I'll be 26 in April and I can honestly say I've never been intimate with a girl, not even kissed. The nearest I've been is hugging, holding hands and a kiss on the cheek.
I think I am deffinately social phobic because I feel extremely uncomfortable around some people especially when there's a crowd. I barely have any friends let alone finding a girlfriend.
2007-03-30 04:34:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is not strange at all. Personally, I got married for the first time at age 37 and I was a virgin going into the wedding. We dated for a little over a year and we decided from the get go that sex would not enter the picture until the honeymoon. We were both virgins at the wedding (she was 26 at the time.) Being shy is normal. Some guys don't "date" well. Some girls don't either. Just give it time! You are stil lvery young and have many years ahead of you to date more, become more affectionate and be able to express yourself more freely and openly with a woman. Remember, they are just people too. The shy tendencies you have, may be the same things she has. I would hope that you decide not to give into temptations and have sex with the first woman that shows that type of interest in you. If that is all she is wanting, then that relationship probably won't last too long anyway. Respect the woman for who she is. Talk to her and discuss things. If you are in a relationship for a while, talk about sex and the expectations you have going into a relationship. If she has similar feelings then you have connected on an entirely new and deeper (and more intimate) level and those things will last in a true loving relationship. Women are not sex toys. They are living, breathing humas just like men. treat them with kindness and love, and they will return it in kind. Honesty goes a lot farther than deception. Good luck with your future dates and the one woman who's heart you eventually win over completly!!!
P.S. about the other issues you have about being phobic of people in a crowd, the more people you are around, the more your social skills will improve. This means being around other guys and women. If you hang out with a group of guys, does not mean you are gay. It's good to have friends of the same gender. Guys like to do things that women don't and vice versa. I personally enjoy the fact that my wife has a few close "women friends". She's happy I have a few good "guy friends". Just get out there and socialize more. get involved with community activities. Persoanally, I'd stay away from the clubs and bars because of the stereotypical type of people that hang out there. If you go to church, get involved with church activities that will have you socializing with other church members. etc.
2007-03-30 05:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by bookworm019 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You are not weird at all, and you are really following God's word. You shouldn't have sex til you are married. So I think that you're doing alright. You just need to break the social-phobic barrier and get a girlfriend. Just be yourself, be polite, and start making an effort to find new friends.
2007-03-30 04:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is bad or weird at all, however u do need too get and meet people, your life will be at a stand still if u don't socialize w/ people., I'm not saying a big crowd but a few. Good luck and have a great w-end.
2007-03-30 04:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by bdgizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too strange. You have to come to a decision to step out of your shell (so to speak). Once you make up your mind to find someone, you will. Look around you; there may be someone in your life who could possibly be a girlfriend.
If not, take a college class or two. You might meet someone with similiar interest too.
2007-03-30 04:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by dam_9191 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not abnormal per say... being shy is okay, if it is bothering you, kind of start putting yourself out there... you may even talk to your doctor about social anxiety... it is very common... I hope you get it worked out. As far as still being a virgin, that is okay, it is a very special thing and it will mean more when you meet that person that deserves to have you.
2007-03-30 04:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it shows that you respect women.
You really need to get over this social phobia though. You have to put yourself out there. Yea, someone may make fun of you, or be mean to you for no reason, but if they do that, it's just because they're insecure with themselves, and have to put someone else down to make themselves feel better. Yea, you risk getting hurt, but you're risking not living life to its full potential. Not living life is worse than getting hurt and getting over it.
What doesn't kill you will make you stronger.
2007-03-30 04:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not weird at all. My husband was 28 when we met. He was never in a relationship before.
He turned out to be the most romantic guy I have even known.
2007-03-30 04:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not weird I know a girl friend of mine who is 26 and still a virgin..and I have another girl friend who is 33 and has never had a boyfriend
2007-03-30 04:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by Dani021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not
2015-12-23 06:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by ricardo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it you will find someone.
2007-03-30 04:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋