Recently went out with a woman,and we got "busy" on the first date, and now I am telling her to slow down because I haven't had a chance to get to know her, and she is already telling me she "Loves" me. Am I in the wrong for telling her not to say the "L" word to me, or should I just let her go, and not even worry about it?
2007-03-30 05:34:29 · 45 answers · asked by Nije L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stalker! Let this one go before it becomes a terrible thing. Watch out though, she will probably threaten you if you try to break up with her. She sounds like a nut to me.
2007-03-30 05:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well since you told her and she's still not listening I would just f. u.c.k. her and let her say whatever she wants. She's only hurting herself she knows better. Women cannot separate the difference. So she should have never taken it there in the first place. She deserves what's coming to her, which is a broken heart. Because you know it's too soon to be feeling this way. She's a freak also, you never sleep with someone on the first date. It would make me think, "wow, how many x's have they done this".
2007-03-30 05:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u were wrong 2 get busy on the 1st date. u should sit her down and explain 2 her that u want it 2 work out but it jus cant if she continues 2 tell u she loves u. if u really like her and u want 2 b with her then do it nicely. dont have sex again until ur sure u feel the same way she does. if u dont want 2 b with her n the same way then dont lead her on. jus tell her straight up that its jus not workin and ur sry that everything went so fast and that shell find someone who will want the same thing she does.
2007-03-30 05:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by aj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting physical on a first date isn't wrong if you BOTH want it... When she said she "loves" you, she was just using the man tactic trying to get you in the sack...
If you are looking for something serious... try finding someone else, if you are up for a fling, go for it! And a "fling" can turn into something more, sometimes... just so you know.
2007-03-30 05:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow,
she could be a bit insecure,
fast at love,
could be very passionate, one of those love at first sight believers,
But I truely think if a girl puts out on the first date, there's something wrong.
I think your doing the right thing, telling her to slow it down,. just don't blow her off, keep your word and actually get to know her. The you can decie if she's too much for you or just right.
Good Luck
2007-03-30 05:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to hear that. my husband & i got "busy" on our first date but there was such a love & first sight connection that we just couldnt help it. we were engaged 4 months & married in 8. the connection was much more than physical. it worked out for me but sounds like you didnt make the love connection.
(by the way we have been married for 4 years & have never even had a arguement)
2007-03-30 05:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by tire chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met this guy on vibe line, we chatted on the phone for a couple days and decided to meet well, lets just say he did not fit his decription AT ALL!! and he told me he had been saving his money since he was 25 to get married, well he thought i was gorgeous and said i was the one, i freaked out seeing that we had just met over the phone a few days before and he was ready to settle down with me and we hadn't even been out on a real date. so i say talk to her first and let her know that she needs to pump her brakes hard, down to the metal if necessary, but if she wants to continue to see you in order to get to no you better this would be her best option.
signed:
living for the weekend
2007-03-30 05:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by bigseccey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're right. She can't love you on the 1st date, the hardly knows anything about you. I know people who have been going out for 4 months and they don't even love eachother. Just take it slow.
2007-03-30 05:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
some women can't seperate love and sex. i think you probably did a good thing by telling her you want to slow down. i would sit her down and tell her you're not comfortable with using the "L" word because you don't feel you know her well enough to have those feelings yet!
2007-03-30 05:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by JM 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to slow down on all that love talk, but keep the physical stuff comin strong.
2007-03-30 05:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋