How far would you be prepared travel to have a serious relationship? Can the distance only work for a limited time? Does it ever work? Is there a difference if you live apart when you first start dating or if you are forced apart (through work - e.g. army, relocation etc)? Have you ever been dumped or dumped someone because the distance was too much? And if you wanted to make it work long-term, would you expect them to move to you, or would you move to them?
2007-03-29 23:32:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not a matter of distance, it's a matter of commitment. If either person thinks it's too far, then it's too far.
2007-03-29 23:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a hard time with the distance issues. Most of my boyfriends have lived in the same town.. however a few yrs ago I dated a guy that was a little over an hr away. It was really difficult to meet up during the week and we spent most of our time together on weekends. When things got serious, I would spend the night or he would spend the night up by me. We found that it was still very difficult as we wanted to spend more time together and attend special events together. I ended up breaking it off because it was just too difficult. Now I am dating another guy that has to be away because of work for a time. We only see each other on weekends and I cant think of ever being without him. Its only going to be for a year so I am determined to make it work. I am not sure if we are closer or what made me decide but he used to only be 10-15 minutes away from me. We talked about the future, and if we were to move in together, we would both move to a different area but close enough because he has 2 children that he sees regularly.
2007-03-29 23:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the couple and the level of commitment on both parts. If both people really want the relationship to work, they will work really hard to ensure it does.
Just under a year into our relationship, I went away to uni, and me and my boyfriend at the time decided to continue seeing each other. It was really difficult, as it was a 4 hour journey to travel to see each other. In our case, we really wanted it to work, and made great efforts to see each other as often as possible. Didn't help our phone bills though!
Anyway, I finished uni, and moved back to London, where are relationship got better. We are really happy, and have just gotten engaged. Moral of the story, long distance relationships can work!
It's not a matter of distance, it's a matter of commitment. If either person thinks it's too far, then it's too far.
2007-03-30 00:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by hell_ova_arse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon how a concepts like my boyfriend of very almost a three hundred and sixty 5 days love over an hour away and neither human beings have our licenses...we are deff previous sufficient to have it we do only not. yet in case you both believe one yet another and promise to discuss issues at the same time as they upward push up it may go. Like some lengthy distance relationships do not artwork bc they enable issues go and do not discuss them. i in my opinion imagine tht lengthy distance relationships r extra valuable bc ur no longer mutually each second of the day and it makes the cases you're mutually astounding. i wish it really works out!
2016-12-03 00:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go to uni in Scotland and my partner lives on the south coast of England and we have been together nearly 4years!
We see each other for term breaks but never for more than a few weeks at a time! Seems to work for us, I dont get distracted whilst studying and it helps to spur me on to do well...or else whats the point in being all that way away?!
We each get our own space and really appreciate the time we do spend together.. we also both love sending each other surprises in the post as well as emailing, phone calls etc
The lack of sex is frustrating, (esp if your visit coinsides with your monthly cycle grr!) but again, is amazing when you do meet up... bit like chocolate after lent...kind of!
Im pro long distance and in fact am a bit worried when we do eventually get to move in together!!
2007-03-31 08:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by tbenito 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erm...I had a long distance relationship with a girl in London a little while ago I live near Plymouth and I found that it was way too far we neva really saw each ova and got rly protective/jealous over each over so in the end we chose to just remains friends which we still are and its rly gd we see each over more often now as well =]
2007-03-29 23:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think long distance relationship work at all.. and yes i've been dumped for our distance bewtween us.. and if you did want to make the work long-term work I would move first. I would be like, "Hey.. you know I don't really think this is working out..our relationship is really distant and I would really like to spend alot of time with you.. but I can't really see you as often as I'd like to." and yeah.. good luck. :)
2007-03-29 23:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by Dreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally I find relationships over more than 5 lightyears a bit tiring, especially if the hyperdrive is playing up! Mind you if you search around the moons of some of the smaller planets, you can get some right horny little aliens, who are realy up for it!
2007-03-29 23:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
its never too far, my current girl is in america yet i am in cape town, south africa. and we have bn going strong for over 5 months now and its great. we talk nearly everyday and we love each other. we made a commitment to make our relationship work and that means alot to us. so its never too far for love. be inspired
2007-03-29 23:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by sweets 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationship is real hard....esp when you argue on something and there's no way to talk bout it because that would mean money spent on calls...its real difficult for me..ive tried it ....its real hard esp. when you dont have the extra means of communicating with each other
2007-03-30 04:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by britney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋