I'm a college student and I fell for one of my classmates who just got out of a long crazy relationship, is graduating this semester, and is moving to a different state. We met this semester. Every time we see each other the chemistry is obvious. We get along great! At times I even think that the feeling is mutual. I don't know what to do because I don't want to get hurt. I have a feeling I will end up getting hurt since my friend is moving in a month and the ex is still around. Any advice???
2007-03-30 07:40:19 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i fell for the wrong person once.. married him.. hes around the house somewhere.. at least he pays the bills..lol
2007-03-30 07:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's moving out of state. End of story. Long distance relationships don't survive usually. If he wants to keep coming back to visit you, that is something but he has to do that himself. I have a feeling you are going to be asking yourself, 'Should I drop everything and move with him - after all the chemistry is so great!' Big mistake. There will be other guys you share chemistry with, even if you can't imagine that right now. He got out of a long relationship (doesn't matter if it was crazy or not); he's not in a good place for you to start thinking about a relationship with him. He's probably eager to get back in the game; he may in fact be sharing 'chemistry' with a couple of girls - his way of broadcasting to the female world, 'I'm available!'
You did fall for the wrong person. As the comedian Rudner has said, 'I've never fallen in love. I've stepped in it plenty of times, though.' Consider yourself stepping in it.
2007-04-07 14:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put it on hold or remain friends. You can try for a long-distance relationship if there is more than chemistry between you two but it sounds like it's going to be hard especially with an ex around (who I am assuming still has feelings). However, I have a feeling you both need to experience more in life before making a decision to commit.
2007-03-30 14:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is just having a little fun for the last semester of his college experience. If there is no talk about staying in touch, seeing each other, or anything that makes you think you will be in contact with him, then there is your answer.
It amazes me how many girls write about this guy or that guy, but always say "I dont want to be hurt", well you roll the dice and you takes your chances. If you are so afraid of getting hurt than sit at home in the dark, and never talk to anyone so you will be sure that you wont be hurt. Take your relationship for what it is, and dont invest more into it than the other person is if you dont want to be hurt. You wont get hurt if you look at your situation realistically
2007-03-30 14:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast as you can in the opposite direction of this guy! Even though you are attracted to him, he just got out of a relationship and is on the rebound. Even if he were to be with you right now, it will only be temporary. Once he gets his "sea legs" back, he will move on to another person, or two or three. Been there and done it so I know what you are going through. You will meet someone else some day, trust me.
2007-03-30 14:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just a simple attraction you have towards this guy and friendship won't do any harm. But believe me its very difficuilt to have a long distance relationship and most don't even work out, because i have experienced it. Just think as if this was not mean't to be and surely you will find someone better than him.
Since you feel that you will end up getting hurt, then go with your heart and save yourself from being hurt from now itself than to regret it later in your life. Increase your friend circle and make new friends, and go on with life till you find your real prince charming.
2007-03-30 14:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by keepoff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, let it go. I know you may like this person alot but how serious can it be, if you've only known each other a few months, and if the ex is still around it's because they haven't let go yet.
Say your goodbyes and you'll probably meet someone great next semester.
2007-03-30 14:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing called "i fell for the wrong person.". you just fell in love with a person who just happens to leave after graduation. Make a move. Maybe this'll end well. If you really fell for him. Than you wont mind a long distance relationship.
2007-03-30 14:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by heavydeezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to sound bad, but try and let this one go ... If he's moving to another state, chances are that things will never be the same between you two. However, this doesn't mean that you two can't be friends, don't lose contact with him -- keep in touch!
It will be a shame if you invested so much emotion just to be let down :(
2007-03-30 14:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by rosie768 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all ican tell you is to follow whatever your heart is telling you and hope for the best but if it was me and i liked this person the way you say you do then i would tell her or her how i was feeling and take a chance at getting hurt but if your feelings arent that strong then itll be best if you just leave it alone
2007-03-30 14:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by lover boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a long thoughtful letter
thats the best thing for clarifying what you have or don't have
we always risk getting hurt , any time we even consider getting with somebody
I might not risk it anymore, especially anytime soon
2007-03-30 14:46:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋