uv been friends for 2 yrs,he cnt say iluvu but he cant let me go,he wish for you and says he cares so much but cant commit,what does this mean?
2007-03-29 20:24:29 · 20 answers · asked by Mikaella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it means he just wants to use u till he gets someone he likes then will drop u n forget bout u so keep moving while u can
2007-03-29 20:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by vakere2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard to answer without an age perspective, thats to say, if yall are 15, i would say, hes a goofy little boy and will grow out of that, whereas if yall are 40 it could be something quite different, I really dont have a clue to your answer, and its painfully obvious that those that have replied are pretty clueless themselves, but I offer u this thought, He himself knows the answer, so u have 1 of 2 choices, hang around til he is ready to tell you, or move on, if u 2 are young people perhaps its as simple as, he is afraid if he says it first then he "loses" in his mind, If you are older people perhaps its as complex as, he has experienced some deaths and or losses recently, and he is afraid to love because everyone and everything he loves dies. I submit to you, ask him why he cant love right now, and i think you will hear the truth.
2007-03-30 03:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In his mind by telling you he loves you he might think you will expect him to marry you.He is scared of commitment like most men are.You do no if you can't get a man to marry you within the first two years of dating then it usually doesn't happen why you ask. The first two years you are still getting to no each other and the sex is still fun and exciting .You love going out together and can't wait to get home to have sex.After two years you start to slow down and you get use to each other in and out of bed nothing new happens. You better do something quest before he tells you one day that he has been seeing someone from work or met someone at a bar or club.
2007-03-30 04:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that guy is just being a very good frnd to you. If he cant commit or cant marry or cant say I love you that means he's just not in love with you. He is keeping his options open and looking for his true love. The day he'll find that he'll dump you. Meanwahile he is just keeping his options open, so that he doesnt loose a true loveing girl, if he cant get a true love. I know guys & guls do this many times. It would be best for you, ask him straight forward to commit or leave. Also read a book "He's just not that into you". Its a good book for guls.
2007-03-30 03:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call him your friend, not your boyfriend. If he is your boyfriend of two years and can't say I love you. I love you is not a commitment to do anything but love and respect someone. It's not to much ask.
That said if he can't say he loves you then you shouldn't let him keep from being with someone who does. There is nothing wrong with being friends with this guy and your fooling around with him but you he can't say I love you, then know he is just a friend and if you find someone who want to love you then he's out of luck. Don't just be a booty call unless that's all you want to be.
He may love and just can't say it. That's is problem, don't let it keep you from being happy with or without him.
2007-03-30 03:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Mitzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your just friends i don't see why he'd say I love you. Now if you have been dating for some time and he doesn't say it then he's just using you untill he can find someone else to take him. I'm sorry if that sounds bad but thats how guys are.
2007-03-30 03:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by biggin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is waiting for you to give him a sign, because he afraid that if he failed, then maybe your relationship will be ruined.
Maybe he is not confident enough to become your boyfriend. Things will be different if you turn into couples, like more responsibilty, more care for you, more time...
Maybe he thinks that he isn't good enough for you, he thinks that you deserve a better man than him. (This happens when really really loves you. Guys do think like that.)
P/S: Don't push him, give him some time...
2007-03-30 03:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just wants to be buddies. Take it for what its worth and find a person to date. If he cant let go and cant commit let him know the error of his ways. Suggest to him that you two should see each other or move on.
Have fun and good luck
2007-03-30 03:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Loren M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but he probably doesn't love you, and is taking advantage of your friendship and that you like him, which it sounds like. He probably will disappear when he meets someone he does love.
Someone who doesn't love you is much more likely to lie and say they do (to get you in bed), than they are to lie and say they don't (unless they have major, serious emotional problems and fear of abandonment). You don't want to be with either of these people. They will hurt you eventually.
You deserve someone who really appreciates and loves you for who you are. Someone is out there!
2007-03-30 03:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, my husband didn't tell me he loved me for a whole year, and I lived with him, fed him, cleaned his house, and not to mention, raised his children (They lived with us). I finally got fed up, and left him. It didn't take long and he was saying those amazing words to me I longed to hear. When I asked him why he couldn't say it before, he told me he was afraid to, because every woman he ever said he those words to, just seemed to dissappear. Now we have been together for 10 years and going strong. He says I love you to me all the time. It was all worth it.
2007-03-30 03:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋