Training for one specific sport. She gets up at 6AM to practise before shcool and is in bed by 8PM every single night. No deviations. She is not allowed to attend birthday parties, sleepovers, or other activities. Every single spare moment she has, aside from 1-2 hours per night for homework (which he surpervises) are spent in training. He also closely monitors her diet and body fat percentage. The saddest thing is, she's not that good. She almost always comes in last. He often talks about how disappointing her performance is.
Personally, I think it's child abuse. Unfortunately, the authorities disagreed with me. And I'm glad it's not my kid.
2007-03-30 06:26:40 · 28 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I never said I was butting in. I just think it's a horrible life for a little kid. And this kid is miserable. My kid is in the same class and said child is continuously complaining, sometimes even crying because they are so exhausted and sick of not having a life outside the sport. All this kid wants is to go out and play with friends - yet Daddy even takes the kid during lunchbreak sometimes to go put in 30 minutes of training. In my unprofessional opinion, the guy is a nutjob.
2007-03-30 06:39:12 · update #1
I agree with you that it is a form of child abuse. Unfortunately such things are not illegal so there isn't much we can do about it. She's not being raped/molested nor is she being beaten, and it seems like that is the only time the authorities will step in. Parents like that should never have had children. If he wants to treat people that way he should have ranked his way up in the military so he could boss people around and force them to train tirelessly.
2007-03-30 06:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Didn't the authorities at least check it out? They should. We would, here in Alberta. Although, the risk level would be quite low. Here we have to basically wait for 3 complaints before any real action is taken. Our hands are tied in a lot of ways. It sounds like mental abuse, which is reportable. Try again with a different intake worker.
Poor little girl....:(
2007-03-30 06:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by 1K 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the world is in for yet another screwed up kid getting pitched from the parents house for not being good enough. Poor kid, she'll have to spend the rest of her life recovering from this nonsense.
Whoever you are, if you are a friend to her, stay by her. Be there when she figures out what kind of bs this is, and when she's incapable of living in the real world. She'll need a good friend.
2007-03-30 06:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by robin0408 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it IS abuse. You are right. Unless this child WANTS to train for a sport this vigorously, it's damaging to her ego and self-esteem and it won't help her father/daughter relationship in the end, either. She will grow up to dislike her father and avoid him as an adult. He is taking away her childhood. Did you talk to the counselor at this girl's school? Can you talk to her father and tell him how he is hurting her? Good luck.
2007-03-30 06:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she seems to have a rough childhood from the outside looking in but did you ever think that perhaps this is what she wants? A guy I work with has a 10yr old girl who is a gymnast. She took it upon herself to get up early and go to the gym and to go there after school and on weekends. She liked it, a lot. Now she is taking a break and her parents are still doing what they have always done, supporting her decisions. Perhaps that is what this father is doing. And who is anyone to judge how good a 10yr old is? As long as she does what she loves who cares!
2007-03-30 06:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by cupid6980 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think that the kid will go and be ok with it up to the age of 13 around if it's a girl. a boy it will resist up to the age of 15-16. after then a period of clashes in the familly if the father does not chsnge the child turn to drugs, alcahool, and becomes what none of the parents want the child to be.
2007-03-30 06:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by debyfrim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's age 10 which is older than he thinks. If she doesn't start to win soon (tennis, skating, gymnastics whatever) they will send her away and tell him she's not competitive material. Then you'll probably find out what the extent of the real problem is and I'll bet the authorities will have some say so in that.
2007-03-30 20:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Norman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is not okay with this, she needs to speak up about it to her teachers at school and her trainers. This is definitely abuse - mostly emotional abuse. If she can get help from someone in authority, she may be able to go to a foster home. It's a shame that her father is pushing his own agenda on her and not trying to find out what she would excel at due to her own talents.
2007-03-30 06:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Nadine - Unity CEO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's abuse has a lot to do with whether she's complying willingly or not. Otherwise, it's just very bad parenting, the most likely outcome of which is a daughter with self-supervision issues and an eating disorder. If she goes along with it because she wants the outcome as badly as he does, then it's just bad parenting. If he's forcing her, or emotionally manipulting her into it, then it's more clearly abusive.
2007-03-30 06:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by Alison R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sport.s very healthy for every one,and it's great if we can make time to take our kids to play work out or to play some kind of sport,the important thing is to make sure our kids like what we want them to do or play,I think the father here is over protecting his little girl,and scared that she'll get around the wrong freinds ,looks like he loves his daughter very much but he has to remember hi's not in the army and she's just a little kid who likes to play with other kids ,don't loose her love ,ask her what she likes to do don't force her to do what you like.good luck
2007-03-30 06:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by mounir s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋