Were my parents right to have tried to prevent me from learning to drive?

Question

My freshman year in high school, my school was offering free driver's ed. classes after school, so I signed up for it, figuring it would be a good idea to save on insurance later. Well, my parents were mad at me about something at the time (they always seemed to be mad at me, they were physically and verbally abusive), and decided after I went to the first day of driver's ed. that they would no longer allow me to go. I think this was because my mom didn't want to pick me up every day, which is a really stupid reason. Then, they told me that they weren't gonna allow me to start driving until I was 18, which basically meant that I would not be able to have a life or get a job before that point (my mom was too lazy to drive me anywhere). Why do you think they used such terrible judgement? They were horrible parents, but why would they intentionally try to ruin my life? Thankfully, I ran away when I was 15 and went to live with my grandparents, and got my license on my 17th birthday.

janicahdsfajkdfsja (however the hell you spell your name), I was not spoiled, in fact, quite the opposite. My parents deprived me of things, attacked me on nearly a daily basis, my mother told me that she WANTED ME TO RUN AWAY, they both cussed me out every day. Also, my parents had alcohol problems! If you think I'm spoiled, clearly you did not read my question. So screw you, idiot.

Answer 1

No,
They weren't right. Good parents expect their children to make the most out of every learning experience. Just because a teen has a license, doesn't mean they have to let her drive, therefore they aren't justified in hindering her development. Another point is that teens grow and mature best when their parents promote their activities and expect them to succeed. When they expect failure, or operate on the assumption that the teen will let them down, he/she learns not to make a point of succeeding because the parents won't be disappointed anyway. They will, however mention such failures at a later date and blame their teenage son/daughter. I went through a similar situation at 15, and got my license shortly before I turned 18. I guess you had crappy parents just like I did. That doesn't mean you won't be a terrific success in life. Only that you may have slightly more to overcome. From the sound of things, you're way smarter and better than your stupid parents. When the time comes that you fully realize this, you may no longer feel the need to argue with them about such matters. You made a tough but GOOD decision at 15. Follow your own hopes and ambitions! Trust your own judgement! Make your own decisions! The time for their influence is in the past. I think if you do those things, you will continue doing very well in life. - OOGABOOGA37

Answer 2

Legally, yes.....they had the right to do it. Some parents are truly lazy and would rather the kids miss out on stuff so they don't have to be inconvenienced..it's a shame. I would say they were too scared for you but they sound really cold and I am sorry this is the type of life you grew up with.

Adults are so quick to poo-poo teen angst and that is a big mistake. Does no one here remember what it was like to be in high school, trying to figure out who you were and trying to fit in, all the time dealing with parents who are probably having trouble letting go? It's a friggin train-wreck. I'm glad you're free of them now.

Answer 3

My 2 older sibling got their license at 16 and both totaled their vehicles.For that very reason my parents didn't let me get my license till I was 18.Telling me I couldn't drive when I wasn't even given the chance.I was a good kid too and my siblings were not.That was 20 years ago and I still feel anger over it.My mom finally put me through driver's ed when my dad was against it.I never did get into an accident and now that my dad is disabled I still don't like driving him places.

Answer 4

Good for you! Parents are not always right. If you don't have good parents as role models growing up can be very difficult. Just always carry yourself as a decent human being and treat others respectfully and you'll turn out just fine. My mom told me "always be nice to others no matter who they are because you never know when you may have to face them in the future." Luckily my parents were great to me but I had to earn their respect and prove to them how responsible I was. Just do things for your grandparents to show them that you are responsible and they will grant you more freedoms. As far as your mom is concerned (I don't know her side of the story but I will assume what you say is true) not everyone is a good parent and you have to move beyond that. Don't look at yourself as a victim but rather someone who is wiser as a result of your experiences. "Prosperity is no just scale; adversity is the only balance to weigh friends." –Plutarch (46 AD - 120 AD) This means you find your true support in the tough times. Stay true to yourself and be happy with who you are and you will live a happy life. Don't let others get you down. If someone is trying to put you down just know that it is probably because their not happy about something within them. (i.e. janicahdsfajkdfsja or whatever)You should feel sorry for people like this and never let them get to you.

Answer 5

i comprehend the type you experience. i'm 14, in my freshman 3 hundred and sixty 5 days, and cyber-schooled. To make concerns worse we had to bypass my grandfather in with us as quickly via fact the college 3 hundred and sixty 5 days began. i could choose for to return to a public college basically for the issue of having removed from my relatives. yet mom and father are mom and father. in the event that they gained't substitute there recommendations there relatively isn't something you're able to do. a minimum of approximately your education. ought to you seem into communities or activities around your area, like a activities team or e book club. in spite of suits you interest. It gets you out of the abode and no rely if that's close it does no longer be too a lot to ask to get a experience everywhere you are going to be able to desire to bypass. in case you won't be in a position to try this then create an area basically for you someplace interior the abode. no person is permitted in this area yet you and you are going to be able to study, write, think of, cry, in spite of right here. this way in case you finally end up tensing up via fact your mom and father are demanding you, you could excuse your self and take a breather. Your mom and father might desire to grant you some area. I comprehend (and you are going to be able to too) that they are finding out for you yet little ones and toddlers want socialization different than their relatives. even no rely if that's getting out as quickly as each week to be with human beings your individual age. I completely comprehend the sensation so carry in there. stable success.

Answer 6

They might of tried to prevent you from driving but in the end you took care of it yourself. Congrats on getting your license. When driving a car, keep it between the ditches hey.

Answer 7

just take it easy, most of us passed thru such,; be focused and know what u want in life. if they wont let u be, just try ur grannies again. they may habe good intentions for u, which may be old fashioned though. u have ur life to live. once more, be focussed.

Answer 8

You sound like a spoiled brat. I think your parents were correct.