what should i do?they may try to make him forget me case if we want to marry we shoul wait for at least 4 years untill we finish univerciy.
2007-03-30 02:38:02 · 10 answers · asked by hiiiii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
have been together for a year,trough lots of ups and downs but we are still together!
i am scared of his familly,they think he should marry a girl whome they chose for him actually not a girl who is his g/f!
they think he diserves more than me!
but i am pretty and very honest!
i am stuiding a good sbj at uni and i have a good familly.
oh almost forgot to say ma familly hate him to but i think they are more flixible than his.
help me ADVISE me!
thanx
2007-03-30 02:57:53 · update #1
your man needs to put his foot down and tell his family to leave him alone. get out of his business and his life is his life. you guys are both happy and deserve each other and talking about marriage. if your boyfriend decides not to marry you because of his family then he is not a real man and needs to grow up so he can make his own decisions. you two need to worry about each other.
my family hates my wife, but you see what i said "MY WIFE," yes i got married because we are happy and she is more then just my wife.
tell you man to grow up and get some balls!!!
2007-03-30 02:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said you want to get married in the future so why not wait until you finish college? I am not agreeing with his family, but a lot can happen in a few years. I don't think they hate you, maybe they are just worried of losing him to you. Try and get along with the fam. He is the one marrying you not them.
2007-03-30 02:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Noneyabusiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure they hate you because you are his girlfriend, or because you are you? There is a difference.
If it is just because you are his girlfriend, it means they think you are unworthy of him (a lot of parents are like this) and they are afraid if he gets married he won't finish university.
The best you can do is try to get them to know you better so they understand you want to finish university, too, and aren't planning on having a pile of kids right away so you both have to drop out to support them.
And maybe ask your boyfriend what things/activities they like, and start talking to them about those things that they like. (People always like someone better if the other person likes the same things they do.)
2007-03-30 02:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not just marrying the man; you are marrying into his family; and if you do, all your problems will be magnified ten fold. Many people don't understand this. Holidays; birthdays; family reunions; both they and you will be there for all of it. Now is the time to weigh the matter and take action, not later.
2007-03-30 02:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents usually want to make sure their kid does well and that no one will come along to interefere with their success. So try and just wait them out, continue with school, do a good job at it, support your boyfriend, and over time hopefully they will see that you want the same things for him that they do, and maybe they will come around. It's true that you do marry the whole family, whether or not you like it.
2007-03-30 03:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by snapoutofit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
right here we bypass...yet another homophobic mom f*ck*r, actual now you cant do lots by using fact of your age & he can say regardless of he needs, shame on your mom for no longer putting a provide as much because it, sounds like she dont have any lower back bone or shes afraid she will lose him if she takes a stance on your behalf, I dont understand what to declare different than time will safeguard this, he isnt intimidated via you actual now yet provide this a while, and additionally you may tell him approximately his ignorant self then and in the recommend time get a punching bag and picture his face on it, i could paintings out lots that i could be sturdy and buff for the showdown once you are able to tell him to close his piehole and lower back it up, you will knock the homophobe actual out of him, hes being very verbally abusive on your lady pal too, purely chew your tongue for now and additionally you gets your day to close his @ss up, with any luck it wont final between your mom and he, it is basic to purely desire she will awaken and notice him for who and what he fairly is..as undesirable because it fairly is purely dangle in there in any different case he wins., dont enable him wreck your spirit.
2016-12-08 14:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by jaffe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's their problem and they shouldn't be worried about your relationship. Your boyfriend is the only one that should matter-not his family. My bf's family hated me too and they think I"m the "devil" because we live together but it's not up to them. You just need to block them out-if they have nothing better to do than pick on you or your relationship, they need to get a new hobby. Good luck!
2007-03-30 03:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by lesliehope24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been gonig together? I would say this is an issue between your b/f and his family. He should be man enough to let his family know that it's HIS decision who he dates/marries and not theirs. Additionally, you'll have to meet somewhat half way because you shouldn't come between him and his family. You marry the whole package.
2007-03-30 02:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2007-03-30 21:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by victor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say follow ur heart. ive liked this guy for 2 yrs and im not allowed to date him because my dad says so because hes mexican and im white, plus HIS family hates me and he dont like me back...we are bestest friends though.:b
2007-03-30 02:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by model 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋