We just want to have a fake wedding at my mothers house and get married at the courthouse would that be cheaper?? well not a fake wedding more like just a reception type thing where all the family can get together and talk and eat..
2007-03-29 20:42:50 · 10 answers · asked by beckaducky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes we do love eachother it is real it would just be cheaper to do that dont you think???
2007-03-29 20:48:34 · update #1
The 'house wedding' is a very old tradition.. absolutely nothing wrong with it. Just get the officiant to come to you.. yes it might cost a little bit more but it will save you a lot of running around and it will give your family the joy of seeing the real ceremony.
2007-03-29 21:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fake weddings are very bad manners. You should never try to deceive peopel about what they are witnessing. Also, having a re-run of your vows is unethical. Don't try to duplicate the real, first time you exchanged vows to each other.
Getting married at the courthouse and then having a reception at home is perfectly fine. Send out invitations that sy "wedding reception" instead of wedding ceremony, therefore only inviting the invitation recipients to the reception.
2007-03-30 09:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine for you to go to the courthouse and get married, and then meet your family at your mother's house for dinner and drinks. It's sweet, affordable, and intimate. I like it. You could also consider bringing the JP to your mom's house and having a ceremony in the backyard.
But honey, don't use the words "fake wedding" again, and most certainly do not stage a ceremony. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-30 03:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a beautiful home wedding, but it's usually the reception that costs the most money. Get a local preacher that you know or someone in your family knows to do the ceremony and then you tip them when it's over. Not sure what the going rate is but 50.00 to 100.00 dollars would be appropriate. As far as food, make a list of what you want then call your family members and close friends and have each of them bring one dish from the list.
Usually people don't mind making one item (Especially if you ask them to make something they are known for) and this will save you a ton of money on food that you can use for other things....decorations, etc.
2007-03-29 22:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by ☼♫Hmm..Interesting♪☼ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have the wedding at your mom's house. There are many JP's that will come to your house for a slightly larger fee. You might want to look into that option also. Yes, it is cheaper. If money is tight, do what you think you need to do. Don't let others sway you into spending money that you need for them to enjoy your wedding. Besides, if you go to the JP, your closest friends and family can be there.
I gave my sister a wedding at my house for her 2nd marriage. It was beautiful, and everyone enjoyed themselves thoroughly.
By the way, I found some beautiful decorations in our local party supply store.
Good Luck!!
2007-03-29 20:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to cheat those you want to celebrate with the privilege of not witnessing your wedding?
I thought you wanted ideas for the wedding in your mom's back yard?
To find an officiant type into Yahoo your city, state & wedding officiant (no 's' on the end) You will have a few to choose from, usually on the 2nd page. The larger bridal sites seem to get top billing. If you do go to the bridal sites, please visit the site of someone you think you might like. Those bridal sites make vendors & officiants pay for your contact info so you may not hear back from someone you'd hoped.
2007-03-29 20:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, JP then a small meal at a restaurant, they usually have rooms for special occasions. I don't really have a big family here were we live neither does she, but doing a reception outside does help set the environment for the event, so either idea sounds good.
2007-03-30 03:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Compa Migue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know which cost you're trying to avoid, the church or the judge?
If it is the church, you can have a judge marry you in your patio or in some city park.
If it is the judge expense you're trying to avoid, an option to try is to have an acquaintance get a permit to marry you. To learn about this procedure just call a judge (blue pages in phone book) and when you ask him what his fees are, also ask what does (let's say) your brother need to have a license to marry you. You need to know where your acquaintance needs to appy for a license to solemnize marriages in your state, even if its for just 24 hours. Hopefully you will get a nice man that will provide this information for you.
Or you might want to post this question to see if someone knows. Make sure you specify the state as laws differ. Good Luck and dont' pay attention to people who don't respect your ideas.
2007-03-29 21:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine to have a jp ceremony, then people to your home for a meal.
However, don't call it a fake wedding.
2007-03-29 23:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by shoelacesrkool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why bother to get married if everything will be fake. If both of you are not ready for each other and commitments, you better call it off.
2007-03-29 20:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋