i met this guy last Dec, and he is actually my friend's friend...we talk, and talk, send text messages....and i can tell that he has all the qualities i find in a soulmate...gosh, i like him, but i know he's not the one i am going to marry, i just don't have that 'special feeling' that i am going to share my life with him even if i like him...plus, we have different race and religion, that is another factor....one day, he told me that he like me and wanted to know me further and end up as a girlfriend-boyfriend, but i said no to him....then, he still ask me if i would like to be his life partner because he is so sincere to me, i say, i don't know the answer and time will tell if we are meant for each other....both of us are top students in academic and extra curicular activities, and he is quite shy with girls....he is sincere, i guess, but , i know he's not the one....please, tell me something to soothe my feeling....i like him, but my heart tells me he's not the one.....
2007-03-30 02:36:49 · 14 answers · asked by Isabel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i told him we should be friends, but he refuse that, he want to be my life partner!
2007-03-30 02:46:29 · update #1
some say i'm tense about things like this.....okay, i admit that...i was the best student, best debater, best biology student, best additional math student, best chemist student....best whatever and whatever and i can't think about things like this...feel so stupid now!
2007-03-30 02:52:11 · update #2
Trust your heart. If you don't feel he's the one for you, you're probably right. I say probably, because people say that sometimes love grows in relationships you wouldn't expect it to, like close friends who one day see each other differently.
He sounds like a nice guy you could at least stay friends with, but then I see that he refused that...that is strange, and a red flag. If he really cares for you, and loves you, he would love to be friends with you--even if that was something that broke his heart. Put it this way: if I fell in love with you, and you told me what you told him, I would be a friend that you would have for life. Love is unconditional devotion; love knows no end.
You sound like an intelligent girl with a good heart. Trust yourself, trust what you feel, and you will always be alright. I have a feeling many guys will fall in love with you.
I hope this helps you in some way.
Best wishes :)
2007-03-30 17:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by live4ever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't judge a book by the cover.
I think you should date him and see how it goes.
Tell him you are not looking for a life partner just yet in your life.
The person you think might be your soul mate can be so far off than what you would expect.
I know there are cultural and religious differences, but if you would like to date him, then do so.
Dating does not say I will marry you.
My dear when the right one comes along, it will hit you square in the eyes and you won't know what it happening.
You should not wait around for this soul mate, you should be doing and getting experience in relationships. You want to be ready right!!!
If this guy is just a friends than okay don't date him, but don't size everybody up as a candidate for marriage.... If you do you will scare away people and spend alot of time by yourself and maybe even miss the boat.
You sound very immature and tense about life to me and you need to relax a little and just have fun.
By the way that special feeling isn't always there right at first, it develops without you even realizing it.... take off your blinders...
2007-03-30 02:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're thinking a bit too hard. You can't make yourself feel that 'click' with someone if it's not there, and you've explained to him where you stand.
I'm guessing you have strong feelings about love and relationships & religion so to say you could still be his girlfriend without looking to the long term would be inappropriate, but just try and beware of setting such a long list of requirements that it's impossible to find anyone to love, cos I think perfection has pretty much been ruled out in men! Don't write him off completely just because he doesn't fit your 'ideal man' image, cos you may be missing out on what sounds like a really sweet guy... & if he's as lovely as you describe, you may not get a second chance...
2007-03-30 02:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get wrapped up in a relationship that you don't believe will be worth it. I would resign myself to friendship and explain this to him. Hold out for the real thing, so that a possible relationship with him will not prohibit you from going for what you really want. Good Luck!
2007-03-30 02:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Yvonne S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you give him a deal? Let him a chance but warn him that it is just for checking out to see if it will work or not work out. All you need to go out with him and see how it does. If it went so great or unbelieable. then you will have that answer. If it went not that great, you will have to make decision to get it off. Try make deal with him, its simple. Try wont hurt you.
2007-03-30 02:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don know
put em 6 feet under now cause it sounds like u r unintentional leading him on. poor boy has misinterpreted mix signals. the carrier's goin to sink
2007-03-30 02:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women people are stable at pretending to take heed to their men, yet quite this is all i ought to I ask for. i became going to assert the suitable accident may be the two husband and spouse dying. that's the suitable accident to me.
2016-12-15 12:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see.Im also in a relationship where it seems that all the odds are against it and as i said just wait and see.
2007-03-30 02:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, He's not the one. Don't waste his time or yours. Find the one you think is your true love, and I say lots of luck, you'll need it.
2007-03-30 02:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. There's so many other guys out there. Keep looking.
2007-03-30 02:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋