2007-03-30 02:31:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Disagree with whom? The other parent???
Then you must talk about it with one another and compromise on the plan of action you are going to take for certain common childhood behavior problems.
2007-03-30 02:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by RN_and_mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First rule: NEVER disagree on discipline in front of the child, always look like a unitied front and as if you two agree with the other parent on EVERYTHING. All the specifics can be worked out behind closed doors or away from the child at another time. Present your case, what happened, what you thought was wrong about it and why (why you feel that way, where you may have learned it was wrong) and how you think that this undisciplined action will turn into if left unattended to. Stand your ground if you feel very strongly but remember to listen to what your partner is saying and get him/her to explain just like you did about where they stand. Understand eachother and verbally acknowledge what the other is saying. Then afterwards try to come to an agreement. If not discipline then maybe a talk with the child about what you two though was wrong rather than discipline. If it persists, then go for discipline and show your partner that this is what you were talking about if it went unattended.
2007-03-30 06:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disciplining your children is not just about spanking. Our children are in training for life and guess who is in charge/ the leader! Get some advice from an elder in your church. There are also some great books on parenting at your local library.Choose no more than two so you won't become confused. In the mean time... agree to disagree with each other but find the common ground of we are working this out. Your children do not only see how you react, they have that sense of knowing just whose chain they can jerk. Always keep your disagreements private, ...children learn like the snap of a finger who they can manipulate early in their toddler years if not even earlier. But if you take your time and think before you act, later you will have their respect.
God bless you
2007-03-30 02:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I disagree on discipline. He thinks spanking works where i think its inappropriate for our 2 year old. Time out works wonders with her and hes finally starting to see that. Hes a long haul truck driver and is home once a month, most of the discipline is up to me. When hes home he looks at me like well how do i handle this situation. He is the one who thought up the idea of sitting her in a corner during a temper tantrum!
We have had many long and many heated discussions on this and have finally reached a middle ground where we agree on how to discipline our daughter. Time outs all the time until she gets older because spanking is not appropriate for a small child! This what you may have to do with your spouse/partner to decide on a firm discipline policy with your children! Good Luck!\
2007-03-30 03:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you've got to both come to an agreement on discipline. If your child doesn't see a united front from you two no discipline either uses will ever work. If you don't think you guys can do it alone then I would get a mediator to help you. Good luck.
2007-03-30 03:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by on my way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about your different parenting styles and why you feel your style is the best option. Talk about how you came that conclusion (usually how you were raised). Then, once you have those questions answered you can come to a compromise.
For us it has been deciding when to use a time out and when not to. And, what warrants a smack on the hands. I think it's great to have a partner who is willing to stand up and correct me when he feels I'm in the wrong. And, I think our kids will benefit in the long run.
2007-03-30 02:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of you agree or not BOTH parents must work to gether so the children will see they can't put a wedge between you and play one parent against the other.You should try to discuss with each other what you feel is fair before a situation.
2007-03-30 04:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is try to find a middle like if you dont want to punish your child but the other parent thinks the child deserver come to an agreement like going to thier rooom or to a corner
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2007-03-30 02:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by savannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are cooperative parenting classes you can take. It's important to be on the same page or the child will not understand who's rules to follow and can end up resenting one parent.
2007-03-30 02:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discipline always comes up, so take turns to see which is more effective.
2007-03-30 02:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by andy486 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋