i was kinda seeing this guy for 5 months but had been crazy about him for years . anyway he was just out of a 3 year relationship when we got together i know stupid because of rebound but i wasn't missing out on the chance to get to know him like i did six years ago, the relationship he had just came out of was ended by her and he wanted to get married so i guess he took things bad but he never told me. we ended things on a very bad note 2 months ago i said things that i didn't mean and i hope so did he. i wasn't putting pressure on him but he knew i wanted a relationship which he said his not ready for so i have lost him again away.
my problem is that i see him from time to time as i work in the town where he lives i do still like him but am getting on with things, up till now i have been ignoring just letting on i don't see him. i don't like doing this as i think life is too short for not talking. so should i just say hello or continue with ignoring him.
2007-03-30 02:59:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
say hello --- there may be a good friendship there
2007-03-30 03:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say hello to him, and talk to him if you're ready. If you can talk to him without immediately wishing you could be with him, etc. Personally it seems too soon, they say it takes 1/2 as long as you were in the relationship to get over it--as in, if you were in a relationship for two months, it takes one month to get over it. But if you've known this guy for a long time, it may take longer. I think that you're on the right track with getting over him, and I wouldn't mess it up by saying anything to him.
I was in a 2 1/2 year relationship, and after the really bad break-up, every so often I'd want to be friends with him, and talk to him. Each time I did, I realized that it wasn't good for me at all, because he pulled the same crap he did when we were together--making me feel small, not good enough, etc. So I stopped all together, because this break-up was my chance to become a better person, and he was like a poision in my life.
2007-03-30 10:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you write him an email and say you said things you didn't mean and that you felt uncomfortable when you saw him in the street and didn't know whether to say hello or not. You understand that he doesn't want a relationship but you would at least like to be friendly when you bump into each other. Then you will have offered the olive branch. If you haven't got his email I would say say hello in the street and say do you have a sec.
I wouldn't bother trying to get back with him though as he has made it clear he doesn't want a relationship and thats what you deserve. xx
2007-03-30 10:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see him, go and say hi. Come across friendly & casual. Ask him how he is and see where it goes from there.
He's most likely going to be polite back to you.
Maybe you'll become friends, or even more! But there's definitely no need in ignoring him when you don't want to.
2007-03-30 11:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a five month relationship and two months since the breakup, I would give it more time before you start speaking to him. I would suggest another two to three months...He needs time to heal as well. It just seems that two months is not quite enough time....
2007-03-30 10:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by happy4u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋