i'm 23 and he's 50. he's the most caring, and interesting person i've ever met... he makes me feel alive. my friends and family aren't exactly happy about it, i'm just wondering what most people think about it
2007-03-30 08:06:25 · 24 answers · asked by December 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can't be fair not knowing you; but my gut reaction is he needs to find someone his own age unless he is so socially insecure he has to turn to a woman younger than a daughter would be.
2007-03-30 08:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let start by saying this to you. This relationship can be the best and most rewarding relationship that you have ever been involved in provided you look at everything that is going on. Are you looking for a father figure? If not then go to the next question, is he wanting to just have you as a show piece/affair/ or does he really know what your soul needs. I have been in relationships with the other person is older. He respected me in so many ways, taught me about the person I wanted to be and help me through the roughest days. He showed me how to love myself and believe in God again. He was there for everyday and not so everyday stuff. Almost 2 1/2 years after his death at an early age of 47; I still love him more than any other man that has came into my life since as far as boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. I know that God placed this man in my life so I would know that love is a gift that is forever giving, supporting, respectful, patient, gentle, not forceful, comes easily and does not have a beginning or end. It does take work but it is worth every step. I would do it again in a second if I could have my best friend again. Good Luck to you!!!
2007-03-30 08:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not gross at all. You can't control who you are attracted to! I'm also 23 and completely in love with a 41 year old man. People in general will not understand. My parents have had a particularly hard time getting used to the idea as they are only 46.
"Age ain't nothing but a number." is only partially true. Realize that your lives will take you in different directions. You are so young that you can't possibly know everything that you want out of life. Unfortunately you don't have enough time under your belt for wisdom.
What about your friends? Do you see them hanging out with the two of you without any uneasiness? Do you see marriage and children in your future? Think about where you may be at 53... he will be 80. The key to any good relationship is communication. I suggest the two of you spend some time talking about all of this.
Recognize that you will you will both face a fair share of challenges... but what relationship doesn't? You need to do some soul searching to decide if pursuing this attraction is worth it. The most painful part that you may have to prepare yourself for is that it probably isn't worth it. I'm still trying to decide for myself.
2007-03-30 08:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's too much, but just try to picture a life 10, 20, 30 years from now and ask yourself if you can deal with the difference age is going to make? Sounds like you didn't have much of a father figure growing up and you are searching for one, and in that case I would say seek a little personal counseling to help sort out your feelings.
2007-03-30 08:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by Tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.I see alot of good-looking older men out there.Sean Connery still looks good.Hell,I'm 19 and think Diane Keaton is pretty good-looking.Don't worry about what your family/friends think.It's you that has the feelings.Just don't let it become a wierd father/daughter type relationship.I've actually dated a 31 year old.I really had no other problems except the typical ones any relationship can endure.
2007-03-30 08:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it is gross but there is an age gap there. He may be a nice guy and everything that you look for in a man but ........are you in love with him or what he does to you? What if you were to meet someone your own age and he did the same things to you? age is just a number but that is almost like dating your father. Anyway doesn't matter what everyone else thinks it's just what you think. good luck
2007-03-30 08:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by chazzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's gross. It's a little odd, and odds are it won't work out. You guys were probably brought up in two different worlds and two different sets of reality and rules. while there is probably some excitement to it now, seems like the differences are too great. But what do i know, it could work. Stranger couplings have lasted.
2007-03-30 08:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing but a number!
If you feel loved and cared about by him then don't care what other people say or think. Your happiness comes first.
2007-03-30 08:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by ♥April♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good one. I am 50 and my wife is 19. We are very happy together. Don't let anyone get in your business. Who cares about what everybody else thinks anyway.
2007-03-30 08:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by felippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number! Love is truly blind. If he makes you happy then go for it. When you're friends and family members see that you are truly happy they will all come around.
Good luck!
2007-03-30 08:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋