I have a friend who lives terrorized for his son, he had to abandon his house because he can't stand insults, kicks, ect from his son, the mother refuses to scape with him because she thinks her son needs help.
The son is 21 years olds, doesn't work, goes to the university but hasn't passed any exam yet because hi spent all the day playing games with the computer.
He admit he had used drugs sometime ago but when he attacks his parents is not drug.
The father wants to inform the police but he's worried about what the son could do with him since he has been threatened several times by him.
2007-03-29 20:36:01 · 10 answers · asked by melegatto 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The Parent CAN go to a Domestic Violence Shelter and have the individuals there HELP them with filling out the information for a RESTRAINING ORDER / PERSONAL PROTECTIVE ORDER (yes, they do need it),
as well as provide support for the parent when they WANT the POLICE to ARREST the 'adult child' who is abusing them.
CALL The police when the Violence is occurring. CONTINUE to call if he is returned to the home, and is violent again. CALL if he brings drugs around the home, or if you see him ABUSE or ASSAULT his parent(s).
DO offer the parents a "Safe Haven" when the son is violent.
The PARENT(s) can also request that the POLICE serve the Adult Child with a "NO TRESPASS ORDER" and to ESCORT the adult child OFF the parental HOME property.
Then, when the Adult Child Returns.. CALL the police EACH and EVERY TIME.
Sad to say .. but the PARENTS need to get a BACKBONE and CALL the police on the Adult Child and LET him reap the consequences of the Adult child's VIOLENCE and ABUSE .. which is to be homeless or in JAIL for a very long time.
2007-03-29 20:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If any family needs help it's this one. One or both of the parents needs to go to a counselor pronto. They need to find out what their options are and they need to do the best thing they can for their son. He is clearly in severe mental distress.
They also need to protect themselves from the son because he is dangerous. If there is anyway that they can have him committed to an institution or a behavioral ward of a hospital then they should do it. He needs to be supervised and forced to get counseling and medication.
They need to take a stand because if they (especially the mother) continues to pretend that they can help this man on their own then they should be made aware that they are risking their lives--or somebody else's life.
The problem with the Police is that they cannot keep someone in custody when he hasn't done anything yet. If he murders a parent then they can lock him up but not til then.
Tell them to check with a mental health professional and find out what can be done about their son!!!
2007-03-29 20:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the son abuses the parent at any time it is illegal and the police should be called. He obviously needs help and maybe it's the only thing that will help him. He keeps doing it because the parents haven't stopped him. He needs to know that it is not acceptable and will no longer be allowed to happen. Tell your friend to call the police and if he is afraid of what the kid might do then the parents may have to get a restraining order against him. Sad but true. It might be the only thing that makes the boy have to take care of himself and turn into a real man.
2007-03-29 20:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by blakta2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This son deffinately needs to have an intervention meeting. Maybe gathering a group of personal friends and family might help in convincing him to seek professional help. And the mother is right, she is a mother and she knows her son. Something is very wrong. It could be a chemical embalance, such as bi-polar, or manic depression, or it could be ocd. Good luck.
2007-03-29 20:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is twenty-one...good lord...it sounds like he didn't get his rear-end busted enough when he was smaller.....he sounds like a real jewel...if this ill mannered **** was my son...I would stop paying for him to fail out of school...tell him to get a job and I would put a time table on when he is to leave and find another place to live.....I wouldn't put up with this crap...even if the sucker ended up killing me over it.....because it would eventually kill me anyway..either now or later..........if your friend continues to do nothing it will only lead to more heartache ,headache and every other ache there is...........I can't get over a 21 year old man acting this way....maybe the mom is right..maybe he is retarded or something...maybe your friend should have a physiatrist check him out....maybe they can medicate him into a stupor where he wont be such an ****...or if your friend is lucky he will be so far off his rocker that he can have him institutionalized........... I don't know..your friend has my condolences........
2007-03-29 20:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is that really their son? Why he acts that way to his parents? and there are maybe a reason behind this!! And try to ask him why he did that? A son never acts like that if he doesn't encounter something.. Try to bring him to a psychologist because they might help you with this because they will observe him and then they will the results.. There is no son acts like that if there's nothing wrong...
2007-03-29 20:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by rhean s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give me the address...I'll frickin' lump him. They will find him in an abandoned little refrigerator in Queens.
2007-03-29 21:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Greed...Is Good 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest father and son take counselling from a psychiatrist
2007-03-29 21:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by NQS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think, I know that if he tried that with me he'd be picking his butt up off the floor.
2007-03-29 22:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the son should slapt
2007-03-29 20:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋