Ok it is pity party time. I am the youngest of four the only girl in my family. I am always discounted. I am married and have a child. My husband does not discount me but the rest of the family does. Is there anything that I should do to let them know I should not be discounted?
I am constantly left out of important family discussions. For example, when I was 18 my grandmother in the hospital for 3 months I was unaware then 3 days before she died my aunt told me she was dying. I was living with my mother at the time I was still in high school. That is just the least of the times I have been left out of family things. Please keep in mind that was many years ago and nothing really has changed. Any suggestions? Please help.
BTW we have had to move in with my mother to help her she has a spinal dieses and moving out at this point is not an option.
2007-03-30 06:37:23 · 5 answers · asked by Mrs. Mac 4 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
whats that mean? are you wal-mart baby?
2007-03-30 06:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by ashlandtree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed that one of my relatives was always discounted in family decisions and discussions. She wasn't told when her own mother was dying. I asked why and they told me, 'She just doesn't handle these emotional things very well' I could kind of understand it but I thought as consequences of behavior go, that was pretty harsh.
You are living with your mother. This must mean that you know a lot about her problems and the decisions she faces. If you are being shut out of those kinds of topics that deal with your mother's situation, then that truly is a serious problem - after all, you are her daughter and you are living with her.
The only suggestion I have is to ask questions. Write down the answers and who gave you the answers so that you can remember them. You may be so far on the fringe of family politics that people don't feel they have to be truthful with you. At some point, they will realize that you are listening, you do want to know what is going on, you do keep track of things and so they should be honest and give you information.
Also, be as helpful as you can. Whenever you want to help, everyone is more friendly - we all need help.
2007-04-03 13:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out anyway and let the rest of the family care for her. Since they don't include you in the family, you are not obligated to be their servant.
2007-03-30 13:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried talking to them about this? they may feel they are protecting you and not realize how much it is hurting you to be left out of important family events.
2007-03-30 14:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by royalldybg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cope! It's all you can do.
2007-03-30 13:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋