I'm 24 and my partner is 20, I would love to have a baby in the next year or so, we have only been together for over a year and I know he is younger than me but when we have spoken about it he says he dosen't want any children until he is least 28-29 and dosen't want to be a young dad, I can understand what he is saying but I don't want to have babies with anyone else and when he is 29 I will be 33, I have to decided if I want to wait for him and im not sure, I love him so much I would be prepared to wait it's just someone times I think why should I.
2007-03-30 09:02:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with FEDude get married first. Then it will be better and it wont be a SIN....
2007-03-30 09:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well relationships are about compromise. First, you need to be thinking marriage before you think babies. Second, his time line is 28-29 and if you guys stay together, admittedly that will be risking you and your baby's health at 33. Try to go middle ground. If your clock is ticking now at 24, by the time you get 28 it will be resounding in your ears! However, when you are 28 he'll be 24 - still rather young but perhaps he'll agree to it then. The thing is, the waiting. If you wait and he still doesn't agree, you've wasted four good baby-making years waiting for nothing. This is a tough one, but you will have to figure out what your future with this young man looks like. If you don't see it happening in your time-frame, you may have to move on and find someone a little closer if not older than you who's ready for the stage you are ready for. Good luck.
2007-03-30 16:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think men are ready for children at age 20. They still have a lot of maturing to do, and most are not ready to settle down and start a family at that age. Enjoy the relationship that you two have right now. Try to not pressure him or you will drive him away. When the time is right, you will both be much happier to start a family. How about a puppy?
2007-03-30 16:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see both sides. He doesn't want to be a young dad and you don't want to start having kids in your 30's. What you need to do is discuss it with him again come to an agreement. I see where your coming from but also he shouldn't feel pressured into having a kid right now. He will feel either have a baby in the very near future or worry about losing you. Hope you guys can work something out.
2007-03-30 16:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're married. Settle down for a year into marriage life (that way if it doesn't work out the children aren't subjected to the fighting) then after the year, start trying to have a baby.
Best of luck
2007-03-30 16:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by toronto_leafs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, MARRIAGE COMES FIRST! Second, if BOTH parents are not in agreement over having a child, don't do it!
33 is NOT too old to have a child. In fact, some believe that your early 30s are ideal. If you truly love him, marry him, wait until BOTH of you are ready for children and THEN have them!
2007-03-30 16:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's the one you want to be with, you have to honor his wishes on this one. Pushing someone into parenthood is the biggest mistake you could ever make, and is bound to blow up in your face. Unless you have a plan B that involves you being a single mom and trying to explain to your kid why Daddy doesn't live at home, just wait it out. There's nothing wrong with having kids in your 30's.
2007-03-30 16:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, give him the respect of some more time to grow up. 20 IS very young to start a family.
2007-03-30 16:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probbly not ready yet. Since you are older
he dosen't feel the same way as you.
probbly he is not ready.
2007-03-30 16:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too young to be a daddy, and he's being honest w/you... I had my last at 35, she's fine...
2007-03-30 16:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by momof3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋