these things are detectable of course, but they do a ton more damage in this context if you say anything explicitly. Frankly, it sounds like you have a desire to see everything go up in flames. You may have a serious self-destructive streak. I would advise you to see a counselor. And, of course, fight for your marriage unless unitl you really know it's over. Then become single again. If you then tell your former sister in law, you'll still probably ruin your (now) ex-wife's life. So don't do anything like that unless (perhaps)your crush last years after your divorce. In any case, you're probably going through a weird time, don't ruin everything and everyone by acting on these inclinations now.
2007-03-30 12:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by strozek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooooooo!!!!!
Don't say a single word about it. Not to anyone. You are married to her sister and first and foremost you need to respect your marriage. Secondly you need to respect your wife's relationship with her sister. Do you have any idea how much that would suffer if you start messing with this ? This crush you have is not something you can act on so why open up a can of worms that may hurt your wife and her family. If you're feeling a little bored in your marriage then it's time to kick it up a notch ,add a little spice.Use that over active imagination of yours to surprise and excite your wife. It will help you refocus and the two of you will have a little fun together. Behave yourself !!! ...lol Take care : )
2007-03-30 12:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to take a bullet for your crush then go ahead! You are already married it's too late! However, if you think your wife won't have a problem them you can tell her and see what you three can work out amongst yourselves; like a threesome. Or just ask your wife if you can allow someone else into the bedroom, bang the sis and then get over it. But seriously this is sooooooo wrong dude!!
2007-03-30 12:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Young,Sexy&Educated 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should hit yourself with frying pan and realize that you're lusting over your wifes sister! That is wrong on so many levels!! You're only going to end up hurting someone and things will not work out. You should reevaluate your marriage and hope that this little crush is just a harmless little nothing! Otherwise, you're in a world of hurt. Good luck!
2007-03-30 12:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uhh, no! You are M A R R I E D to her SISTER. You should do or say NOTHING about it because all that will do is earn you whole lot of trouble, possible marital termination, and you'll make everyone in the family REALLY uncomfortable. It's not unusual to find a relative attractive, but to do something about it is taboo. Consider her your BLOOD sister & just as unattainable. Turn your eyes to your own wife & put your over-active immagination to use there.
2007-03-30 12:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by Spiral_Dancer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should forget about it. start spending time away from her if you see her very often. attraction doesnt mean love and if you dont let it go your gonna end up sleeping with her (i dont know where she stands) and then regret it. one of the many things women dont forgive is a man that cheats on them with her sister. there are some questions that pop in my mind: how long have you been married? How long were you in the relationship before you got married? didn't you meet your sister-in-law short after being in a relationship with your wife? if you rushed into your marriage, this could be one of the consequences of it. i really hope things go good for you and that you make the right decisions that make you happy.
2007-03-30 12:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do people always want to get involved with someone's else's life. If you have such a problem stay the hell away from her. You'll really mess everyone's life up if you keep this obsession going. Your sister-in-law is most likely happily married, but you'll make it awkward for everybody if you so this.
2007-03-30 12:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by ann m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
that would be an uber BAD idea, because when your brother and your wife find out, then you're screwed. Try to stay away from her, even if it takes chains. It would only cause trouble, and if she likes you back, then things could get even worse.
Just don't do anything that you will regret.
2007-03-30 12:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by Juliette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure go ahead! You'll more than likely end up making an A S S out of yourself. Then you ALL can go on Jerry Springer!
2016-03-17 05:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, divorce your wife before you say anything though. No reason to taint a relationshp with prior obligations. Then when you have your affairs in order, approch her about your feelings for her. Then you can feel up front and honest tward her. Or maby you should ask your wife what she thinks you should do to make it a reality. You want the reality, right?
2007-03-30 12:48:26 · answer #11 · answered by Perry B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋