It's been a month since we broke up and i want to move on but I am still wondering what went wrong, why we didn't work out together and i keep replaying everything in my head trying to see if i could've done things better or differently!!! i want to stop blaming myself but it left me scared to start another relationship like i can't trust again...
2007-03-30 02:21:46 · 14 answers · asked by shine_on 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to take a wild guess that he was a good-looking guy, right? You want to be treated like a queen, with full devotion, and never be hurt (more than what normally happens in any relationship between 2 humans)? Date a geek.
Seriously. Sure, they seem weird. It's a fact of life - intelligent people tend to have a difficult time developing social skills. That can all be turned around if they have a good mate by their side.
An intelligent male will treat you with the utmost respect and devotion and will shower you with love. He will also be interested in pleasuring you above himself and will remain that way forever, because he will always remember that you are the first one to give him a chance.
Get rid of the good looking guy. Forget about him. You probably did absolutely nothing wrong, he just has a natural instinct to have sex with as many women as possible. Geeks have suppressed that urge because they can't have sex with anyone. The first person they have sex with will receive 100% of their devotion. Forever.
2007-03-30 02:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by jdforsythe 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes the relationship you really want to work just plain does'nt and sometimes you will never know why. Its o.k. to go over things in your mind as long as your still not doing it in 3/6 months time. Dont blame youself, relationships are a 2 way street. I wouldnt be thinking about starting another relationship now, take some time out for you. You will trust again when the right person comes along. Good Luck
2007-03-30 02:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just going to go away over night. If you had any kind of seriousness about this relationship, it's going to take more then a month to get over it... but it will happen... time heals all wounds. As for blaming yourself, don't be too harsh. Remember that it takes two people to make a relationship, and though I could be wrong, I'm sure it wasn't all you. The things that you may or may not have done in the relationship are things to reflect on, not dwell over. You may not be able to change the past, but you can make a promise to yourself, that for the next relationship, you will try and change those things... or at least work on them.
2007-03-30 02:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by TmB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A certain amount of self-examination is a good thing. After all, a break-up is seldom completely one person's fault. If nothing else, you stayed and took his crap when you shouldn't have. On the other hand, after you've identified things that you need to work on, dwelling on it is unproductive and upsetting.
Getting right back into a relationship is probably not a good idea, as you're likely to make the same mistakes. Take some time, spend time with buddies. Give yourself time to use what you've learned so that you'll make a better choice next time.
Despite what you're probably feeling right now, you are valuable, and someone will see that.
2007-03-30 02:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships break up with no fault of either side; they just fizzle or the couple moves in different directions. Stop vexxing about what you did/did not do and get back out there. However, in the next relationship I would make a positive effort to keep the lines of communication very open.
2007-03-30 02:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by cookiewurks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, by dwelling on your break up, you haven't moved on at all. You're still sitting in the same spot as when he told you it was over.
Why do you blame yourself? You could have done everything perfectly and still had the guy dump you. In fact, most times its got nothing to do with what the partner's done, or didn't do, its in the mind of the person who ends it.
Put it to rest, and don't let this one experience sour you on men forever. Learn from it.
2007-03-30 02:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty normal for you to wonder why things happened and do the 'What if this' and 'What if that' but its only gonna make your healing process alot longer than needed. Think to yourself that whats done is done and look to the future, work on making yourself happy.
2007-03-30 02:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by Black Magic; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on, and it can be difficult. Could you take a mini-vacation or something to change environment? Think happy thoughts :) Things are going to be fine!
2007-03-30 02:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by krafty1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More sex and less talking, is where you went wrong ! If you aren't doing him someone else is(will); Get over it and move on to the next victim.
2007-03-30 02:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all relationship takes off. Some faulters.. Be glad and move on with your life
2007-03-30 02:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋