Why do Christians think it's wrong?

Question

When I was younger, I was molested by my stepfather. I had become pregnant as a result and decided to keep the baby. Still to this day, Christians try to tell me this was a huge mistake. I don't see it this way. I love my child. Why is it that a Christian would chastise such a decision? Also, why would they say that "the sin of the father is laid upon your child"? That just seems completely wrong to me.

Thank you Giggly. I'll have to look for that one.

Answer 1

Some Christians don't know what a wonderful thing you did. I am a product of rape myself and my mom could have aborted me but she didn't. I am so glad she kept me and loves me to this day. I have a productive life and hope to be a blessing to others. Christians are people with varied opinions and prejudices just like any other group. Don't worry about what others say, I am sure most would agree you did the right thing. And that sins of the fathers thing was debunked by Jesus himself. that was an old testament curse which means that some of the sins that a man commits will have consequenses to the third generation. Just keep loving your child and teaching him the right way to live. Blessings

Answer 2

Perhaps you are referring to liberal Christians, who are generally pro-choice, but even then if it were your choice to keep it then how could they complain? Conservatives tend to be pro-life across the board, especially if they have had a chance to hear out and think through the justification for this position. Of course, just because you are a Christian it doesn't mean that you suddenly become more brilliant than everyone else. Very few people are perfectly consistent within their own worldview -- atheists included. The question, though, is whether or not the worldview that you claim to follow is itself consistent and coherent.

The pro-life position is consistent with classical Christianity, and the brave choice you've made may have brought inconvenience and emotional hardship to your life, but it is a testimony to the fact that the guilty party was not your child (which abortion would punish), but the one who forced the child upon you. A baby is a valuable human person no matter how it is conceived.

As far as the "sins of the father," that is a much abused scriptural reference. "hot_air" made a helpful point here, and probably the closest you could come to how these people are using this is the idea that the sins of the father (or mother) can have a negative impact on the lives of the children, i.e., they can suffer consequences. However, God does not ascribe moral guilt to their account.

I greatly admire you, and as a thoughtful and studied Christian, it is my opinion that God is not dishonored by your choice.

Answer 3

by the way, the bible says in Deuteronomy- "do not punish the child for the sin of the father". It was your stepfather's sin- I am so thankful that you knew that aborting was wrong, no matter how that precious child was conceived. I am VERY VERY VERY sorry however that you had to endure the molestation. I am a Christian- and I would never chastise your decision- you chose life and God is blessing you for that. Babies are gifts not choices.

Answer 4

First, what a tough choice you had to make from such terrible circumstances. Second, be proud of the choice you made. Third, Whoever told you such a thing about your child did not know what they were talking about. That is not what the bible says.

Eze 18:20 "The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him."

Answer 5

I am a christian & have never heard such nonsense. As a catholic, we respect life. You respected the life of your child, who had nothing to do with his or her conception. You are very brave & loving & forgiving to go through with the pregnancy . I think the "Sins of the Father..." thing is because people often pick up the bad habits of their parents. Don't worry though, you nurture your innocent child's life, & while the child may have to come to terms with the unusual facts of their conception when they are grown up, they will have a supportive Mum to help them through & hopefully will realise they have a right to their own life as an individual person & creation of God, regardless of the choices & actions of their biological father.

Answer 6

I don't understand which Christian person could say that to you, but everyone is different. Not all Christians believe those things.

I'm a Christian. I have been raised Baptist my entire life & honey I do not see you being wrong. In fact, I think you're amazing for loving your child & being a concerned Mom. Don't let ignorant people hurt you.

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Answer 7

Sadly, some self-professed Christians appear to have wandered off the "love thy neighbor" reservation.

Ignore these persons, as these are not the types of advice given in a spirit of love for our fellow man.

I hope you will not judge an entire group by the actions of a few, too. These persons do not represent the spirit of our Savior.

Answer 8

It's wrong what your stepfather did. I don't think it's wrong to keep the baby, I think it would be awful looking at the child and reliving that traumatic situation. I couldn't do it.

Answer 9

I don't think all Christians would think it's wrong -- difficult, yes, but not wrong. I think it's wonderful that your love was strong enough and great enough that you have made something beautiful from a very tragic event. Good luck to you and your child.

Answer 10

Not all Christians see it that way. You love your child, regardless of the nature of its conception.
That takes more Christ-like love than those people are showing you, my dear.