My dad just had a heart attack.
i know this may sound stupid but i feel like i caused it for some reason.
I want to blame myself, but why?
2007-03-30 05:16:38 · 23 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Maybe because it's easier to blame something/someone than to think it happened for no reason and not understand why. I don't know why you would say that you were to blame (maybe you two had just had a fight or something), but know that you, in truth, are absolutely not to blame. It wasn't your fault -- these things just happen sometimes. I hope that your dad is okay, and your family is in my prayers. God bless.
2007-03-30 05:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Katiecat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature to want to pin the blame for such a tragedy on someone. When it's something that's really no one's fault and there is no one to blame, it's also natural to turn the blame on oneself. Just because it's natural, though, does not make it healthy.
This is not your fault. Even if you haven't talked to your dad in years or if you had a fight last night, nothing you did caused it. It's okay to be sad and/or worried. Talk to a family member or friend to get through this difficult time. I hope everything gets better for you and your family real soon.
2007-03-30 12:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't cause it. You couldn't possibly cause it. It's caused by your father's health, for which he and he alone is responsible.
Maybe you want to blame yourself because you wish you could rescue him from this, or maybe you feel like if your father's life was imperfect it had something to do with you. But it doesn't.
It could also be that you're misinterpreting your signals of love and concern into guilt. It's okay. Awareness of our parents' mortality is never easy to cope with. Just know that you are a gift in his life, you are his continuance after he's gone. In that sense, you can save him. Our children are our immortality.
2007-03-30 12:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had an argument lately with your dad? Have you been mad at your dad without him even knowing it? Even if you answer both questions with a no, we still feel responsible for those we love or for our family. If we feel guilty because we said something years ago, it all comes back when they are suffering. Go to you dad and do anything you can to help him and your mom. This will remove the guilt feelings.
2007-03-30 12:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself.
You need to be your best for your parents right now. You can't do this if you blame yourself.
God bless your family at this time, and may he bless your dad with a speedy recovery. Do your part, he is going to need you. Stress is not good for heart patients. He is going to need things as peaceful and calm as possible.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-30 12:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's awful! I'm so sorry to hear that, mate!
You didn't do anything wrong; don't listen to those who want you to have a guilty conscience. You did not cause your father to have a heart attack--there was an outlying circumstance as to why it happened. Heart attacks don't occur randomly; some medical condition had to cause it, such as cholesterol, fatty buildup in the heart, etc.
I am sincerely sorry to hear that, and I want you to contact me if there's anything I can do for you.
2007-03-30 12:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As i read your question i had a thought. If we are all indeed connected/one. Dont you think that maby with people closest to us we really do feel unity. Maby your dad blames himself. So you feel the same way? Dont know just a thought. But please dont blame yourself it was not your heart and not your body and not your fault.
Sorry for your situation and hope your dad gets better.
2007-03-30 12:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Energybeing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself Bobby... heart attacks are caused by blocked veins or arteries and other health-related things, not by good kids who are just trying to make it in the world.
Hang in there... we're here for you and here's to wishes that he has a speedy recovery.
_()_
2007-03-30 12:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by vinslave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you blame yourself. Don't. I hope he's okay. My Dad had a heart attack two years ago . It was fatal and I was sure it was my fault. Talk to someone you can really open up to; someone you can cry with. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT.
2007-03-30 12:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature to want to blame someone, even if it's yourself. I assure you, you did not cause his heart attack and are not to blame for it. If you can't let this feeling go then I would reccommend some therapy.
2007-03-30 12:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by LX V 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋