should i ask God to reveal it to me in a dream i don't know if i will i be able to handle it
2007-03-30 04:11:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think God would tell you to respect your finace's privacy
2007-03-30 04:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Velouria 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do either one of two things: either confront your fiance or privately forgive him and do not bring the topic up at all. If you insist on knowing, then you must be able to handle it in forgiveness or your marriage to him will not succeed. Having secrets is a controversial topic. One viewpoint says that everyone has the right to privacy and the right to have secrets. The other viewpoint says that there should be no secrets, that everything should be brought out into the open. A marriage is based on trust, not secrecy. If your fiance is not willing to divulge the secret it may be that he is fearful that you will not be forgiving and that you will break off the engagement. Without knowing the secret it is impossible to tell whether it would affect the marriage. Sometime people keep secret the silliest things for fer of rejection or judgment when the thing that they are hiding doesn't mean anything to anybody. What I would consider extremely private you might consider extremely trivial. Do not trust your dreams on anything. the devil loves to infiltrate a person's mind at night and plant ridiculous thoughts and them make them seem as real. He does it to me all the time, so I ignore my dreams. My advice to you is to leave it alone. Pray to God that your fiance will confess his secret to you and that you will be able to receive it in forgiveness. Let God do the work---this is a promise that he has made to those who love him and believe in him.
2007-03-30 11:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see. You are planning to marry someone who has a secret, and the answer may be so devastating that you won't be able to handle it?
I think you need to leave God out of the equation and tell your fiance your problem. If the secret is a small issue now it will just get worse as time goes by. Get this out in the open and tell your fiance why it is so important to you. Either you get truth and respect, which every marriage needs, or you get secrecy, which means you should not get married or you won't stay married long. I guess your fiance is not telling because of worry about your reaction.
2007-03-30 11:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several times in scripture where God reveals things to people through dreams (or visions). But I do not recall a scripture that says to pray for a dream or the promises God will give you information that way.
My pastor has said more that once that there are three sources to "dreams", God, satan, and pizza after midnight. So I would hestitant to pray for a revelation in that way.
The Bible does, however, have many promises that God will give us guidance and wisdom when we need it. One of my favorites is James 1:5 "If any man lacks wisom, let him ask of God who give to all men generous, and without finding fault".
Rather that ask for "a dream", ask for "wisdom". Then if you need to know the secret, God can reveal it (by dream or otherwise). If it would be better that you not know, God can reveal that also. But asking for his wisdom, rather than for the secret, you can be sure that you get the knowledge you really need for the right action and decisions.
2007-03-30 11:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think God will reveal it to you like that, or at all for that matter.
I used to be so obsessed when my husband didn't tell me something. I couldn't stand it when he was hiding something from me. We have been married a long time now and I have learned that not everything is my business. Almost everytime when I found out what it was I felt silly because it was usually nothing to worry about.
Pray for patience, if you fiance wants to talk about it he will, if not, just accept the fact that not everything is for us to know. Don't you have a few harmless secrets? I know I sure do.
2007-03-30 11:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by AJM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not like some sort of genie in a bottle.
If you can not ask your fiance a direct question, and he answer it in all truthfulness, then maybe this isn't the strongest relationship.
As far as being able to "handle it" I can not imagine that you would want to proceed in ignorance, for fear of being unable to "handle it."
2007-03-30 11:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray as you want, but you seem to already to know some truth. You know the truth that your future mate is keeping secrets. If he keeps them now, it will only be magnified after the marriage.
Rather than God revealing the secret, I think you need to pray that He reveal who your fiancee really is. The secret is only an outward symptom of the inner issue.
2007-03-30 11:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Linder 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk with your fiance about it. Ask God whether or not it's something you need to know. Ask Him to reveal it to you if it is. Otherwise, why worry about it?
2007-03-30 11:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Evan S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't do 2 much revealing like that anymore these days.
2007-03-30 11:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by DwayneWayne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding of asking "GOD" for this problem ? Just ask your fiance about that secret !
2007-03-30 11:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just let it drop.
Although if you're worried about 'handling' the secrets your guy is keeping from you, then I would seriously re-think the engagement
2007-03-30 11:14:32 · answer #11 · answered by LX V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋