Even though they had all the qualities neccessary in someone you should marry.
Could you learn to love them
2007-03-30 02:32:06 · 45 answers · asked by ambidextrous25 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is like the oil in your car engine that prevents friction, overheating and engine failure. Even if you have all the right components in your car, without oil, it will eventually die.
Getting married to someone is a lifelong commitment (even though most don't treat it like that) and if you don't have a strong love of that person, than as soon as problems come up than there will be friction, tension and it can get ugly.
Love can smooth over many problems(1 Corinthians 13:4-13) and you will much more willing to work through anything.
Please make sure you are in love before you get married.
2007-03-30 02:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by ----0---- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I could not marry someone I didn't love nor was I attracted to. Marriage is hard enough with the person of your dreams. If you add no love to the mix -- I would be out of that marriage in a heartbeat. I think in some cultures where two people are set-up that you can learn to love someone but if you know them for awhile prior to marriage and there is no chemistry there -- I don't think there will be later on.
2007-03-30 02:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't marry someone that I didn't love, but there are cultures that have arranged marriages based upon wealth, astrology, and longevity. It has been said that many of these marriages become strong mutually beneficial relationships, and sometimes they even learn to love each other. In other cases, love is never present, but both parties agree to coexist in the coupling due to the benefits. Living in a society without arranged marriage, I think I would prefer being emotionally fufilled by my relationship instead of simply coexisting.
2007-03-30 02:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Yvonne S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you respect him than you can marry him and learn to love him later. The most misconception about relationships is "love is all it takes". That's so wrong. Love is nice, it feels good and everything, but actually love is really the bonus - the icing on the cake. It takes more than love to make a marriage work. It takes dedication, hard work, commitment, a common goal and a mutual respect for each other. Good luck.
2007-03-30 02:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that they do not have all of the qualities or else you would love them, better to be best friends...I married twice on a whim and was divorced twice...am now totally in love with my soul mate, married 9 years and still on the honeymoon with not one fight...it is possible...just be patient. Try to figure out why you want to get married so bad, and you do to think of marrying someone you don't love...maybe counseling? Be patient and Goddess bless.
2007-03-30 02:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by mklare1998 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could eventually acquire love if you don't dispise the person...I know what you mean though, good men are hard to come by these days!! but the only scary thing is that someday, you may actually meet that one person that was meant for you, and fall deeply in love, then you will hurt many people if there are kids involved...but the choice is yours...never listen to anyone, listen only to your heart..it will guide you...
2007-03-30 02:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged to a former NBA Player. Yeah he was qualified and I was not in love with him. When you marry someone make it someone you love, the marriage will last longer and you will have more to hold on to. Marry to be happy, have children and live your life that's really what it is all about!! Love, Success and sharing.
2007-03-30 02:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by kaytikay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, if you don't love them then eventually it may turn bad. You can find someone who holds all those qualities AND you love them. Don't settle for less than what you want and need in a good relationship. Be patient, it will happen.
2007-03-30 02:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You could learn to like and tolerate them. But love cannot be forced. It ain't there now, not likely it's gonna happen anytime soon if you know that someone for some time already.
2007-03-30 02:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in fact I did marry someone I did not truely love but liked and respected and admired his qualities. He said he would make me love him. And he did. it took about two years. We are now divorced but were married for twenty years and I do not regret it at all.
2007-03-30 02:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by beachloveric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋