A year ago I broke up with my girlfriend. We were arguing a lot and we were both still getting over our past relationship drama. She moved in with her exboyfriend the same day we broke up. She claims she had nowhere else to go.
About a week later I called her and told her I felt our breaking up was a mistake and that I was in love with her. Obviously since I had just left her she had no reason to trust me. So I told her I would prove she could trust me and that I was being sincere.
That was a year ago. We talk every day. I've remained faithful and in love with her. She continually tells me she loves me and wants to be with me, but since she made a commitment to her current boyfriend that she has to honor it. I know she is unhappy, and not because she says so. Just trust me that I know for a fact she doesn't want to be there with him. Yet, she also refuses to leave him no matter what help I've offered.
When do I say enough is enough? How do I walk away?
2007-03-30 02:09:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you decide that you cannot take any more or that there is no longer any hope. Just don't stick around long enough for her relationship to end on its on and for you to become her rebound relationship.
2007-03-31 02:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by b0red2tears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME HEALS EVERYTHING...so keep that in mind. If you think that you a really going to love this woman no matter how long it takes and you won't get bored of her (as harsh as that sounds) then you should keep on trying. But like i said, if you think it might NOT work out...just let it go...there are plenty of other fish in the sea. I'm a girl and i know that if some guy was waiting for some girl and being really patient for her, that would be a HUGE plus. So follow your heart and find out what you really want. And you don't have to rush, you have time.
Hope i helped!
good luck!
2007-03-30 09:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by colorfulgarden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing you can do here is give an ultimatum. Tell her that you want to be with her and you know she feels the same way but it is not fair to you to have to wait around for her. If she wants to be with you, she needs to get rid of this other guy and actually do it. You need to tell her you are done waiting though. You are going to have to go out and start meeting new people. By doing this you will finally know what she planned on doing - whether it was to stay with the guy and keep you hanging or to actually get rid of him. It will hurt but it will save you another year or more of being guy #2.
2007-03-30 09:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that she probably had something going on with her EX because you cant move out with one boyfriend and move in with the EX on the same day. I understand that you really love this girl, but sweety you deserve better, she is playing games with your heart, you really poured your heart out to this girl and she wanted to STAY with this guy, no offense but I have been through this she never ended that other relationship, sometimes LOVE can really have your mind all messed up and u can"t see reality, I know how you feel but she was just in your life for a season! WALK AWAY GIVE UP ON HER SHE ALREADY GAVE UP ON U!
2007-03-30 09:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya you got sucker written all over your forehead. she got best of both world, she got a BO to bang and you as a "friend" and someone to go back to in case she has a bad break, and you got nothing but she just teasing you sexually. what you got is a "Unclean break up" which she use you to get a leg up on her relationship in her life.
rule to reminber in a break up. clean break mean "honey once this end I don't want to hear from you, see you, talk to you or any text message, email etc. your on your own dear, end is end and I'm moving to the next best thing and WE WILL NOT BE FRIEND"
trust me. it's the only way or your be a dog for a girl a likes of her for the rest of your life and no girl or anyone respect that in a real man.
2007-03-30 09:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. You are being played. Sorry to say this. I think you need to stop focusing on your desire to prove you are trustworthy and go live with integrity. Trustworthiness is a natural result of another's behavior. I sense your ex is causing a guilt trip. This is a form of manipulation. Be proud of yourself in whatever you do and the rest will work out.
2007-03-30 09:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel powerless, and seems like you do. You feel you have nothing to offer yourself which means there isn't anything left to offer her. Stop communicating with her completely and start working on yourself, getting your self esteem high again and just take out time for yourself until you have regain your power, once that happens then you will not put up with any crap from anyone and that's how you want to be.
2007-03-30 09:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enough is enough - now!
She has already said:
1) she loves you and wants to be with you. So what? She hasn't done anything about it.
2) she made a commitment and has to honor it. No, she doesn't. She isn't married to him. She just has to tell her current boyfriend that she has found that she doesn't love him any more.
I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I think she just doesn't want to be with you as much as she says she does.
How do you walk away? You have to start to date other women.
2007-03-30 09:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time to walk away now..You are trying to catch someone that does not want to be caught.Wake up she is living with another guy.If she really wanted to be with you she would have left him.I am sorry but that is the way it is.Stop torturing yourself and move on..Good Luck & Best Wishes..
2007-03-30 09:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hven't been w/ her in a year u said .how do you know what she wants.? Sounds like all your help is talk! What action have you taken? H ave u really been there for her ? Go to her tell her "this is it ... decide now Make your choice" Then wait for her to pack!!!!
2007-03-30 09:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by harlot j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋