He goes away to bootcamp. My cousin is leaving for Marine bootcamp on Monday. My parents are throwing a going away party for him on Sunday. His mother is a crackhead and has been in and out of jail and rehab his whole life, and hasn't been a part of his life for the past 8 years, and was barely a part of it before that. She has put him through hell his whole life, by taking off for a fix and leaving him in Godforsaken places like bars, whorehouses, and has even in the past left him in the care of a convicted sex offender. Whenever she's not out getting high, she comes around to start trouble, and now that she has found out that he's leaving for bootcamp, she wants to see him. He, however, wants nothing to do with her. Does she have a right to see her child (for perhaps the last time) before he enters the Marines.
2007-03-30 11:24:17 · 12 answers · asked by christiansoldier911 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is no way for anyone to judge what he may be feeling about her deep inside. She has done horrible things but people often have mixed feelings about their parents in such circumstances.Despite what they have done we still long for a relationship and acceptance from them. On the other hand it may be his choice to seek complete closure. No matter his reasons , the choice is his alone to make and should be without influence from others unless he chooses to ask.Whatever his choice he may have regrets about it someday and the best way to avoid that is to let him reason through it himself. As far as the mother goes , my opinion is that she is at her sons mercy ..... she has absolutely NO rights here.I hope he'll take the time to think it through so that he can leave it behind him and be at peace with his decision.: take care : )
2007-03-30 12:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, after years of abuse he has the right to say no, for once it has to be about what is best for the child and not his mother, by the sounds of it she has had more then enough time to have contact and when he is trying to make a positive change in his life it could really disturb him to have her bought back into it! I say goodluck to the boy and he is better off without her! This is the problem these days to many rights for parents! Parent's have the right to raise kids properly only!!!!! Hope this helps!
2007-03-30 18:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by ballarinababyz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your cousin is old enough to join the marines then no you have every right to keep her from seeing him him not wanting to see her is enough reason to not allow it.
If she shows up at the going away party uninvited then call the police and have her removed. Any one can give birth but not everyone can be a mom.
And tell your cousin thank you for his service to our country and that my prayers are with him. Tell him to be Proud of himself and his accomplishments and support him in any way you can.
2007-03-30 18:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Marla D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is his choice as he is an adult. If he doesn't want to see her then don't ruin it by inviting her to the party. It would put a damper on the day for your cousin and may result in a really bad fight or arguement that could be their last exchange. That would be worse to have the last thing he says to his mother be harsh. If he says no he doesn't want her there then you should respect his wishes.
2007-03-30 19:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by hr4me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The decision as an adult is his to make- have him call her and let HIM set the boundaries not you. See ya is just as easy over the phone than at the party.
2007-03-30 20:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are two sides:
Yes,
It's her son she might never see him again if he dies or something and it is her son she has the right
No,
If she really wanted to see him she wouldn't have all done that stuff and got herself in rehab she dose not deserve to be able to even be part if his life If she really wanted to see him she shouldn't have done that stuff
in my decision I would say that she shouldn't be able to do
2007-03-30 18:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by love_doggies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it has nothing to do with rights. he is old enough to make this decision himself. if he doesn't want to see her,let it be. she could come there and ruin his party. i'd hate to think of him going off to boot camp with that on his head. i hope no one told her when the party is.
2007-03-30 20:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's completely up to the son.
2007-03-30 18:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to her son.He needs to understand that she is a SLAVE to her addiction and only GOD can set her free.He needs to pray for her.
2007-03-30 18:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the decision should be his. If he doesn't want to see her, he shouldn't.
2007-03-30 18:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋