we have been together for 3 years now and the last year has been hell. he is always thinking that im doing something behind his back. weather it be in person or cybering. Im not doing anything wrong but how do i get him to understand this. I cant take being called a lier much more. I love this guy with all my heart, but cant take much more of this.
2007-03-29 22:34:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
did u do anything to lose his trust? tell him, if he can't trust u your out of it.. i know its hard to leave someone u love with all ur heart, but in the end ur gonna hurt even more, cause resentment builds.. open the communication. talk it out.... because TRUST and COMMUNICATION is the foundation of a relationship.. as cliche as it is, it's very much the damn truth.
2007-03-29 22:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Veda Raissa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid you are not the one with the problem, he is....As you said you are not doing anything wrong so how can you make him understand it, he needs to understand it. He obviously doesnt trust you, or him self most likely, perhaps his insecurities come from something he is guilty of....He probably feels unworthy of you and that you will live him because of that....Sit him down and have a heart to heart...If he still doesnt get it, then I am afraid you need to let him go, there is nothing worse then a jealous partner. He would only make him self and you miserable. Trust me I know, I have been living with it for the last 10 yrs, but I dont have much of a choice as I am married and have kids.....You do have a choice get out while you still have your dignity and self asteimn in tact.
2007-03-30 05:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eep. Ok I know that just about every guy has a little bit of jealousy in him by nature. But it seems he's got just a little too much in him. Did anything happen to precipitate this, or did it just seem to come out of nowhere? If it seemed to come from nowhere, then that could mean a couple of things. It could be a sign of a guilty consience. It could be that he just has an overly jealous personality. It could be nothing. Problem is though, that if nothing really caused this, it's not going to change and it's not going to go away. You may have some luck in finding out the root cause, but I would be surprised if he never stopped accusing you of things.
~Chris
2007-03-30 05:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being in a relationship with a jealous partner can strip all of the good parts away. It is not worth the constant strain of having to explain your innocence. He is insecure and you need to find out why and perhaps help him. He may be like this forever and that is not the type of relationship you deserve. I once dated a man that became jealous when I said hello to a male friend of 40 years. I was amazed and used that information to realize I could not go out into public with him and trust that he would not make a scene and make me uncomfortable. I ended the relationship quickly. Don't settle and live unhappily for the rest of your life.
2007-03-30 05:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by justclicktherubyslippers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him now. Jealosy is a control issue at first, and then it turns into abuse. If you are absolutely positively sure that he is not in the beginning stages of becoming a control freak, you can either stop doing the things that make him suspect you- like grocery shopping, going to work, getting on the internet, etc) or you can sit him down and tell him how you feel. Let him know that he's the only one for you, and you want him to trust you, and you want to know what you can do to make him feel appreciated. Don't flirt with anyone. A lot of times men that have these jealosy issues don't feel worthy of you, and have ego problems, so boost his ego, and he should calm down.
2007-03-30 05:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him now.. If you can't get along while you are together then why waste your time being with someone who treats you this way?? There are so much more things and people that could make you happy.. Life is short enjoy it while you can.
2007-03-30 05:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm im not an expert or anything, but i guess he just wants some more attention, maybe he feels like you havnt been spending much time with him, if that's not the case then i cant say really, maybe you need to just sit and talk with him, and explain to him that a lack of trust is something that can destroy a relationship. and him not trusting you is hurting you, and if he really cares about you he wouldnt want to hurt you. idk as ive said im not expert, just putting my 2 cents in.
2007-03-30 05:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by miami_acee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and give it to him straight. You need to tell him he is being way too insecure. Tell him that he needs to quit being jeolous. Tell him you haven't done anything to make him think you are cheating on him. Also you need to be prepared to walk on him if he doesn't stop acting jeolous. Hopefully that will scare him straight.
Bottom line: If he can't trust you, then why are you two together?
2007-03-30 05:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he doesn't back off his jealous fits you're going to lose all respect for him and that if he falsely accuses you all of the time, most people eventually figure WHY NOT fool around...so just hang it up or he's spelling the end
2007-03-30 05:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by BS,MS,Ph.D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has trust issues that he will not be able to resolve while he is with you. Unfortunately he has to be the one to make an effort to start trusting you. You need to leave him.
2007-03-30 05:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋