been dating some one for six months and the sex is horrible, we literally don't have sex. its been this way for a while. I've tried talking about it and it is a different excuse every time. Other than that our relationship is perfect. leave, give it more time, I don't know what to do....
2007-03-30 07:36:10 · 28 answers · asked by snatcher 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sex is something you do for pleasure and love. If you care about this girl then stay with her. There are many things you can do to better sex. Sex for me use to be horrible also, but I am now engaged to the man who would not "pleasure" me very well. I look back now and realize that I would have regreted losing him over something like sex. Our sex life is great now and our relationship couldn't be better.
Dont let something like sex ruin a perfect relationship. You may never find someone out there as good as her!
2007-03-30 07:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by melinda p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Few people will agree with this, but sex is a VERY important part of the relationship. If the sex is bad, you shouldn't stay in a relationship that you are unsatisfied with...
Without sex you are basically just best friends, right?
I would try, instead of giving it more "time", give it something else! Try adding something to the sex, maybe toys or more foreplay, try new positions or try phone sex or cyber sex.
If she is not willing, or it still doesn't work... I'd say it's time to leave. Unless you are willing to have a perfect, sexless, relationship..... doesn't sound so perfect to me, though.
Best of luck, hun.
2007-03-30 07:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As impossible as this may sound, but the surrounding environment can also effect a mans sex drive. Has anything happened that caused him to be stressed about? Something could be bothering him either at work or what not and he just isn't ready to talk about it to get it off his chest. Most men have to sit and stew on things before they feel good enough to talk about it. There are so many possibilities that can effect a man't performance. He may not feel as though he satisfies you well enough and is kind of embarrassed about it. Maybe try fixing a nice dinner with no commotion around, with a candle or two, just a stress free environment, try a back rub or something to that effect, and start off slow romancing him. That may be what it takes. Put some spark into the relationship. Good luck, and I hope I was able to help a bit.
2007-03-30 07:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you find sex to be important, some it's very important others not. The reasons for not having sex also have to make sense. However, just because your dating for six months doesn't give you the go ahead to think you should have had sex yet. From your answers it seems leaving is the first option if you really think it's worth more than that give it time.
2007-03-30 07:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by sesa 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First find out WHY she is not interested in sex right now. Don't give up just yet....give it some time. If you really care about her then don't leave just yet. However, she does owe you a truthful explanation and if she just gives excuses then it may be time to re-think the relationship because then she is not being fair to you. Good luck!!
2007-03-30 07:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship. I had a guy I loved to be with (have sex with) but we just couldn't click otherwise. I had to leave. Now we both have found someone we click with in a broad spectrum of things.
So I would advise you to think long and hard if you want to stay in a relationship where there is no fire.
2007-03-30 07:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, stay with her.
If you really love her, don't ask her to do something that she don't want to do. Love not only about having a sex!
The meaning of love is deeper than sex, it's about keep a relationship forever, never make your lover sad, and the most important is your feeling, both of you. Make her understand and know you better for a while, I believe after she feel that you're a good guy for her, she will be yours.
2007-03-30 07:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by white jade 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think pressuring her into having sex with you would not be the way to go. if she doesn't want to have sex then she doesn't. if you want to know why, you should have a talk with her. ask her what is bothering her and tell her that she can tell you anything because i mean, don't you care about her and how she feels? she could be going through something in her life that "sex" is the last thing on her mind. stop being so selfish and ask the girl what's bothering her!!!!
it's either that or she might be sleeping with someone else....i hope this is not the case but....
GOOD LUCK!!...
2007-03-30 07:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by SMILES 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Sex is a vital part of any adult relationship. Without it, the relationship is doomed to fail.
If you really care for her, try to see what her issue is. Maybe she was abused or raped and has bad feelings about sex that you can help her work through.
2007-03-30 07:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lasting relationship is not built on sex. It is built on sharing life's experiences, caring for each other, enjoying being in each other's company, showing that you love each other in real ways, not just physical excitement.
When a woman gives herself to a man, that is the ultimate gift of self that she can give. It has to be more than a few minutes pleasure. If you love her and are willing to commit your life to her, then ask her to marry you. If she says yes, then follow through and enjoy a long married happiness together.
2007-03-30 07:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by rac 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋