I am 14 years old and my older sister is 16 and has some learning disabilities such as dyslexia. Her maturity level is the same as a 8 year olds. Whenever my parents need to work late or if they are going to a party, I have to watch her and keep her calm. At the same time, I have to act as if she is in charge, but it's hard because I can't watch her unless I actually tell her, but it's so confusing and I hate it. Like she has these spasm attacks. For example, today my mom went on a walk with my dog and my sister came up to me and she's like where's mom? And I replied that I thought she went on a walk. She started to freak out and she's like "You think? You don't know?" and I'm like "Calm down, she'll be home soon." She then said "You probably just don't care where she is." And then she ran out the door, down the street, and started wandering down this bike path. I couldn't just let her go and get lost, so I had find my 9 year old sister outside, tell her where I was going...
2007-03-30 11:00:01 · 4 answers · asked by charley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
..she wouldn't freak out if she went inside and no one was home. I then had to go out in my bike, searching down all these streets to find her and finally when I did, she said that I didn't trust her and that she is mature and old enough to be walking down main roads by high ways, etc. When my mom got home, I explained the situation to her and she talked to my sister, but it never helps, because these situations continue to happen. My moms best advice is to just be patient, but it puts me under so much stress to deal with it. And then my little sister is another story. Yesterday, I was baby sitting her and her friend invited her to her house (she's our neighbor) and I said "Sure, just make sure it'sokay with her mom." And she replied in a snotty tone "I know! Leave me alone!" I told her to please not yell at me, because I was telling her information that my mom told me to tell her. She then told me to shut up and ran to her room and slammed the door in my face. I was telling her to...
2007-03-30 11:05:19 · update #1
..not treat me that way, but she just started screaming that she hates me and started making a huge deal out of it. I just took deep breaths and walked away. I shouldn't have to deal with this stuff. My parents aren't a help and just kind of nod their heads and tell me to just be patient with them. But it's so hard! I've been patient my whole life and sometimes I feel as if I screw it all up and I feel like it's too much. My parents said that I'm over exaggerating and to deal with it, but how would they know if they don't even have to experience it. I'm not the parent here, I'm sick of dealing with my sisters. Please help? Any advice???? (sorry this is so long)
2007-03-30 11:08:22 · update #2
Thanks "Miracle". That's exactly what I would do, but my parents said they aren't going to hire a babysitter for a 16 year old.
2007-03-30 11:11:26 · update #3
i have to give you props man! you have a lot on youre shoulder.you must be a really responsible kid to deal with that.your sister is not your responsibility, its your parents'. i think that they really should step in more and give you more credit for what you do.i dont have a sister with the same problem as your sister so, i dont really know waht to say, but as for your little sister... i know EXACTLY how you feel. my sister is the same way and she NEVER gets in trouble for it.. i do. but until im 18, im stuck with her. im just counting down the years.sorry i didnt have great advice but good luck! ☺
2007-03-30 12:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like like you have Middle Child Syndrome in the worst way. My Suggestion Is to start new hobbies that cause you to be out of the house more thats what i did like volleyball or basket ball or even the glee club something acaademic that occupies yout time after school as well as must weekends jus something where you can gather yourself and not have to fee like the adult your are a child and should have a happy childhood find some way to gather yourself maybe you can even stop helping your parents with your sisters maybe if that think you are un capble of assisting they will stop asking you to do it.
2007-03-30 11:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lele J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a talk with your parents. They should not be putting this much pressure on you to watch your older sister when they go out.
Tell them you are just a kid yourslef, and you do love your sister and want to spend time with her, and you promise to make time, but that you feel they should hire a sitter who knows the situation, and can handle it better. I don't think they should expect this of you, being younger than her and having to pretend you're not watching her.
You should really talk to them. If they see your point, which I hope they do, maybe you can spend time with her like sisters should in a fun way, not with you just being responsible for her and having to miss out on being a young girl yourself. Good luck.
2007-03-30 11:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what you are saying. my heart goes out to you and your sister and family. first let me just tell you ignore when your little sister does that, most kids do, its because they know what they are supposed to do and think they can handel on their own, and when you tell them what to do they feel really low, but back to the other subject, tell your parents you understand they need help with your sister but you arent the one they need. they do need someone that is qualified for this. if they ignore you make them listen and refuse to speak to them until they do (you might get in trouble but it works) refuse to watch your sister even if they leave you in charge (but don't let them get hurt obviously) and when and if your parents listen tell them if they absolutly need you, that you are there for them, but it is not fair to you, that you have to miss out on your child hood
2007-03-30 11:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋