How considerate are you?

Question

I get so angry every day, as I realize how many stupid people exist. Ppl in general are really dumb selfish pigs. I try to be so considerate, I always ask myself how I would feel if the roles reversed before I do something.
These are little things I deal with EVERY single day, without fail and it is making me lose faith in mankind.
Like ppl walking on whatever side of the sidewalk or stairs that they feel like, instead of sticking to the right. Ppl walking in groups alongside each other, talking and walking leisurely, taking up the whole sidewalk so no one can pass. (esp. in a city like Manhattan, this sucks)
When the bus comes to the last stop, people stepping all over you to get out first, instead of waiting your turn.
On the train- dumb b****es crossing their legs, making it hard for ppl to pass, no need to sit all womanly in the damn subway!! Ppl talking SO loud on the phone that the whole bus is forced to listen to the dumb conversation. Am I crazy or are ppl stupid?

Answer 1

i think unaware is a better term. i often notice this when in large gatherings of people, and it used to anger me also, but i learned to 'Not Sweat the Small Stuff'. As for people that walk and don't look where they are going, if i have to take more than 1 step to the right or left to avoid them, i just run into them. i'm 6'1, 170, so a good shoulder-swipe usually makes them pay more attention. don't get me wrong, i don't do it on purpose, and i do try to avoid them, but i don't like it when people take advantage of other people either. i'm usually a nice guy, but sometimes the world leaves me no other option. as far as the other annoying traits that strangers seem to have, i just laugh to myself and think, 'wow, if they could only see themselves....oh well.'

Answer 2

People are stupid, but I think you're just a *touch* crazy, too. :) j/k, of course.

This bothers me to no end. And FYI--women sitting with their legs crossed is NOT considered womanly!! When women are sitting properly, they should be sitting with their ankles crossed--not their knees. I know what you mean though. Thankfully the women who ride the train in my city (Atlanta) usually don't cross their legs at the knee and take up half the walking path of the train.

And large groups of people walking side by side (especially during lunch rush hour when people are scrambling to get out to get lunch and get back quickly) annoy the hell out of me. Just because the sidewalk is 15 feet wide doesn't mean you and your 10 friends have to take up all 15 feet at once!!

What really gets my goat is the escalator going down to the train station. It's very, very steep and takes quite a while to ride if you just stand there, so I like to walk down. It's wide enough for people to stand on the right side while people (such as myself) can comfortably walk past them on the left. It NEVER fails--there's always someone (usually multiple people) who insist on standing next to their companion instead of in front or in back of them. Then when you say excuse me and try to pass them, they give you this look like, 'What's the rush, you b*tch?" The rush is, idiot, that in the 30 seconds it takes me to walk down the escalator, I could very well miss my train and have to wait 10 -15 minutes for the next one. THAT is the rush!!

Answer 3

I do my best, but in the end I say it's not your problem what someone else's opinion is of you. For that reason, I think etiquette is nonsense. Etiquette means basically making other people comfortable with your behavior. But it's not your purpose in life to please other people. You have to make sure you're happy, that's first and foremost, and if after that you please a few people, excellent. Complaining never solves anything really. So getting angry everyday just shows you as a person who needs to get angry. They compare a human being to an orange. They can't squeeze an orange and get pineapple juice. What or who does the squeezing is irrelevant if it's there to be squeezed out, it will be. If you have anger in you, then clearly someone could get anger out of you by doing something but if you have no anger in you, no matter what they did they couldn't get anger out of you. And that's how it is with working on one's spirituality and progressing as an aware individual rather than an egotistical personality. People are people. You're a person. If people are stupid, then I can't imagine you having a very high opinion of yourself. It sounds funny but it's all common sense. If you have control over something. There's no use getting upset or worrying because you have the control to change it. If you don't have control over something then there's no use getting upset or worrying because you don't have control over it! It's always made sense to me. I say do the best you can, people are going to do what people are going to do but what you do is your choice, regardless of what they do.

Answer 4

i do not understand this either. i put that along with the people that feel the need to stand in front of the elevator doors as they are opening and wanting to push their way in before anyone gets out. why cant they wait 5 seconds for people to get out? it is aggravating. or when you open a door to go inside a store or something and people rush through it as if youre the doorman.

people are just inconsiderate. and sadly enough, there is nothing you can do about it. except maybe call them out on their rudeness, but then you would be the rude one.

grin and bear it.

Answer 5

Yes, people are very inconsiderate of their fellow mankind. But it also has to be brought to light that you don't seem to be the forgiving kind either. I doubt that any of these people set out to piss you or anyone off directly. It's being self absorbed and the pace of life is so fast you seldom have time for niceties. Be more patient and forgiving, it will help to keep you from having a heart attack!

Answer 6

The majority of people are stupid, but do you think that you might come off as a bit*h?? No offense, just a question. I am like that a lot of the time. I am so rude to this lady at work, just because she's obnoxious and annoying, but the more I think about it, the more I realize, I need to get over and just be nice.

Answer 7

If you are putting out all this angry energy and negativity, how can you expect it not to come back to you? You cannot change other people's behaviour, only your own. Continue to be polite and considerate, but if it is not reciprocated, let it go. Don't sweat the samll stuff, and be careful when you choose your battles--otherwise, you will end up a sad and bitter person.

Answer 8

PEOPLE ARE STUPID !!!! I hear ya... and I am with you 300%... It makes me so enfuriated some times.... You spend all your childhood listening to your Mom and Dad telling you to be considerate with everyone and when you grow up you find out not too many children were really paying attention!!!! People can really be pigs, inconsiderate, envious, selfcentered... You are not crazy; you are just trying to put into practice what you learned as a child... Don't give in; it is a gift to be polite and considerate and it will make you stand out from the crowd of jerks that are out there, acting all grown up and professional but being a bunch of pigs... I call them jungle monkeys with tailored suits... Take care; WE ARE NOT A DYING BREED......

Answer 9

No, you're not crazy. People are stupid, but more accurately, as you've said, they're inconsiderate. I don't understand it, really--why be crappy to people they don't even know and who haven't done anything to them? There's just no need for this type of behavior. This is just the kind of thing that aggravates me every day, too. But, I refuse to stoop to their level. I'm going to continue to show courtesy, even to those who don't deserve it, because it's what I think is the right thing to do.

Answer 10

It sounds like you are having a bad day and need to lighten up. A lot of what you are talking about is just people not thinking about what they're doing. Maybe you should move to the country, in the south, where people are more polite.