my cousin's boyfriend has had oral with his best friend. Now, this was when he was 14, long before he met her, but him and this guy are still friends. He just told her recently, and she doesn't care! He says it was a once in a lifetime thing and he is disgusted by it, but is this or is this not break-up worthy material?!? They have been together for 2 years...and they love eachother, but i mean.....GOD....idk...I'm not a homofobic, but, this is pushing it. Should i let her be or should i tell her this really isn't ok?
2007-03-30
11:39:46
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Leave her alone.
This is not really your business or your relationship and if shes ok with it it has nothing to do with you. Some people experiment sexually and it is not your business.
2007-03-30 11:45:33
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answered by Joy 5
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You should let her be. Who are you to decide what is and is not ok with her, her decisions and her life? All you will do is cause a rift between the two of you because she will take it as you trying to tell her what to do and make her decisions for her, which is basically what you are doing. Perhaps she is ok with this and doesn't see that it is an on going problem. Lots of people have experimented to find out what they do and do not like and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You say you are not homophobic, but that is exactly the vibe you are putting off. If you were not homophobic you would be "ok" with it just as your cousin is. It really is not your place to say anything about it as far as it being "ok" or not and if you do that you are risking losing a friendship with a family member and that is sad. Let her live her life the same way you would want someone else to leave you alone to live yours.
2007-03-30 11:44:07
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answered by Erin 3
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Let her be! The past is the past! It was probably reallly hard for her boyfriend to even tell her this, and the fact that he did shows good qualities. And after two years, I'd hope she'd know him well enough to not break up with him because of something that happened a long time ago..
2007-03-30 11:43:50
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answered by Anonymous
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You just need to leave it be. It is up to her anyhow. But think about it this way. Just say you are a picky eater and you don't like most foods but you are willing to try it to find out if you like it or not. I hate liver and I will never eat it again but I did try it to know I don't like it. I hope you have heard the expression "don't knock it until you try it". You're friend tried something and didn't like it, it does not mean it changed his life. Hell I am very straight but I dated a guy who is bi-sexual and providing he didn't cheat on me I didn't care. (I did make him get tested, but I will do that with a straight guy too) All I am saying is it's not a big deal and maybe you are a little more homophobic then you think.
2007-03-30 11:48:21
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answered by wicked 3
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A lot of kids that age (14) are confused sexually. He tried it, and maybe he didn't feel OK with it, so he marked it up to experimentation. I don't think it is break up worthy, like he said, "it was a life time ago" and if your cousin doesn't think it is break up worthy, why should you? no offensem, but it is her boyfriend. let her deal with it. and frankly, you do sound a little homophobic. all in all, experimentation.. nothing wrong with that.
2007-03-30 11:50:55
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answered by hossferatu1174 2
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Why does it bother you? You're not involved in their relationship, so stop trying to involve yourself. They didn't ask for your opinion, and they don't want it.
If she still loves him even after what he's told her about his past, it's obviously a relationship that can really go somewhere and the love is obviously true. Don't try to ruin that, that doesn't happen very often...
2007-03-30 11:45:05
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answered by Miranda 3
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I don't see why this experience in the past should matter to their relationship unless he's showing other signs that indicate he may be homosexual. It's for your friend to decide and if she's ok with it then it shouldn't matter what you think so you should not tell her how you feel, it's not really your business.
2007-03-30 11:43:36
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answered by Anonymous
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Maybe you should find out if he is still hooking up w/ his best friend, and if he is bi or not. But if your cousin doesn't care if he has done it then let her be, if she doesn't care then why should it matter? What is in the past is in the past.
2007-03-30 11:44:20
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answered by grantaloon27 2
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no way the dude is straight. However there is nothing you can "do" about it and you can't change her mind.
A real straight man has never and would never blow a dude. You'd really have to have a straight guy unconscious or dead before he would do that...in my opinion anyway.
But if your friend is into Bi-sexual or gay guys then let her be.
2007-03-30 11:43:53
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answered by Tadow 4
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For her own rights let her be. We all have different oppinions but someone elses life may not be your bussiness even when there related to. That's some harsh material..
2007-03-30 11:43:37
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answered by Anonymous
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