Why do pepole say that I act better than them just because I am a follower of Jesus Christ?

Question

I don't say anything to provoke this answer. I'm usually pretty quiet, but when it comes to immoral behavior I tell people I want nothing to do with those things, or actions. I don't swear and they automatically think I'm acting better than them. Whats wrong with this picture?

See this is just what I'm talking about. I never said I was better than anyone, if anything Im on the bottom of the dogpile, because people (not my friends) keep trying to kick me while I'm already down. I now realize that this is a catch 22 situation. So go ahead and just keep on kicking me.

Answer 1

you sound like an arrogant pr@&k to me. Stop acting so superior.

Answer 2

Probably because you act 'holier than thou'. I can just picture your expounding on immoral behavior. Get over it. Try acting like a normal person and unless someone asks you directly, you can just say it's not something you do without going on and on about how immoral it is or some other attitude. It's called wearing your religion on your sleeve. If that isn't the image you want, then you need to put your ego away and see how others are seeing you.

I appreciate that you don't cuss. Few of my relatives do unless they are working on cars or furnaces, so it's very uncomfortable for me to be around someone who does all the time. On the other hand, it is also a speech habit...I just have to decide whether I like the person enough to ignore their habit. Sometimes that is a resounding yes.

Answer 3

Perhaps you are sending out a "superiority" vibe and you don't even realize it. Maybe it's something in your tone, or your eyes. You may not be aware of it, but others can pick up on stuff like that in a heartbeat.

No one likes to be judged, and just possibly you're sending a signal that that's exactly what you're doing.

Even within your question, there lies a subtle tone of condescension. I'm sure you don't mean it, but there it is.

Do you really need to tell people you're a follower of J.C. (if they haven't asked.)? Is it really anybody's business but your own? Do you need to share that you want nothing to do with immoral behavior or actions? Would it be possible to disagree privately (and without saying a word)?

I think you underestimate the power of silence.

Answer 4

I think that's wonderful that you choose to be how you want to be and not let anyone block that..don't worry about others.. they question their own behavior and that's on them.

Being Godly in a worldly world is a challenge, but you are doing what you can to get through it..people have questioned my eating habits and my choices have stemmed from religious upbringings..again people begin to question their own beliefs and behaviors and sometimes they feel defensive because you might seem more secure with who you and what are..that's a blessing..be proud of it..

Eventually,if you haven't already, you will attract like minded people who support your beliefs as well.

Answer 5

They don't understand. They probably weren't raised Christian and never had any friends who were serious Christians, and don't really know anything about the religion and why Christians act the way they do. So to them, it seems like arrogance, that you're shunning them personally, and not just what they do. You should take the time to explain this to them. If you have, and they still can't deal with it, then it's probably time to find new friends.

Answer 6

You have a right to your choices, as long as you are not harming others. And that is what I would tell people who say you are playing "holier than thou"

My experience has been that a lot of Christians think that their religion is the only way to get to God - and they'll voice their opinion about that regularly. Other religions, of course, don't believe that, and it rubs them the wrong way. So - that could be part of your problem.

Answer 7

The fact of the matter is, you cannot win either way. I know this sounds really cynical, but it's true.
Let's suppose you call yourself a Christian, but you still do things that others perceive as a sin. Well, then you're a hypocrite.
On the other hand, if you call yourself a Christian and try not to sin, then you're a prude, and you're self-righteous, stuck-up, and "holier-than-thou."

My advice to you is to concentrate on your own walk. Don't worry too much about what others think. Worry about what GOD thinks.

Answer 8

I have found that most Christians just seem to have that "air" about them, I don't spend time around Christians for that fact, if you do something they see as wrong, instead of explaining thier beliefs and why they see something as wrong they just act like the thing in question is horrid and that anyone that has anything to do with it is too.. it makes the non-christian think that the person they are dealing with thinks they are better than them.

Answer 9

There`s nothing wrong with this picture, there`s obviously something wrong with the people you hang out with. Have you ever heard the saying (holier than thou)? They falsley think that of you, just because you won`t be led in to temptation.They may know that their actions are wrong, so blame you. Ignore them , or find new friends.

Answer 10

because deep inside they long for the strength to stand strong in something that just makes good sense.

Its like putting a bunch of crabs in a bucket. When one crab tries to break loose and climb over the edge, the others will reach up and pull him back in.

Answer 11

If they say you are simply acting better, that only means you are better behaved. If they say you are acting smug, or looking for attention, perhaps it has to do with attitude.

Then again, some people believe that if you don't whish to partake in more base acts, that you are some sort of priss. That's their deal though.

Be yourself, act with dignity, and don't put others down for the way they act; they aren't you.