what if she's not a virgin(because he gave it out before) would you still marry her? would you like to know why she gave it out or would you rather not know why?
2007-03-29 22:48:53 · 20 answers · asked by britney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
virginity is pride, n yes it matters. You lose it, u lose ur pride.
2007-03-29 22:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by osi911 2 · 4⤊ 6⤋
Sex is an enjoyable thing, it is part of our make up and a wonderful natural gift! If you explore yor sexuality before 'settling down' then you know you are doing the right thing. If I had married the person i lost my virginity too not only would I have missed so many wonderful experiences but I would now be maried to an egotisical bore.
I have met people who have taught me a lot about my sexuality and so it now means that I have a woderful and fulfilling sex life with my partner. For me the whole idea of women 'keeping their virginity' was just men trying to keep women as chattal, not allowing them to express themselves as adult human beings with sexual and passionate feelings. Any man who epxressed problems with me having lived my life the way I have would get short shrift.
I find this question horrible on so many levels. No-on gives their virginity or their sexuality or their body, they might choose to share it with someone. Sex is not a degrading, nasty, sinful thing but a glorious expression of desire and (hopefully) love and not necessarily true love maybe just a fleeting 'love'. Women are not objects but human beings, we have feelings and needs and we are sexual, strong, beautiful and what is between our legs and in our minds are for us to enjoy and not yours to 'keep' or try to sanctify in some way. We are not just virgins or whores but people. We are not here for men's benefit. It makes me so sad and angry that women have been fighting for this for so long and get no-where fast due to morons like you. Does virginity matter? Tell you what why don't you have sex wth a virgin and then try a woman who knows what she's doing (both with love) and tell me which you prefer.
2007-03-30 06:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think virginity is such a sacred thing that has lost all importance in recent years. So many people try and 'get rid of it' as soon as possible, rather than waiting for the right time and person.
If I was a guy, in this day and age, I would be quite surprised to be with someone who was a virgin (if they weren't very religious), only because, its such a rare thing to encounter nowadays. I suppose its only fair to ask, are you a virgin too? And if you are, would that effect your opinion of this person as marriage material?
2007-03-30 05:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by hell_ova_arse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the year 2007. Is anyone over the age of 16 a virgin anymore? At least in the US or any other western nation?
Personally speaking I wouldn't hold it against her if she wasn't a virgin. Heck, I am 36 years old. Chances are, most of the women in my age group are pretty much sexually experienced. If she is a virgin and over the age of 30, then either she is someone who is devoutly religious and doesn't believe in sex before marriage, she is shy and anti-social or something terrible is wrong with her.
2007-03-30 05:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude enter the last two centuries...
could not give a monkeys about tripe like that.
I like siomeone as they are fun and nice to be with and cant wait to pounce on me and love me pouncing on them and pawing and kissing etc etc. and love each other.
Why would you want somone to have lives a horrible lonley life before you as thats what you are suggesting.
The only reason why I amy prefer someone not to be vastly experienced is Im not but only for the reason that they have not been there, done that and bored of it... ie making out in a train dont want somone thinking always done that its boring.
That it. But that depends on uyou if you are older and been around then it should not matter.
Plus virginity taking is usually messy and painful
Give it out? oh enter planet earth...
She found somone cute and sexy who she liked and wantwed to be with andf had feeling just like you.
Only it did not work out so now she wants to try giving it a go with you.
his loss your gain.
Plus someone older whos still a virgin you have to ask why?
ie some sort of relgious nut who hates sex, no social skills or looks, and what would that do for a relationship if everytime you want to make out she insists on trying to get pregnant and no affection or foreplay as thats a fornicating dirty sin
2007-03-30 06:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll assume we got that out of the way before the guy proposed!!
If when i told him he wanted to know more, i would tell him the truth, else I would assume that all he wanted to know was weather or not i was a virgin or not.
I do think that women likes to more details about such things then men do.....but that's an opinion
2007-03-30 06:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it is best if you marry a virgin, but it doesn't matter caoz if you love her you will marry her and ask her why? But if shedisagrees on telling you, accept her privacy or else you two will have a great chance to fight if you dont respect her privacy and I know she will do the same thing.
2007-03-30 06:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by mareeya_rona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
virginity doesn't really seem as important these days and you shouldn't judge the girl just because of that, if you wanted to marry her then it should be because you loved her and not whether or not she is a virgin
2007-04-02 13:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by shygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in a way virginity does matter and it doesnt. It depends which way you loose it. If you loose it like i did when i was young and drunk then its not wrong but after you feel like you have nothing to give and i wish i had waited now. I would have prefered it to be with my boyfriend who i love deeply.
2007-03-30 11:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by Juliet Mandy. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont judge someone on the fact if she is a virgin or not. We all did things we are not proud of. Neither I or my husband were virgins on our wedding night and yet we have a great life together. Why do you need to know to who she lost it? thats all in the past. Rather spend your energy thinking how to make the present and future a great one for you both...
2007-03-30 05:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by Mercia L 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Sex is normal - it is why we are all here. With over 50% of marriages failing (that doesn't include the number of relationships that fail before marriage - I think I read that on average over 85% of serious relationships fail), I think people would have to be insane to wait until marriage before doing the deed with someone you love.
2007-03-30 06:36:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋