i have even tried putting up a chart in the bathroom and every time he would use the toilet i would give him a sticker. but he just wont go at all on the toilet i dont know what to do...PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-03-30 09:49:09 · 20 answers · asked by mander413 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He may not be ready. My daughter wasn't "ready" till about age 3 and 3 months. Its wierd that only 3 months made such difference.
2007-03-30 09:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by mitchie0514 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is a reason (like he has to be potty trained to start preschool or something like that) - it sounds like he's simply not ready. 3 years is still on the young side to be potty trained, particularly for boys. My son was pushing 4 when he finally got trained - and we still struggle with accidents! Consider waiting 6 months and trying again - if they're ready it makes training a snap.
If you want to keep trying now though, here is what worked for my son. Start by increasing his fluids (it increases the chance he'll have to go the bathroom) - then I started putting him on the potty at 15 minute intervals - I kept a basket of books by the potty to help keep him entertained. Gradually I'd move him up to 30 minutes, 45, etc. If he produces, praise him like crazy and give him a reward (whatever you think will work best). It may take a few days for him to get the hang of it. Once both of my sons were trained though, it still took them around 6 months to actually tell me they had to go to the bathroom. they would hold their urine until someone put them on the potty, but wouldn't always tell me if they had to go. I think it takes boys a little longer to learn all their bodily functions. Oh, and put them right in underwear during the day - chances are good if he has an accident it will be uncomfortable for him and that is usually a good motivator for them to use the potty.
If you try this and after a week -10 days they are making no progress, they are simply not ready. Wait 6 months and try again. Hope this helps!!
2007-03-31 08:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son turned 3 in December and WOULD not go sit on any potty...big or little.
Up until this past week, he did not want a thing to do with the potty. Suddenly, it is HIS idea and he is willing to go. Boys naturally do not take to using the toilet as quickly as girls. My oldest son (now 4) was not successful using the bathroom until just right before he turned 4.
You need to relax and let your son develop these skills at HIS own pace. If you rush it or pressure him, he will be less likely to use the bathroom. Just also know that the pooping will take longer than learning to go potty.
2007-03-30 17:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mum to 3 cute kids 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here are some things you might want to try. I had to try all of these for a year before my son finally found what made it work for him.
His favorite was the shooting rings that you can get at almost any store with an infants section. They are rings you put in the toilet that dissolve they can use to aim at. You can try a small reward like m and m's after a successful try. You can try cheerios in the toilet for aiming at. If your brave try putting him in regular underwear and maybe he realize it doesn't feel that great to be wet.
There are many great books at the library that you can read to him that might help also. I hope some of this information helped or gave you a good start towards somewhere. I've been there and know how hard it is. Now I have another one that is almost to that point. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-30 17:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by racersgrl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend had a child that would go to the bathroom to pee but not to poop. She tried to even let him use the toilet in the livingroom while he was watching TV, but he would just cry and scream for a diaper to poop in. She finally went and bought a box of baby laxative suppositories and gave him one each time she sat him on the toilet. He was fairly easy because he would need to go around the same time everyday. Well the laxative would make it to were he could not hold it no matter what he did so he would end up going on the toilet. When he would go she and her husband would make such a big deal of it that he would start to be proud of going. After she used the on box of I think 6 suppositories, he went on his own. Now that may be extreme for some, but it really worked for her.
2007-03-30 17:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by cosgirl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about your son dad that what help my boys out I have two son now 10 and 12
or a brother some male that you trust
because he 3 he should go for it but kids are different the more you push the more they will not do it for you some can feel your emotion just be gentle and he will do as you ask even if he reach the age of 4,they will still have little accident
2007-03-30 17:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest son had no interest in using the toilet until he was just over 3 yrs old. Then all of a sudden, he just started doing it. He didn't want any fanfare - no stickers, no phone call to Grandma - he just did it. My middle son & youngest trained together. The middle was almost 3 & the third was just shy of 2 (He doesn't let his bigger brother outdo him in anything.)
You can encourage him & have all the tools available - but he'll do it when he's ready. Warm weather is coming - let him run around naked - he'll be on his own in no time! Good luck -I know you are probably dying to get him out of diapers!!
2007-03-30 17:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by Quarter Midget Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking him to get on the big toilet, or does he have a potty chair? If it's the big toilet, he may be afraid of falling in. If that's the problem, get him a potty chair.
Is this new behavior? If it is, try to find out what has changed. Did something frighten him? Ask him why he doesn't want to use the toilet. Sometimes it's difficult to guess what goes on in a child's mind. Their view of the world can be very different than an adults.
Good luck.
2007-03-30 16:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by Annie D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the preschool i work at has 2's that don't have to be fully potty trained but the 3s are supposed to be; however, MANY move up not quite there yet. it is crazy but they are all potty trained in about a week.
we make the parents put them in underwear and encourage them to do so at home too. we ask them for 6 to 8 changes of clothes. we send them to the bathroom every 30 minutes till they go on the potty. if they go then we let them go a little longer without trying. we are very firm and tell them, "go to the potty." it isn't a choice on if they will sit or not. we aren't nervous or stressed about it and they know we are in control of the situation. we just refuse to back down till they are obedient.
if they wet themselves they must change themselves completely. they hate that and that is what normally breaks them.
children listen better to other adults sometimes. maybe enroll them in a preschool. being around other children his age that is potty trained will probably do the trick.
every situation is different. does he refuse to go because he is stubborn? does he refuse to put on underwear or is he just developmentally not ready yet. does he feel bad when he has an accident?
he will be potty trained. give him time and don't change him anymore!
sd
2007-03-30 20:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing in the world will make him use the bathroom before he's mentally ready. If you sit him on the toilet and he refuses to go, just take him off and try again later. I really don't want to sound cold but it's alot like training a puppy-take him to the potty after waking up, meals, and before bedtime.He will acknowledge these times as times to potty and pretty soon he will start telling you when he has to go all on his own.Just be patient and try to stay calm as he will probably try to rebel.Be adamant in persisting and don't give up on him or yourself. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-30 18:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by Maria M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my son was the same way. he is now going on 4 and has been potting in big toilet for 6 months. start by using a small potty chair, so he feels comfortable,reward him when he does it . i sat on the big potty next to him on the little potty and he looked at a book and i looked at one also. i also found if you let him wear big boy pants and buy some of the plastic cover underwear.(i found mine for .50 at thirft store) when they feel wet they will want to be changed, explain that he must go to the potty. i was concerned like you were but in time he will go. all kids learn at there own time. dont force him to go because it will only make things worse. patience and plenty of it. good luck
2007-03-30 19:15:22 · answer #11 · answered by lumpkinstonya 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋