I have the sweetest little 3yr. old in the world, but she is very, very sensitive about almost everything. She is very attached to her mother. Her mood almost changes when mommy is around. With me, she is totally different. She doesn't need me as much as her mommy. When mommy is around, she wants to be held, is whiny and cryish, moody, and sensitive to everything in her environment. What do you suggest?
2007-03-30 04:20:30 · 8 answers · asked by Ron B. 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
my 3 year old sounds like that.....
Recently I have had to be really tough about insisting that she says things in a "nice voice" not a whiny voice...and give her a little script to say.
With the wanting to be held...I do notice her getting more clingy when I am more distracted and busy......I try to slow down when I notice her becoming like that and be more affectionately physical with her....more hugs and kisses and physical play......but I won`t put up with nonsense (like having to be carried everywhere).
She recently has started falling apart when I get angry with her about something....sobbing and saying "Mummy`s angry!" I am trying to be careful that I don`t let her manipulate me into letting her get away with things.....and at the same time trying to be firm not angry in my responses to things.
My daughter is very like me...and I often feel things very strongly, the joys and the sadnesses....like somehow there is that layer of insulation missing.
Life will toughen her up, like it or not...... just continue to be her loving parent.
2007-03-30 07:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by psychokitty 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 19:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww... you sound like you have a very sweet little girl. However - she sounds like MY little 1 1/2 year old. The second my husband walks in the door she flips a switch and is all happy dory. I am a stay at home mom so I am with her all day every day and she is whiny, cryish, moody, and sensitive to everything because I am always there to comfort her and give her attention WHICH is probably the problem. I think that I, and your wife, need to toughen her up a bit and not give into everything she cries about. When she bumps her little head against the couch cushion instead of mommy picking up and consoling her just acknowledge it by saying "Oh, you silly girl - you bumped your head" and move on.
2007-03-30 04:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife may unintenially be encourage the behavior because it makes her feel needed and wanted as her little girl is growing up. As hard as it is for her, your wife needs to let your daughter know it is time for mommy to cook dinner for example and she needs to play by herself. Use a pack-n- play or gate if a physical barrier is needed. She will cry initially but in time when she feels more secure she will slowly not need your wife anymore. Also, enrolling her in preschool or daycare part time will be a big help. When she drops her off, she needs to say good-byes and I love you. From experience as a teacher, the more a parent hangs around the more a child will fuss when the parent leaves, (my son included). If your wife doesn't start to separate herself from your daughter even at home, you wife will go nuts and your child will have a difficult time transitioning to kindergarten.
2007-03-30 04:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by ma2snoopy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids, boy 5 1/2 , girl 4. They both behave differently around me and my wife, because we are different with them. I get a little less whiny-ness, and crying than my wife because, I think, I take less "guff"* and at the same time I handle most situations with humor. When my wife does these things also she also gets less whiny-ness and crying.
*at the first sign of "guff" I get down to their level, use a deeper voice, and very clearly state that crying has to be stopped because your a big girl now you can use your words, and we can't get to "y" until you use your normal voice (instead of whinning), for example. Most important, you back each other up, and don't disagree about it in front of the kids. Also, whatch Super Nanny.
2007-03-30 04:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Rich Mike 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's just the law of the land! Children almost always act differently with each parent.
Your wife may need to toughen up a bit and not give in the the whining and crying. My son always says, "Help me", to me, when he wants to be picked up. I tell him, "Help yourself." However, he never pulls that with my husband. Mommies are always the soft place to fall, so as long as there is balance, I don't see a major problem with it.
Most likely, she'll grow out of it on her own, and you'll be begging for those days back.
2007-03-30 05:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by isisrocca82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say spend more time with her away from home, she will get use to the new environment soon She may cry but do not loss your mind and yell just show her love and things will turn out ok
2007-03-30 04:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try spending more time with her take her to the park or just take her somewhere she loves and spend some time with her play with her or just wait till she grows up she will change by herself ...
2007-03-30 05:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by red_lagguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋