When he says to me?

Question

"I like you so much" and "You are so special to me"
we were just friends, now after 4 months we became intimate ... talking to one another daily. He sends gifts to me, always caring. He sends me morning/night sms. He told me about his family. Yesterday, He said it clearly "I have feelings for you". Is he just interested or truely saying that its another transfer to another level in our relation?

Am just confused coz I have had my worst experiences before and I do not need to be fooled anymore.

Answer 1

You are right to be wary as you have had bad experiences in the past.

Sometimes you have to let your gut instinct tell you whether it is ok to let your guard down with a guy.

Do you, deep down, feel that he is being genuine?

In my experience, if a guy only wants one thing, he'll only put the maximum amount of effort in for so long, and then he'll get bored when he doesn't get what he wants.

He sounds, in my opinion, that he genuinely cares. A good foundation for a relationship is a friendship first - you can be a better judge of character that way, and you know them that little bit more than you would if you had only known him as a boyfriend.

If he says he really likes you and has feelings for you, he is letting you know just that! He probably doesn't feel that he is in love with you, but it sounds like, on his part, that's what it is leading up to!

If he sends you gifts and sends you texts morning and night, it shows he's thinking about you. If he's caring, then it means he truly cares about you!

It sounds like you do know that he's genuine, but because you have been hurt in the past, you are afraid of letting yourself become vulnerable and opening up to him, as when you have opened up in the past, you have been hurt.

Everyone gets hurt emotionally from time to time, just look on those past experiences as a learning curve - they made you stronger whether you realise it or not!

Give him a chance. :o)

Answer 2

Then stay at this level. Any time two people spend a lot of time either talking, or together your feelings will grow stronger. This is just human nature.

The problem with taking it to another level is that you can never back up. If you are lucky things keep getting better, or they fall apart. The more time you spend where you are now, the better chance you have of a lasting relationship.

Answer 3

It's not what he says but how he says it and do his actions back up his words? Do you believe he is being sincere? Men can say anything and it is the way the words are said that matters. Look in his eyes and see if you can tell is he is being sincere. Watch what he does and how he acts around other girls and when you are on a date with him and you and he are talking, does he glance at other girls who pass by? Do his eyes stray from here to there when he is with you and does his attention waiver from you when you are with him? These are signs to gauge his actions and intent.

Answer 4

like like like sounds like he wants to run this slow and make sure your the right one.i had feelings for many of women but never loved them.usually i found that out the hard way but to be honest thats the only way.one thing for sure is nothings ever for certain.and yes that does suck.but its life

Answer 5

He loves you very much and wants to take the relationship with you very slow to the next step. He is telling you that he wants to be with you and that you are the only one for him.

Answer 6

Sounds like he's very in to you, and is going to great lengths to take it slowly and carefully. If you have feelings for him, I think you have a winner. Good luck!