I found a way to get her to talk to me. When we were growing up we always ate tomato soup and maccaroni noodles. So I surprised her when she got home the other day, she couldn't resist. We sat, ate and talked. I explained how shrewd it was for me to have those few drinks and not call for a ride. She understood but was still upset. We pinky swore that it wouldn't happen again. Then she let it all come out. She started rambling about when her and her friend were out shopping in the city and while walking in between stores she saw this man with horrifying deformities, it seemed as if though it pained him to walk. She said she broke down right there. She said that she felt so guilty for having the luxury of walking store to store while this man suffers just to go wherever this man had to go. She wanted to help him somehow but knew that she couldn't, and it reminded her of mom and dad, and how she couldn't help them either. She ran to her room after that, and hasn't talked to me since.
2007-03-30 01:40:47 · 5 answers · asked by Damian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Calm down. Act normal as if nothing happened, BUT BE THERE FOR HER WHENEVER SHE NEEDS YOU. She seems to have closed up again but she did talk to you, so that means it'll be much easier for her to talk to you again. Dont push her, she'll come out with her problem to you soon. What you must do is show her that you are there for her and that she can achieve things too. She probably feel that she couldnt help her parents. Try to find a way to keep her occupied such as voluntary community work helping others who are less previlaged than her. She'll start to feel better then.
But mind you dont let her know that you think she has a problem getting over something in the past. If you do she'll close up again 'cos none of us want to acknowledge that we have a problem. By the way accept my congratulations for being a good brother, not every sister is as lucky as yours.
Good luck!
2007-03-30 02:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by free1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be brutally honest with you: She will get over it.
Meanwhile, has this just happened? Like is she still in her room? Then if you really want to, go to her door and tell her:
1) you love her
2) it is hurting you that she won't open door and is shutting you out. That even if she doesn't want to talk, you could at least still be with her and hug her.
Later (when she will look at you) you can tell her that her sentiments about the deformed guy and your parents show that she is a good person and cares what happens to people. That is a wonderful trait and shows she is very sensitive and that is what you like about her.
Remind her that you are "just like her" because you are sensitive, too. You care and hurt when she hurts. And even when she wants to hide in her room and cry, you'd be happy to sit in there with her and cry, too, and rub her shoulder to make her feel better. Just not lock you out and not talk to you.
2007-03-30 01:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AWWWW
That is soooo nice of her. Most people would blank people that have something wrong with them
Just be there for her and it will all blow over soon
2007-03-30 02:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep calm. wait for some more days.
she will come over it and soon become normal in the coming days.
2007-03-30 01:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has some issues....just be there for her,,,
2007-03-30 01:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋