Friends, im 17+ yrs old boy having a realtionshp wid a girl last 1.3 Yrs! This girl lives in different city so we generally cnt c each other bt yeah we talk in phone everyday! last few months...im in a mental stress which is affectng me badly! the stress is about my gf...i always cry for her! if our balance get over i start crying! if she not responding my phone i cry!everytime i use to cry coz i missed her everytime...my insecurity is eating me alive! if she's talking in phone wid someone i use to feel stress! I use to think "maybe she's talking to a guy" but she said to me everytime dat she loves me bt still im in fear, stress, nt able to eat anything...became toooooo romantic! i told her dis problem bt she prefr always 2 b silent nd her only answer is " u dont trust me so i dnt have any answer for u cz im tired answering ur questions everyday" but this distance makes me feel like dis! can anyone help me to defeat this pressure so that i cn enjoy my life furtr in fruitfull way?
2007-03-30 01:49:58 · 14 answers · asked by I๓ρєяเãl ãяc° ™ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need counselling first to learn how to calm yourself and control your feelings. You're 17, in your teens with wildly active hormones which can create real havoc with you emotionally & physically. Try some yoga. Your imagination is getting the better of you. Learn to relax. Don't think about what's she's doing here and now but how to relax yourself and let go of the stresses. Take up some exercise - basketball or hit the gym, something you enjoy. The rush after the exercise will make you feel better. Take care and Good luck.
2007-03-30 01:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow
It look like she is ur first love.
i am sure she is crying too when she think anout you.
but not eating and stuff, i been there too and i know how u feel and the true is the feeling will go when it ready and there isn't nothing u can do to not feel the way u feel.
I want u to remember this that love feels good and it painful and whenever u put urself into one u have to think about this.
There is nothing really i can say to make u feel better because u will feel like this for a bit and when the time is right, it will go away.
it suck but we are go through it. Stay strong
Peace and take a good care of urself.
2007-03-30 02:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when people answer this way, because it always sounds like a "pat" answer, but you need to go to counseling. You need to go to a counselor that you can see on a steady basis, and trust enough to be honest with, because the insecurity is about you, not her. You have some things that you need to work with, and it will be a WHOLE lot quicker to work through with someone who has training in how to guide you.
Don't even tell anyone that you're doing it...just be quiet and watch how your relationship will gradually improve and smooth out...the bumps won't be quite as big, and you will get a LOT more enjoyment out of it!
Good luck!
2007-03-30 01:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by NorthvilleNY 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are young, and hopefully you will have many wonderful experiences with girls. A long distance relationship does not seem to be the thing for you. Why don't you explain to your gf that you really care for her, but the distance is killing you. The 2 of you can remain friends. Find a nice girl that lives by you, that you can physically see every day. It would make life much easier
2007-03-30 01:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships almost never work..I suggest that you stop worrying about a relationship with a girl and focus on your schooling.Half of what you wrote look's like a 5yr old typed it...You have much growing up to do before you can have a relationship.
2007-03-30 02:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, nreak up with her, get over her, and get a new girlfriend, one that's not going to get you crazy like this. I've been through a long distance relationship and they are A LOT of work. Get rid of her. It's for the best.
2007-03-30 01:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so young to be upset about a girl but it comes with your age. u sound like a really great guy not too many guys cry just to let u know. the best thing you can do is remind yourself every day that you are great if she leaves you thats her loss and u will find one that does appreciate you promise.
but just remember its her loss not yours!
2007-03-30 02:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Candace H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Dude. I just broke up with my boyfriend who lives in New York- just yesterday and It was really hard to do.. i mean yes- you really need to grow up and please realize that long distance relationships do not work. So many things can happen. I did worry when he wouldnt pick up his dam phone, but we broke off for another reason. But date a girl around your town, that way you can be sure that she is loyal to you and stuff. u know wat i mean. take care and call it off- i tell u- it will not work out. let it go.
2007-03-30 02:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by jade havok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are clearly overreacting and that is hurting your relationship with this girl! she really must love you and you love her, so chill, ok? well, if you just can't stop crying there is nothing i or anyone can do about it... just trust yourself and your girlfriend... it's true that the distance isn't really helping too.
2007-03-30 01:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by kath 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all my man you need to learn how to spell .
Then you need to realize that youre only 17 . Youneed to expirience life not be caught up on 1 whore that's miles away . The truth is young man long distance relationships dont work . Get another girl and leave this one alone it's not worth it. There's plenty of fish in the sea my boy !!!!!!
2007-03-30 01:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋