My girlfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. she's 19 and im 20. Our love life used to be great. Now she doesen't put out at all. Its been at least 3 months since we've done any thing. when i ask her she says " i just dont wanna do anything tonite" and she doesen't realize its been that long. i've tried everything from romantic nights out, to massages, talking and making her feel comfertable. I even tried not hinting for almost a month now. What can i do???
2007-03-29 17:59:41 · 27 answers · asked by lighting00912 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you were not getting the job done and she doesn't want to be frustrated anymore. Discuss it with her.
2007-03-29 18:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be worse, that is if you were married and having the same problem! Face it, you have used each other up. It sounds pretty much like she has found interest in someone else! When women lose interest in you, they usually already have someone else in mind, especially at 20 yrs. old! Been there, done that! If you start begging her for sex, you will only get frustrated, and pissed off, and start "wandering" off!
Relationships are about more than sex, but perhaps that was all she felt you wanted, and offered nothing else! Search yourself! Between the ages of 18 and 22, couples tend to grow apart, because they find interest in different things and different people. Sometimes (usually years later), they remember the good old days of where you are now, and think of why they left each other. Try to learn something about your present situation so that it won't effect your next one! If she wants to part ways, don't fight it. You both may be due for new direction, and new vitality in your lives. If she wants to stay, then make her figure out and tell you what her real problem is. Good luck!
2007-03-30 11:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 14:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something up there. 3 months is quite awhile. Unfortunately, there's probably something going on with her emotionally because for most women, sex is an immensely emotionally experience (as well as an awesome physical one). The romantic nights and massages would definitely do it for me. You've been together for 3 years, so I'm assuming that you love each other. Talk to her- if she truly loves you, she'll tell you what's going on. Please be understanding. I'm sure she has a reason for the sex dry spell. Honestly, it sounds like you're doing everything right- just get her to talk. Good luck! :)
2007-03-29 18:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Matty Lynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woman typically equate sex with romance and relationships. We want to feel loved. It sounds like you are trying the right steps as far as romance goes, have you tried talking to her? She may feel confused about the relationship, hurt by something you did, or trying to decide what she really wants from the relationship. Talk to her about her feelings kindly, tell her if you are worried about her. Just let her talk and talk and don't make suggestions or brush off her feelings. Everyone says the key to a healthy relationship is communication and that's so true. Good luck to you.
2007-03-29 18:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit her down and talk to her honey - maybe she's feeling like sex is all that matters to you (in other words, anything nice you do for her has a single goal) or maybe the relationship is at a crossroads. Either way, with such a long standing investement, she at least owes you honesty.
Time to talk. Seriously.
Good luck - it's a tough call.
2007-03-29 18:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by belmyst 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time for a divorce.. oh btw, u aren't married yet. congrats, now u can just tell her that u have needs and u really need sex right now. u need to go out and find a new girl friend that will have sex with u and u can satisfy each other's sexual urges. problem solved. :D just do what makes u happiest because u only get 1 chance at life. enjoy while it last.
2007-03-29 18:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your situation.
It could be alot..she could have alot on her mind with work or school or family. Don't blame yourself. When people hit the 2-3 year mark in their relationships it sort of hits a plateau and it tests your relationship. Unfortunately, it's usually sexually. So really..i doubt it's you. You should confront her about it...let her know you understand and see if you can coax her into talking to you.
2007-03-29 18:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by iHEARTPiCKLES 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is no longer interested in you? Have a serious discussion why she refuses to date or cuddle with you. Maybe shes bored after 3 years and wants a different boyfriend.
2007-03-29 18:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit her down and just straight up ask her if something is wrong. Find out what is going on, maybe something is wrong and she is afraid to tell you, that is about all you can do is talk to her about it and dont beat around the bush about it. wish you the best of luck
2007-03-29 18:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by key to your answer 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could always just ask her. Perhaps phrase it a little differently. I suggest trying to get into her head, and if she's still like "whatev, not tonight" (and it's been that long) tell her that it is threatening the relationship.
2007-03-29 18:05:21 · answer #11 · answered by hothippierocker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋