Well me and my bf have been living together for 1 year. We have a rule about talking to our ex's or people we slept with we agreed we wouldn't do it. One thing about my bf is that he claims he so innocent even when i go to his myspace page and see him leave comments to females, one comment i seen he said " he would love to hit it like that" on one of the womens page, which then i developed a trust issue. So now i see him always acting suspcious and trying to make me jealous which doesn't sit well with me. so anyways i see his cell phone lying around so i go through it i found out that he still talks to his ex girl and see texts him, he's talking to another female i never knew of. Man am i wrong for getting upset at him for what i seen? And should i still trust him after that?
2007-03-30 06:11:19 · 23 answers · asked by nunya n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't trust someone who did something like that
gw
2007-03-30 06:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all you shouldn't snoop because you might not like what you will find. And as far as you looking for people who he left comments on myspace... UH crazy!! Remember its the internet. You can tell as many people as you want that you would hit that and it is not cheating he is just saying that he would. But the ex girlfriend next time be a woman and call her over or something or aske her to meet. Then you can tell her the situation with the deal you made with your bf. Let her know in a grown up way that you would appreciate her not calling or texting because you are with him and have been for some time now. Everything can always be handled in a calm manner but as far as your man you really need to let him have it because if you are being a "good girl" then you should let him know how you feel and let him know if he doesn't stop then you are going to leave. Life if too short to be stressing over a stupid a$$ man!
2007-03-30 13:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by candyvision06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your married, it's always wrong to snoop. He's just your boyfriend and since you've only been together for a year, there isn't enough grounds for you to have that snooping authorities. If you two had been together for like 5 years and not married then you have privilege to snoop.
Secondly any type of bloggin or my space type pages will help to end relationships. Most of the people on those sites are in relationships but lie. They say what people want to hear in their comments and in mail sent. Unless he is the cheating type don't worry about it, he's all talk. Don't look at his my space page, it will make you jealous because of how many(girl) friends he has or how many times he comments these girlfriends.
2007-03-30 13:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Tarabeara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are very right for getting upset. If when you two got together, it was understood that you were not to be talking to ex partners and he is than yes, you have a right. In terms of messages he is leaving on MySpace. What was the context of this message? "He would love to hit it like that" what does this mean??
However, If he is breaking his promise to you, something that both of you had agreed upon and you have seen what you feel are innapropriate messages left on-line on his cellphone, etc. You have the right to not only be upset about it, you should talk to him about it.
Any person who you are with that would intentionally try to make you jeleous is not someone worth your time.
think about it. I hope this helps
2007-03-30 13:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by teddybeargirrrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What trust? He continues to talk to his ex even after you both agreed on a rule regarding exes. I don't agree with snooping, but now that you have this information you need to determine whether you can live with a guy you can't trust and will continue to try to play this "I'm innocent" game with you even when you know otherwise.
2007-03-30 13:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say "We have a rule," but it sounds like it's your rule and your bf doesn't really want to have that rule and that he just agreed to go along with you. I bet that he is not the one that suggested the rule.
The comment you saw where he said " he would love to hit it like that" doesn't really mean that he intends to act on that.
You shouldn't have snooped. If you don't trust him then you should just leave the relationship.
You've caught him breaking the rules, so you should probably just leave the relationship.
To me you sound insecure and demanding. I suggest that you work on yourself a little bit before your next relationship.
2007-03-30 13:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by itsme2033 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have trust issues and rightfully so. Your man doesn't deserve to be trusted. Think about the things he's doing that you DON'T know about. The situation is only going to get worst. Get out now while you still have a chance to find a decent man.
2007-03-30 13:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by teacher101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is calmly address your discovery with him, and ask him what the deal is. Discuss it rationally, hear him out, and listen...carefully. There is no need to get angry at him at this point; what would that solve? If he is undecided, and you want a more serious relationship, simply walk away, hate-free. If you choose to stay, could you ever trust him again, or would you live in ambivalence every time he left the house? If so, no fair to either of you...Good luck.
2007-03-30 13:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you have ever right to do some snooping if you felt things weren't right. Hey, I've done it before and it saved me plently of heartache.
In my last relationship, if I didn't do some "investigating", I wouldn't have known that my (now Ex) boyfriend was screwing around with another girl. He lied to her and he lied to me . Yes, I got the hell out of that relationship before things became too much for me to handle.
Not saying that your situation is the same, but if your boyfriend gave you reasons then you definately NOT wrong for snooping.
Just by caughting him in a (very unnessary) lie proves how trustworthy he really is ....
2007-03-30 13:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by rosie768 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this if you were doing these things would he be okay with it? Next thing you need to ask yourself is do you want to spend the rest of your life with a man you cant trust? If youve seen something that upsets you, you dont have to ask other ppl if your just to feel the way you feel. If you feel this way its for a reason, and nobody should judge YOUR FEELINGS. If you feel this way its for a reason. You need to do some soul searching.
2007-03-30 13:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust has to be earned and in a realtionship if your sneaking around talking to people or saying innaproproate things your not earning teh other persons trust. I don't blame you for looking and continue looking, you have a right to know what's going on and if he's not going to tell you, well then you do what you can.
2007-03-30 13:21:14 · answer #11 · answered by Autumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋