I am a Virgo girl and I've been in a relationship with a scorpio guy for the last year. I am 24 and he is 33. he has asked me to move in and told me he loves me since pretty much the beginning. I did not move in with him when he first asked because I wanted my daughter to get to know him a little better But we have since then been talking off and on about living together and I have been all for it. But the last 3 weeks have been horrible. At first he said he needed time to think, then a week later he broke up with me but called the next day and said nothing was set in stone and maybe if we were to date and see if things get any better and then maybe we could get back together. then he came over 2 days later and I was trying very hard to be normal because I was so hurt and upset , but I didn't want to come off as needy or anything negitive. but he took that as something just didn't feel right and we broke up again. the thing is he won't tell me goodbye. iasked himto and hewont. why?
2007-03-30 09:15:32 · 17 answers · asked by alice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he has also kept saying off and on that something doesn't feel right. and when i say that i asked him to tell me goodbye, what happend was this, we were on the phone"and i was telling him how much i loved him and missed him but that i also couldn't keep doing his to myself. if its over then i can't keep talking to u or seeing u because it will just hurt later when u would start dating someone else because then u would stop having any contact with me at all, so u needed to tell me good bye so ican get over this." so then i said tell me goodbye and it was silent forever. then i said tell me goodbye and it was silent yet again. then i said are u going to tell me good =bye or not? and he said I'll talk to u later. what the hell is that? what does that mean? is that goodbye or i'll talk to u later? help
2007-03-30 09:22:13 · update #1
It's plain, simple, and to the point:
Someone who isn't committed to you, Is so not worth your time!
2007-03-30 09:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Oh! Gravity. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop acting like high school kids. Honestly, you are the mother of a child and he's a guy over thirty! Do you think you can get past the 'let's play house' stage and forget about shacking up? What a nice thing that you even wanted your daughter to get to know him better. You want to have her get to know her mother better - which is how she will, growing up knowing that you guys, adults, like being roomies with 'benefits' and that's what passes for commitment.
Tell this guy to grow a pair and ask him if he's thinking marriage. If he dithers and he will - drop the Ahole. If he says, Yes, you are the person I want to marry, then do it. Just start taking responsibility for you grown life and both of you, stop acting like you still need acne cream and have homework due somewhere!
2007-04-07 10:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think he might be into someone else sorry but men act like that when there is someone else the best thing u can do is make the decision yourself u are leaving it all up to him and he is taking advantage of it. you are the one who needs to be strong sit down and have a talk with him but u initiate it take the first step if u are gonna leave it up to him he'll use u to the last minute, u have to put your foot down for u and for your daughter he is just another man hon don't let him take u up and down his roller coaster. if u get serious and let him know once and for all how it is he'll take u seriously, by letting him do this he believes you are just a push over that no matter how many times he does the same thing you'll still be there so is a comfort zone, u need to scare him.
good luck
2007-03-30 16:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by MAYLONAV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he upset when you didn't move in right away? He may be having second thoughts of putting more energy into a relationship that may not be working for either of you or letting go completely, Both are hard decisions and take some time, which is why it is so confusing. It is hard to let go of someone you love, as well as hard to put in more time with no promise of reward.
2007-03-30 16:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by Nutzzzzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This shouldn't be about him, but about you! At this point you are giving him the rope to give you, to hang yourself! If you have said to him that you can not play this game any longer, then why not let it go? To keep the edge that he obviously has,he won't say goodbye,this way he has you in a constant state of the very thing you say you don't want to portray!! Neediness!!!! Why give your power away? You want to be treated in a certain way, state it, make it known and above all; do not continue to be his personal yo-yo!
2007-04-07 14:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by 2be4real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this guy knows its over with you, but doesnt want to let you go. your just giving him way too many chances. tell him that if he wants something to change between you guys then say it now or i will say goodbye for you. for good. sound like your taking charge, and if he chooses not to say goodbye, feel strong and powerful like you left him on the side of the street with nothing and having lost the best woman he will ever have. be strong and get over him. he is a jerk and not worth it!!!
2007-03-30 16:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by ♥brittany™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to say good bye because he wants to keep using your body for his needs. Why don't you just say good bye and be done with it?
You made too many mistakes with this guy right off the bat, anyone could tell this wasn't going to work...except you.
2007-03-30 16:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend,girlfriend,girlfriend....don't you know you're the gold. does he understand, if YOU chose to live with him, with you sweet daughter it would be the best thing that ever happened to him. your love is previous and one of a kind. explain this to him. don't sell yourself short. tell him YOU need time away from him to think about his indecision with the relationship....take back control....you are women.....roar, Sweetie,roar. make sure you find someone that knows how lucky they are to have your love......seriously...i don't even care what his issues are.... I'm more concerned why you think you need to convince someone you and your daughter are "worth" whatever it takes to be a family....you might want to let this one go....sorry, but he shouldn't even have you going though all these feelings, if this is the real thing.....good luck.
2007-03-30 16:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he just wants to date other people but, doesn't want to give up a good girl. Pretty much, he wants to keep you hanging on just enough. You're becoming his backup plan.
Trust me, I've been through this - except I was in the same position as your ex.
2007-03-30 16:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about your daughter? It's alright for you and your man to go thru this on & off stuff but not your child. Your man sounds very immature for his age. If he won't say good bye you should. find someone who will love you & your daughter without all the drama
2007-04-07 01:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by ms vickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't because your doing whatever he wants. If you want him to leave, STOP TALKING TO HIM, STOP TAKING HIM BACK. You have to say goodbye to him. You have not done that. Once you move on he will shortly after that.
2007-03-30 16:20:35 · answer #11 · answered by UPGRAYEDD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋